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Eye.nonymous Wrote: I had this very wise roommate in Yeshiva. After watching my long and futile struggle to get up in time for minyan he pointed out, "the secret to getting up in time is to go to bed on time." Sometimes we're just fighting the yetzer hara at the wrong en...

Here's the tool in a simplified version: 1) We all know that throughout history, Jews for the most part willingly gave up their lives rather than bow down to idols or convert to other religions. In fact, says Rabbi Shneur Zalman, this is the nature of every Jew - that he ...

I fell about a week ago because I became disinterested in the battle. I could have easily won. In fact, after 50 days clean, my habits had set me not to fall. But I broke it anyway because I had lost my inspiration to stay in the fight, as easy as it was. I think it was b...

Stress often leads and addict to his "drug". When we feel stress, it's important to immediately pinpoint the cause. Once we've pinpointed it, we can than ask ourselves: "Is acting-out going to 'solve' this?" - "Can it take away the 'cause' of my stress?". The answer to th...

How are you doing? 1,000 unique chizuk e-mail members... wow. You're one busy guy, keep up the good work! Since you're still my accountability partner (from over a year ago), here's an update: B"H I'm still clean based on the rules of the Wall Of Honor for 15 months now. ...

HELLO ALL HEILIGEHS AND HEILIGOS, TODAY IS SEVEN MONTHS THAT I AM OFF THE CYCLE OF:SHTUSS/SHMUTZ/CRY/DAVEN, SHTUSS/SHMUTZ/CRY/DAVEN SHTUSS/SHMUTZ/CRY/DAVEN, SHTUSS/SHMUTZ/CRY/DAVEN SHTUSS/SHMUTZ... OK, WITHOUT ANY FANFARE AND ONE SHOT OF WOODFORD, HERE GOES: I LEARNED 4 P...

"Letakein" Posted: Yesterday, I was feeling sad and I realized that I hadn't spoken to Hashem in English in a really long time. I was driving and I just started talking out loud as if Hashem was in the passenger seat right next to me. As soon as I started with, "Hi Hashem...

The Steipler talks about these nisyonos in Kraina de'igrisa, and he tells us not to think about the past, but only to look forward. Even Teshuvah, the Steipler writes, should be left for once a person is married, lest it bring him to "atzvus". He also tells people not to ...

People who suffer from low self-esteem and/or depression are often more prone to addictive behaviors (be it alcohol, drugs, or lust). We use the addiction to "self-sooth" feelings of inadequacy, and to escape from ourselves and from the harsh world around us. Also, the "l...

Life really is a good place to be visiting. Force yourself to notice the sunshine, the fall leaves, the chirping birds. Take a walk and notice the gurgling baby in his stroller, the school kids laughing and running home to play. Notice life, everyday, 'boring' life. Notic...

In this book that I read (and am re-reading) by a sexual addiction therapist called "The First Day of the Rest of My Life", this woman goes about a tremendous life-changing day-at an amusement park. Basically, we have fallen into the addiction because we live lives of fea...

I think we may have lost focus a little... we've been taking it a little easy on lust... maybe allowing it a little wiggle room here or there.. It's time we look this addiction in the eye and proudly proclaim: Not one inch!... There is no room here for negotiations... If ...

What do we seek in lust? It is our subconscious that is craving true love and true security. There's a deep need inside of us that we desperately attempt to fill with lust. But the lust never fills it, and can NEVER fill it. The fulfillment of the most amazing fantasy we ...

The losers aren't the ones stuck in the dirt, but the ones who gave up the battle along the way. Fighting with (what seems to you to be) your last ounce of courage, is the proof of how much you're able to accomplish. Most of us with a few years and battles under our belt ...

Last night I was feeling really upset about something. Months ago, I probably would have acted out. More recently, I would have told myself, "don't act out, don't act out." But lately, I've had a lot of success with catching these bad moods before they start and warding t...

In the video clip on this page, Rav Noach's eyes fill with tears and his voice breaks as he says: "Almighty, I know that You care about this much more than me, I know that You want me to succeed. I know that if You help me, we can change the whole world. I know You want t...

Most men pursue pleasure with such breathless haste that they hurry past it. We fear that by giving up what we lust for, we are giving up great pleasures in life. False. By running after those lusts, we hurry past real pleasures (not only spiritual, even physical healthy...

Your comment about the TV and internet reminded me of a shiur I once heard from Rav Ezriel Tauber: He too was traveling, and was delayed overnight after a long hard day. The airline put him up in a fancy hotel with a huge TV screen and internet access. Being Rabbi Tauber,...