Most men pursue pleasure with such breathless haste that they hurry past it.
We fear that by giving up what we lust for, we are giving up great pleasures in life.
False.
By running after those lusts, we hurry past real pleasures (not only spiritual, even physical healthy real pleasures), and that is a lost opportunity.
It's a paradox.
But as we create borders and gates against lust, we have the time and peace of mind to create a beautiful rose garden within those borders.
There is very intense and real pleasure within those healthy borders.
So I ask Hashem this:
I will make those gates and borders and red lights and stop signs ,and even huge walls and boundaries.
But please let me see and feel the beauty and love and pleasure and happiness -within those walls that You asked me to put up.
I think He wants us to ask this of Him.
And when we do, He is more than happy to give it to us.