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Dear Neshama, you've come to the right place! As much as reading your story was painful, it also made me smile because it is SO typical. Everyone who turns to us for help at first, thinks (and I quote your words below): - "I feel like I don't have an ounce o...

I just printed out and started reading the Attitude Handbook. Amazing! I'm very impressed; a shame I didn't get around to reading it earlier. I just saw something that is written that inspired me: Hashem does not desire result...

When all is going smoothly, we don't feel as much of a need to speak to Hashem and request His help. Sorta like a wealthy person rarely feels the need to ask Hashem to give him parnassa as often as a poor person does. But the reality is, that BOTH are just as dependant on...

I just had a moment of weakness; a few minutes of teiva (desire for lust) that I have not properly had in quite a while. Boruch Hashem I was successful, despite lowering my guard for a few minutes. The alarm bells were ringing and many thoughts and memories ove...

'Hoping' asked recently on the forum: I have to keep remembering that Hashem is in charge and that I need Him to remove my Yetzer Hara for Lust. It should be easy for me to realize how I am helpless without Him, yet I still spend much of my day acting like I ...

To avoid possible misunderstandings: I'm not angry at anyone here. No-one wronged me. GYE is only good - and probably the most positive thing in my life right now. I'm very appreciative to GYE and all of its members for all their words of encouragement tha...

Shabbos was amazing. Baruch Hashem, not many struggles with lust except for a few inappropriately dressed - so called - "tznius" women. When I would spot them in the distance, my head went down and I kept thinking, "Their mode of dress is disgusting. I will no...

As soon as you get a bit too cocky and think "Hey, I'm doing it!", Hashem gives you a fatherly pat on the back with a serious nisayon and says, "Chill". That's what happened to me today... I was doing great with the few errands I had to run, in a semi crow...

I read the translation of "The first day of the of the rest of my life" and it is absolutely beautiful. The ideas of how the Yetzer Hara is fueled by frustration, lack, and by trying to reach the stars in a single leap... spoke to me deeply. I also re...

Dear Friends, As was discussed many times in the past, often people who are addicted to the most unhealthy and lowest behaviors, actually have very high and special souls. This generation especially, is one in which the greatest light shines forth from deepest darkness. O...

The first thing that we absolutely must know is:Our addiction does not come from a "higher than average" sex drive.Our need for sex and lust stems from a deeper need.When we are tempted to act out, we must understand that this is a reflection and a revelation of what is g...

A newborn baby is completely dependent on his mother, and from her side, the mother is completely devoted to it, fulfilling all its physical and emotional needs. Through the complete lack of control that the baby feels, it learns to trust its mother. And through her, it f...

There's only one way to go, and that's up! We gotta hang in there and learn as much as possible from this website on how maintain our sobriety. When I feel my Yetzer Hara coming at me, what helps me out a lot in dealing with it, is to tell him that he is more powerfull th...

I've been slipping a lot lately and I felt like a total failure. This past Shabbos, the last thing I felt was holy. Then out of the blue I picked up the sefer 'The garden of Emunah' by Rav Arush and I opened it to a random page. And this is what I read as soon as I opened...

I fell today, but I'm actually happy that I fell! I didn't feel the slightest bit guilty or angry at all! I admitted, regretted, and resolved to do better, shortly after my fall. Then I immersed in the mikvah, said tikkun haklali, and kept learning Torah all day. I don't ...

To: YOU Date: TODAY From: GOD Subject: YOURSELF Reference: LIFE This is God. Today I will be handling All of your problems for you. I do Not need your help. So have a nice day. P.S. And, remember... if life delivers a situation to you that you cannot handle, do Not attem...

I have wasted much time in the past obsessing about my feelings and mood swings. Depression and/or anxiety lead me to seek comfort and oblivion in my favorite "medicine". Of course this "medicine" (P and MB) is the sickness itself. It merely leads to a new round of bad ...

I am 20 years old and a good boy, overall. I discovered pornography and masturbation at about age 13 or so. I got very into both of those things and etched those neuron pathways in good and deep, turning it into an addiction. I've tried to stop countless times, but just c...