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I am only human, so I'm expecting that someday I may slip too far and fall - although I don't want to. I BUT I'M NOT AFRAID OF THAT. Because the moments of weakness DON'T DEFINE ME. I AM THE GOOD GUY who's trying. It's the GOOD minutes, hours, and days that DEFINE ME, not...

Imagine if you live near Victoria Falls in Africa, would you be interested in looking at a two inch high waterfall? It would not be hard to look away from that. The physical beauty of woman is just a two inch waterfall compared to the beauty of the soul. Why would we want...

I've partnered up with someone who I identified on the forum as someone I know in real life, and he's been a great help. Being able to talk openly about my issues with someone who really knows what it's like and will not judge me, is a great thing. I find that I'm consist...

Just sometimes, but more frequently lately, the pain, loneliness and restlessness become overbearing, and it is then that I desire to leave this empty world of "hevel varik", and be next to the kisei hakavod. GYE Responds: Your desire to be next to the Kisei Hakavod is y...

"JIP", as he is known for short, has had a very painful life. It started when he was molested at the age of nine. See his painful story on this page. Here is what "JIP" wrote when he reached 90 days clean: 90 days! I owe a thank you to everyone for helping me get here, b...

Encouraging people to put in filters and warning them of the dangers of the internet is good, but these are just "patches". The real prevention is something else entirely. After all, even with filters, our kids (and ourselves) can still buy an unlimited internet access ce...

When the forum was down, "Commando" continued posting his thoughts on his PC. Once it came back up he shared this with us: It's been three nights already since the GYE forum has mysteriously vanished. When will it be resurrected? How many people are feeling the loss? It's...

I had been able to stop Mast**ing about 5 years ago. I do not remember when, but I think about a year and a half after stopping, I had a fall. Now here I was on this great streak, and BAM! My first thought was, "how can I face this and keep this up? Will I be able to go...

When I first realized that I had pornography addiction about 3 years ago, I struggled for about a little over a year to overcome it on my own. I was very poor and couldn't afford the treatment, neither was I ready to admit to another human being the nature of my problem. ...

When I am in the midst of a battle, I need simple stuff to humble me and put me back on-track. Try cleaning your toilet (really), or if you're outside, pick up some garbage off the street.If your Yetzer Hara does not have a strong grip on you (yet), try changing your thou...

Sometimes a fall can lead to freefall. Freefall is worse than falling. It's falling fast, out of control. Like falling 3 nights in a row after a long upwards climb. Every fighter needs to learn how to fall. Over the years I learned how to prevent a freefall, and here are ...

The fear of falling in the future often inhibits us from trying our best. But it occurred to me that the only reason I might fall is if I allow myself to fall. Nobody else will cause me to fall, nobody else can prove my inner desires futile, except for me. So I feel that...

I had to speak to my teenage boys recently about the dealing with the challenges of being a teenager. What I shared with them I have tried to take to heart in my own life. It has helped shed clarity on my own perspective and I wanted to share it with the group. What I exp...

"StrugglingYid" writes: Doing a big Teshuva might be great -- but when you love someone, it is not only about the big things, but in how you do the small things. Not that I am knocking the big things, they are important, but if you want to really show someone you love th...

I took part in Candeo recovery program when I started early on in my recovery. In and of itself, it was not enough to give me a long term sobriety, because I did not make God the number one authority in my recovery. Nevertheless, the more I stick around 12 step groups, I ...

"TrueRatzon" wrote: I can sum up a few things that I have learned recently in this struggle: 1) A person should never despair and feel that his past aveiros will hinder his opportunity to come back to Hashem. Hashem wants every person to do teshuvah no matter how many tim...

When it comes to Shemiras Ainayim outside in the street, we have to realize that EVEN WHEN WE LOOK, the pretty girl is gone in a moment, AND WHAT DID WE GAIN? NOTHING!!! Adarabah, what we LOST was tremendous, cuz we wired our brain at that moment, we conditioned ourselves...

I was able to "break free" during Pesach - thank G-d. I installed a filter and made the messages of Chizuk my homepage. I am forcing myself to read ten Chizuk messages before going on to check email, or what ever else I planned to do online. It has helped very much.