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This post is for those who are thinking about falling. It will explain how to do a full, complete, genuine fall. Now make sure you read all the directions before you have your fall. Don't cut corners! The first thing to do, is to notify those in your life that are going t...

It's all about the struggle my friends. My life has had so many times where I knew that everything was hopeless. I knew that I was hopeless.... I saw absolutely no way out... Nothing... I was totally totally stuck..... But here is the thing:No matter What, Where, How or W...

We got an e-mail a few days ago: Hi, I'm almost 16. Do you know of any filters I can put on my mom's computer that she won't know about? The very next day someone sent us an e-mail: I am using a great product called PC Pandora. It works very good. It costs $70 for 2 lice...

In honor of GYE's B-day and the special segulah for renewal on this day, let us all try to renew our commitment to guarding our eyes. Here's one idea of a Kabbala that can be very helpful in this regard: "I am mikabel upon myself until after Tisha Be'av, to donate $2 to G...

I made a commitment that if I wanted to look at shmutz online I would first do one of 4 things, (1) talk through how I'm feeling with my wife, (2) go for a 30 min run or exercise, or (3) learn Torah for 30 min, or (4) read about the holocaust for 30 min. Then I made a shv...

We all recognize those feelings of boredom, apathy and lethargy that often lead to browsing places we shouldn't, and which often leads to falls... B"H most guys on GYE have blocked YouTube with their filters, but where do we go when those feelings start to set in and we'r...

I have a NEW trick. It doesn't work ALL the time, but at least it's something. Triggers make us want to do something, right? So, every time I'm triggered, I gently shift the desire from lust to learning a Mishna from the Mishnayos that lies on my desk. For that moment, it...

We thought we had Yiras Shamayim, but for some reason when we get a lust attack the Yiras Shamayim doesn't seem to work very well. But don't feel bad. It doesn't mean you don't have any Yiras Shamayim. When Rav Yochanan Ben Zakai blessed his students before he died he sai...

Someone posted on the forum: A couple of months ago, before I became an addict, I used to work out a lot. As soon as I stopped that and started junk food, I fell.   Another poster replies: I think that there is a lot of truth and wisdom in this observation of yours, and ...

It is clear from various Sefarim and in various places in Chazal that we didn't always have free will in the past.. To quote Rav Shlomo Wolbe, [zt"l]: The great [Jewish] philosophers established bechira as the cornerstone for the whole Torah.... But from this resulted a c...

Rav Wolbe Ztz"l, one of the foremost baalei mussar of our times, in his Sefer "Psychiatry and Religion" (Pg. 82) suggests cultivating a combination of religious and social fulfillment to help our youth beat this big challenge. He writes: The difficult phase of adolescence...

I once read an amazing few words from the Lubavitcher Rebbe in a letter to someone who was struggling with emotional stress: "Being involved with Torah will of course help your mind from these distracting thoughts. By 'being involved (osek) b'Torah, I don't necessarily me...

Someone wrote: I feel so low. I hate myself and I don't trust that Hashem loves me. GYE Responds: A Tzadik once said that Hashem loves the biggest Rasha more than we love the biggest Tzadik... The pasuk says "Hashem Tzilcha - Hashem is your shadow". He reacts to us the w...

Often the addiction is not our main problem, but rather a symptom of an underlying problem. If we are depressed, anxious or stressed, then as addicts, we will escape to our "drug of choice" - which in our case happens to be lust.Physical activity and exercise can be very ...

Chazal say that all your sexual drives and intimacy should be channeled towards your wife, which means that these desires and intimacy were created to bring a husband and wife to the ultimate connection. Throughout the day, you can practice thinking about your wife. Think...

Always remember to stay happy! The Yetzer Hara's biggest tool is depression and sadness. Working on one's self is not a "sad" and "confining" thing, but rather it should bring us tremendous joy that we have the merit to sacrifice our desires for the creator of the entire...

Lust addicts have a disease called "love sickness". They are in love with every good-looking person of the opposite gender that they see. And no matter what they do to convince themselves of how empty and silly it is, it still plagues them. Their heads are often filled wi...

Q. I've tried quitting porn and masturbation before, but a funny thing happened - I got irritable and snappy toward my partner and surroundings. I then relapsed back into viewing porn and masturbation, because I didn't think becoming a nervous wreck was worth it. A. ...