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Here is some info on the iPhone: How to Disable Safari The iPhone OS is equipped with a "Restrictions" feature which allows you to password protect certain applications. Go to Settings -> General -> Restrictions and you can create a password for Safari. You can the...

Making Nedarim (vows) can be a very powerful tool in this struggle, and Chazal indeed encourage Nedarim for these type of tests. However, vows must be made very carefully and only for short periods of time (at first) to assure that they can be kept under all circumstance...

When struggling with this issue, most people think they are just dealing with a much larger than usual Yetzer Hara, or simply a lack of self-control. It is neither of these. It is vital to understand that this is an addiction. An addiction is a spiritual and psychological...

By Naomi Wolf in The Times, London   Andrea Dworkin, the anti-porn activist, rose to fame in the 1980s arguing that if we did not limit pornography most men would objectify women more intensively and treat them less as people than as porn stars. The floodgates would open;...

Suppose I were to call one of you on the phone and say the following:Hi, here’s what needs to be done today:First wash my car – scrub it well and rinse thoroughly.Next, my shoes need a perfect shine – make sure to buff them evenly.Third, my laundry needs to be done today....

There are three different mind-frames that one can use when he is faced with a strong challenge in Shmiras Ha'ainayim or Shmiras Ha'bris . Each person can choose the one that works best for him. There also may be times when one way will work better for you than the other ...

Sometimes you are feeling low, depressed and very vulnerable. In such a state the Yetzer Hara tells you that there's no use trying to fight. But realize one thing. The depression you feel will not go away by giving in, it will only get worse. The more you give in, the mor...

The middah of humility is one of the most powerful tools in dealing with sexual desire and obsession. When you are feeling weak, vulnerable and needy, and everything inside you in craving to just give in, one of the best ways to overcome the test is to just let go and say...

Rav Nachman says, the name of the Yetzer Hara in our generation is "Dimyon" - "imagination". This is very deep. That's truly all the Yetzer Hara is, a big bubble of "imaginary" pleasure that just pops in your face! Think about it. Sexuality is really 97% desire and only 3...

The Yetzer Hara is all air, and by using your head, you can conquer him without a major battle in your heart. However, this is only true if you guard your eyes carefully. Once the eyes start to see, the heart starts to lust, and the battle switches over from being in the ...

There is nothing as powerful as prayer to help a person break free and overcome the greatest tests. Make a note of pesukim in Tehilim that you feel relate to your situation. Compile a list, print them out and save them in your wallet to read over to Hashem, with a broken ...

Never underestimate the value of each and every time you say no to yourself. Sometimes a person is feeling weak and says to themselves, "what's the difference if I look now at something that I know I shouldn't - I'm anyway not feeling strong now". You must believe in the ...

This is an amazing tip that really works to get you started, if you are determined to learn how to guard your eyes: Commit (for a few weeks or a period of time), to pinch yourself -- enough to make it hurt -- every time you gaze improperly at something that you know you s...

Taken from the forum at www.jewishsexuality.com/ Gary Writes: "I made it thru the whole week. I have been following the 12 Torah Steps for almost 2 months. I confessed to my Rabbi and he has an encouraging word each morning after Sharcharis. I try doing a mikvah a day, ...

I can't believe I'm quoting from an Islamic Forum. Nonetheless, I think these excerpt from a forum discussion have some educational value for us. It makes us feel all the more responsibility in these areas, for if even these people, who are called "Am Hadomeh Lachamor" ar...

The Yetzer Hara's biggest tool in getting people to sin, is depression. One way to always remain happy is to remember that everything we go through in life - including all of the "unfulfilled" desires that we think we need and all the suffering that we endure, it is all o...

Do not EVER let the Yetzer Hara make you sad or dejected if you stumble. This sadness can be worse than the sin itself. The Yetzer Hara is hoping to get you depressed and take you away from Hashem and from yourself. We must always serve Hashem be'simcha. This is one of th...

Let this prayer always be on your lips, especially when feeling weak: "Please G-d, I want to love You, not women, not flesh and blood. For You are the true and infinite source of all beauty, all love and all desire". And as you say this prayer, take all the love and pas...