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When we see a beautiful woman, we can turn it into something positive by appreciating the beauty of Hashem. This is the only long-term solution which will avoid depression or other problems. Hashem is the source of all beauty, and we can connect with that beauty both in t...

Today one of the great warriors on our forum had a fall after about 70 days clean. He felt he had to fall because the withdrawal was causing him to feel as if he was "on the edge of a big emotional cliff" and he claimed that he felt "the edge of his sanity coming into ran...

Hi, my name is "Tried123" and I am really messed up... I met with a therapist at age 14 but he couldn't help me...I met with another therapist at age 15; he couldn't either help me...I then met with another therapist who couldn't help me... I was advised to go for medicat...

I recently read an article in some frum newspaper story, and it's helping me a lot... This guy described himself as the irritable type. Some joker would come up in shul and open the window he had just closed. (How dare he!) Some idiot would drive too fast, or too slow, or...

I sit at the computer all day ... and my job requires me to constantly be searching. Some other things I've found help me stay clean when I need to be at the computer: 1. Make sure you are drinking WATER! 2. Eliminate colas, coffee, cakes, cookies, and other high stimulan...

"Tiredoffalling" writes: So I finally cut off internet access from my phone. I am extremely relieved that I no longer have to worry about looking at p**n and I can now focus on really living my life in a pure way. On the other hand, I am very afraid of the withdrawal pro...

I was finishing a project for a client who needed it ASAP, the file was finished at 10 pm and ready to turn into a PDF. Then WAMMO, the file and all it's backups were corrupted and couldn't be opened. I wanted to YELL AND SCREAM AND CRY at the same time. My very smart wif...

We were told by a couple of Rabbonim that we should contact your organization. We are an herbal company called Nonichai and we have developed herbal natural products that may be of interest to your cause. They have no negative side effects, no after effects, no withdrawal...

'Moshe843' wrote on the forum for the first time: I respect anyone with the strength and courage to overcome their evil inclination but sadly, I really don't think I care enough. But it bothers me that I don't care... I'm so bogged down by years of disillusionment and cyn...

I'm following a program on RecoveryNation.com. It has workshops that you do every day, and it comes IN CONJUNCTION with a 12 step group or any other recovery program. I think it can help anyone trying to get better. For example, after my last fall, this program suggested ...

Going to a Mikva every day is a very strong protection against sexual sin and desire. If this is too difficult for you, make sure to go at least when you fall. Imagine this. If the waters of the Mikva can make a non-Jew (who wants to convert) into a Jew, imagine what they...

Someone wrote on the forum: I hope I can stop the addiction and become a good Jew! Dov Responds: First of all, you already are a "good Jew". Perfect - no... but good - surely. Hashem certainly loves us even though you and I have weaknesses and may make terrible mistakes ...

This past Shabbos afternoon I went out for a nice walk with my wife and children, even though my wife offered to take them by herself and let me rest. Also, I joked around with my kids to put them to bed instead of just ordering them to go to sleep. I actually have a goo...

I have started implementing a practical tip that is helping me. I actually got this tip from the handbook (a pretty useful little booklet). I have begun pinching myself. I know it sounds pretty dumb and ridiculous, but frankly I don't really care, as long as it works. So ...

An addiction, by definition, is something that controls us. We can not ever dream of controlling it. We are fooling ourselves if we think we can win a battle against it. If a big bully comes toward me, a guy I know is too big for me, too strong, I'll NEVER overpower this ...

The Yetzer Hara plays awful tricks on us. He tells us: YOU CAN'T STOP, YOU'RE UNDER MY CONTROL, YOU'RE ALL MINE! Then, right after we act out, he turns around and gets us to believe: IT'S ALL MY FAULT! IT'S ALL MY FAULT! IT'S ALL MY FAULT! See the contradiction? We'd n...

When we feel Tension/stress/anxiety/whatever you wana call it, the mind automatically searches for comfort... We automatically reach for our good (read: bad) old comforter... Thing is, it never delivers on it's promises... It may or may not sooth us for a few minutes, but...

Here is what caused my recent fall after 77 amazing days clean: Sometimes when I work, I listen to non-Jewish music (I know, that is just one more hypocrisy in my life, I prepare Torah classes while listening to non-Jewish music. Welcome to my private little island of hyp...