The Library

Rabbi Shmuel Gluck (from Areivim - Monsey) had a great article this past Shabbos titled "Sustaining Our Growth". The subject matter deals with the proper attitude to have when starting/sustaining positive life changes. It's a very interesting take on how the Yetzer Hora d...

It's been about a year on GYE, and I thought this would be a good time to update what went on the past year. My road to recovery was not as great as expected, with several ups and downs during the year. One particular area which captured me this past year, was using my bl...

Click here to listen to a 10 minute recording explaining the TaPHSiC method and how it works. There are two main stumbling blocks that cause an addict to relapse: 1) Compulsiveness: When under an attack of lust, we feel we need it NOW – and the lust makes us act compulsiv...

I have been grappling with a problem. My Filter had a loophole which when manipulated, allowed real nasty images to pass through. I was Mekabel a while back to contact the filter Gabai and have the problem fixed... I tried a few times but kept on missing him. Lately, I co...

Although strengthening our Emunah will often not be enough to break a strong lust-attack or an addiction on its own (see the story of Rav Amram Chassid, Rabbi Akiva and Rabbi Meir in Kedushin 80-81), however, a strong Emunah can help push us to take the necessary steps in...

Do you have a bad habit you'd like to overcome? If so, you are not alone. Millions of people want to quit smoking, stop eating junk food, or give up their sedentary lifestyle. But attacking the problem head-on may not be the answer. The pine oak tree (quercus palustris fo...

Yosef Hatzadik writes: They say that hindsight has 20/20 vision. When feeling weak, remember how you felt after you followed the Yetzer's advice last time. Even more so, remember how good you felt when YOU DID NOT DO AS THE YETZER HORA WANTS!!!! Which is better? Which d...

1. Make sure to turn off "Instant Search" in Google Search, so you don't get unwanted images popping up as you type in words to search for. 2. It may be of interest to some that Safari has the ability to block images. Under the menu on top of the page item "Develop", ther...

Ok. It does a few things. First and strangest, I owe something to the person I am lusting after because lusting is always an act of "taking". I am using their image for selfish ends. (And saying that "They are obviously begging for it cuz look at how they are dressed!" is...

It's here! Cell Phone Monitoring from SpectorSoft is now available, eBlaster Mobile can now be used on your BlackBerry Smartphone. Click here to purchase. If you would like to get a filter to block internet access on the Blackberry altogether,here is a solution: 1) Call V...

I came across an interesting Gemora in Horiyos, for those learning the daf. The Gemara relates how Klal Yisroel brought 12 korbanos for sinning with Avoda Zara (Par Healam Davar). The Gemara asks, "According to R' Yehuda who holds that each shevet requires their own korba...

Moshe wrote on the forum: I feel like I'm hopeless. I've tried almost everything, but I am locked in a vicious cycle of good, bad and ugly days. Every time a few good days pass, I get the good feeling and forget about my effort of recovery, even though I know it won't las...

Ovadia wrote: I have had K9 installed on my computer for a while and it has really done a good job, but I found that even after checking off the various categories I could still "dig up" some inappropriate pictures through Google image search, even though the site itself ...

Lately I have been phoning/txting/emailing/chatting with other chevra. The Yetzer Horah thrives on isolation. He loves depression. I love shmoozing. I love connection. By communicating with others, I am 'connecting' to them, thereby getting my craving for 'emotional fulfi...

Someone writes on the forum: Day 52, no masturbation... but the house is in a total state of chaos. My child is behaving badly, my wife is in a crisis unable to cope, husband (me) trying to intervene, wife undermining me at all times and then (of course) screaming at me a...

I know that Hashem will help me with this. I know that it's an illusion. I know that the void I feel inside, is all part of the illusion and part of the trap, which the Yetzer hara uses to entice us. Like R' Nachman's parable of the man in the market with his closed hand/...

An expert on technology addictions, spoke about technology and parental awareness at a community gathering Sunday night to a crowd of well over fifteen-hundred attendees. Rabbi Yechezkel Zweig, who introduced the main speaker, called the evening an “educational opportunit...

At first glance, all these struggles seem to equal the problem itself. Stop acting-out, goes the theory, and life will be cured. And the sad truth is that... as difficult as this may seem to many of us... the real truth is even trickier.I think whatever is making us want,...