The Library

Follow this link to a Google Drive with Holocaust documentaries.

Triggers: The Why Matters In order how to understand how triggers work and how to avoid them, the larger question of the why a person is triggered must be addressed. A preoccupation with pornography might begin as just that--a preoccupation/bad habit--but it can easily mo...

Somewhere in our past life, we may have picked up the idea that it's not all right to ask for help, that asking for help would be a sign of weakness. Recovery calls for some basic changes in our thinking, and when we feel vulnerable is the best time to reach out and ask ...

Keeping my eyes and my thoughts away from even mildly pornographic or destructive things is something I believe is important and will make me a happier person. I want to be thinking about how to reach my dreams, how to be a better husband, how to do something awesome,...

"Sexual addicts need to remember the decades of struggle that alcoholics had to go through in order to earn public acceptance of their illness." ~ Patrick Carnes Sex is a normal, healthy urge. But for the sex addict, it becomes perverted into a cop...

I always wished I could save that horrible, sickening feeling of shame and regret after the aveirah in a container, and then I could open it the next time I am thinking about acting out, and it would remind me and wake me up like a cold shower and surely prevent me from...

ADDITIONAL TOOLS FOR RECOVERYIMPROVE RELATION WITH SELFEMERGENCY TOOLS 1. Short prayer, "I'm powerless, please G-d help me!"2. Move somewhere else. (Get away from the trigger!)3. Pick up litter.4. Sing (or hum) a favorite tune. Or listen to music.5. Call someone from the ...

Dear GYE, I am the vice president of a new organization called Refuat HaNefesh. This organization is dedicated to raising awareness about mental health concerns within the Orthodox community as well as providing on-line support and educational resources to people who su...

The Lies The Truths If no one sees me, no one loves me. Porn gives me the feeling of being loved I am seen. I am worthy of love. When I am alone, I can hold on to love. I deserve this, I do some much, I deserve a break I deserve good self-care. My needs...

Porn is everywhere in our culture and is increasingly socially acceptable and even defended. You’ve been to the mall (bookstore, movie theater, etc.); you know that sex is largely seen as no big deal. What you may be wondering is why it matters. So what if porn is every...

A favorite saying in sports is, "It isn't losing to get knocked down. Losing is staying down." In life, as in sports, that idea makes great sense. Like "Let go and let God," or "Let it begin with me," it is a saying that reminds us of an important underlying principle. In...

The number one guideline for using technology today is filters. There is no heter to have any device without a very good filter which blocks all מראות אסורות and anything that a person shouldn’t see. This applies no matter the age, and no matter what kind of device it is ...

The Mishna says, "Hevey mechasheiv hefseida neged scharah." Why mechasheiv? Because the yetzer hara doesn't want us to make a cheshbon. It wants us to be filled with a ruach shtus and close our eyes and go with the inertia of doing an aveira. If you think about it in adv...

We all know the sick feeling of regret we all feel after the sin has been committed, and it hurts and makes us feel really depressed and sick, especially, immediately afterward. Then, as time causes us to forget, the feeling goes away, and the sin happens over and over ...

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My psychiatrist prescribed me a not-so-well-known medication called "Nalmefene" for lust cravings (in Israel, the brand name is Selincro). You take it on an as-needed basis, as many times as you need it, and it lasts for 18 hours a pill. I found that it cut my lust cravin...