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Dear Friends, As was discussed many times in the past, often people who are addicted to the most unhealthy and lowest behaviors, actually have very high and special souls. This generation especially, is one in which the greatest light shines forth from deepest darkness. O...

The first thing that we absolutely must know is:Our addiction does not come from a "higher than average" sex drive.Our need for sex and lust stems from a deeper need.When we are tempted to act out, we must understand that this is a reflection and a revelation of what is g...

When I first came to GYE a few months back, I saw that I was dealing with an internet addiction in general. I had to break away not only from the nature of my internet use, but also the amount of time I'd spend on the internet. This for me was terribly hard in the beginni...

I was clean for over nine months through this website, through therapy, and by joining an SA group. Unfortunately, I had a fall a few days days ago and I decided to reconnect here on the forum with this holy community. You can imagine how depressed I was when I fell. But ...

Today is 100 days clean for me, and I would like to try and describe how I got to this point, and how I think I have changed over the past 3 months. I am a thirty something professional living in a large North American city. I attended several yeshivos over the years and ...

A newborn baby is completely dependent on his mother, and from her side, the mother is completely devoted to it, fulfilling all its physical and emotional needs. Through the complete lack of control that the baby feels, it learns to trust its mother. And through her, it f...

There's only one way to go, and that's up! We gotta hang in there and learn as much as possible from this website on how maintain our sobriety. When I feel my Yetzer Hara coming at me, what helps me out a lot in dealing with it, is to tell him that he is more powerfull th...

The "Three-Second Rule:" If you see something inappropriate, implement the "three-second rule." Doing so involves three steps: alert, avert, and affirm. The first step is to realize that you're seeing something inappropriate. That's the "alert" stage, and it may take a se...

I've been slipping a lot lately and I felt like a total failure. This past Shabbos, the last thing I felt was holy. Then out of the blue I picked up the sefer 'The garden of Emunah' by Rav Arush and I opened it to a random page. And this is what I read as soon as I opened...

One of the Rabbeim in my yeshiva way back when, in a mussar shmuz, mentioned two strategies against the Yetzer Hara: 1) He said when faced with a Yetzer Hara that looks overwhelming that you are afraid to even start the battle, it helps to "chop the Yetzer Hara into bite...

I fell today, but I'm actually happy that I fell! I didn't feel the slightest bit guilty or angry at all! I admitted, regretted, and resolved to do better, shortly after my fall. Then I immersed in the mikvah, said tikkun haklali, and kept learning Torah all day. I don't ...

To: YOU Date: TODAY From: GOD Subject: YOURSELF Reference: LIFE This is God. Today I will be handling All of your problems for you. I do Not need your help. So have a nice day. P.S. And, remember... if life delivers a situation to you that you cannot handle, do Not attem...

I have wasted much time in the past obsessing about my feelings and mood swings. Depression and/or anxiety lead me to seek comfort and oblivion in my favorite "medicine". Of course this "medicine" (P and MB) is the sickness itself. It merely leads to a new round of bad ...

I am 20 years old and a good boy, overall. I discovered pornography and masturbation at about age 13 or so. I got very into both of those things and etched those neuron pathways in good and deep, turning it into an addiction. I've tried to stop countless times, but just c...

Many of us turn to our addiction because we are feeling angry, sad or afraid of something. Recently, I was very angry about something and I tried this hypnosis MP3. I followed all of the instructions, and just let the nice man's voice guide me. After I "woke up" from the ...

Guided meditation works wonders. It's a form of hypnosis, I think. Some people use this addiction as their way to medicate themselves when they are anxious, angry, bored, etc. Some people use alcohol, work, food, etc. But the calm peace, learning to live in the moment, is...

Rabbi Aryeh Sufrin, the founder of Drugsline, received a prestigious honor from Queen Elizabeth II in recognition of his groundbreaking work tackling substance and alcohol abuse. Lubavitch.com spoke with him about his organization's achievements. One of the questions they...

Eye.nonymous Wrote: I had this very wise roommate in Yeshiva. After watching my long and futile struggle to get up in time for minyan he pointed out, "the secret to getting up in time is to go to bed on time." Sometimes we're just fighting the yetzer hara at the wrong en...