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Question from member "wilnevergiveup": I am a serious avreich learning full time, I learn mussar regularly and constantly strengthen myself with various incentives. I can then usually keep myself clean for 2-3 weeks, then this or that and I am back to square one. I will t...

I struggle with lust as far back as I can remember. I’m married now and I have a loving wife with beautiful children b”h. My wife knows about my struggles, but not the extent. I just started my journey on GYE and I’m a few days clean. However it was still a struggle for ...

Question: I need to air out and relax from work, family, etc. How can I deal with stress? I'm looking for healthy ideas and (non-addictive) outlets... Reply: In general, the best way to deal with stress is to ask ourselves at every given moment "What would Hashem want ...

The Maharal (Chidushei Agados Bava Metzia 33.) teaches that when a person is afraid of poverty, he will become poor. The Maharal explains,"By being afraid of poverty, a person is subjugating himself to poverty, and this causes the poverty to rule over him." The Maharal pr...

Having dealt with thousands of people who struggle with lust at all levels on GuardYourEyes, I would like to share with you what I have come to believe is the most powerful attitude to overcoming the Yetzer Hara at all levels of this struggle (and also perhaps the greates...

We all know that empty pleasure seeking throws us into isolation, distances us from our loved ones (and Hashem), and sucks all the joy out of our lives. But with all this time on our hands, what can we do to ensure that we don’t get "infected"? Here are a few tips to hel...

Click here to listen to a short audio (4 min), describing the background to this challenge. It all started in the garden of Eden thousands of years ago, as it says: "And she SAW that the tree was good to eat and that it was DESIRABLE TO THE EYES..." As the final generati...

Before I share what works for me, I want to thank this wonderful organization from the bottom of my heart for the amazing things it has accomplished.  Without the GYE community, I would be lost as I try to navigate this increasingly insane world.

For many years I struggled with being me. I couldn't deal with my life, so I used a number of unhealthy coping mechanisms and numbing/escapism type behaviors. I was in a constant spiral where I'd crash, feel unworthy, despair and be utterly hopeless, feel like there was no point living.

I am currently over 7 months clean and still have depression (for which I take medicine), and I get into the escape mode a lot (I surf the news or just try to numb my existence). I'm feeling lost, what am I missing?

Today is the 19th of Kislev, the yahrzeit of the Maggid of Mezritch. I was learning his sefer and he was talking about fearing Hashem and loving Hashem.

I heard someone mention that he would be embarrassed for anyone to find out about his history even if he would be clean for many years. This attitude makes one refrain from joining live groups and in turn, can push off the real recovery. How can we overcome this feeling of embarrassment?

I ask my Higher Power to help me realize what He is trying to teach me through these challenges and what I need to correct in my thoughts or actions as a result

I run a business entirely online, and yet I don't own a smartphone or have internet access at home. If anyone would like to discuss how it's possible to remove the constant connectivity--which basically increases the chances of falling--and still manage to run a business ...

Rigzu - get mad at your Yetzer. If that doesn't work, then fix your mind on - V’al techta’u - I will not sin, no matter what. Imru bilvavchem al mishkavchem - make a physical Siman or barrier on your bed, and then - Vedomu - lie stone-still, don't move, even to the point ...

This can be called a sobriety statement or a prayer, whatever works for you: "God (or Higher Power) I am powerless over this addiction and I surrender it to You. I turn my life and will over to Your care Please help me, I'm in Your hands." --------------------------------...

This article is reprinted from Fortify.com: Copyright Disclaimer Addiction teaches us to rationalize and justify. Over time we get really good at making excuses for ourselves to act out and we keep buying into our own lies. There is no end to what a porn addict can come u...

Most Keri occurs as a result of impure thoughts that pass through the mind throughout the day. These strengthen the animalistic soul. When a person goes to sleep certain parts of his soul leave him. These parts of the soul are associated with the conscious mind, with thei...