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When it comes to Shemiras Ainayim outside in the street, we have to realize that EVEN WHEN WE LOOK, the pretty girl is gone in a moment, AND WHAT DID WE GAIN? NOTHING!!! Adarabah, what we LOST was tremendous, cuz we wired our brain at that moment, we conditioned ourselves...

This post is for those who are thinking about falling. It will explain how to do a full, complete, genuine fall. Now make sure you read all the directions before you have your fall. Don't cut corners! The first thing to do, is to notify those in your life that are going t...

It's all about the struggle my friends. My life has had so many times where I knew that everything was hopeless. I knew that I was hopeless.... I saw absolutely no way out... Nothing... I was totally totally stuck..... But here is the thing:No matter What, Where, How or W...

It is clear from various Sefarim and in various places in Chazal that we didn't always have free will in the past.. To quote Rav Shlomo Wolbe, [zt"l]: The great [Jewish] philosophers established bechira as the cornerstone for the whole Torah.... But from this resulted a c...

Someone wrote: I feel so low. I hate myself and I don't trust that Hashem loves me. GYE Responds: A Tzadik once said that Hashem loves the biggest Rasha more than we love the biggest Tzadik... The pasuk says "Hashem Tzilcha - Hashem is your shadow". He reacts to us the w...

Always remember to stay happy! The Yetzer Hara's biggest tool is depression and sadness. Working on one's self is not a "sad" and "confining" thing, but rather it should bring us tremendous joy that we have the merit to sacrifice our desires for the creator of the entire...

Lust addicts have a disease called "love sickness". They are in love with every good-looking person of the opposite gender that they see. And no matter what they do to convince themselves of how empty and silly it is, it still plagues them. Their heads are often filled wi...

Q. I've tried quitting porn and masturbation before, but a funny thing happened - I got irritable and snappy toward my partner and surroundings. I then relapsed back into viewing porn and masturbation, because I didn't think becoming a nervous wreck was worth it. A. ...

Seforim bring that 'avoda' has the same root as a term in shas: '(oros) avudim' - tanned skins. The tanning/pounding process involved to make skins of an animal kosher for tefilin or mezuza and sifrey kodesh. Are you aware of what is done to these skins to make them koshe...

I was walking in the street today and something SO momentous hit me today! Really! Something so earth-shakingly big I felt blessed to realize it! I'm not sure if anyone else has been enlightened to this, but this news is BIG TIME and I wanna share this secret with friends...

Guilt is to the soul what pain is to the body. Pain itself is not a good thing, but it does serve a positive purpose. Pain alerts you to a problem that requires action, it calls you to seek its source and alleviate it. Guilt serves a positive purpose too. Guilt that eats ...

In Hashem's great mercy we are zoche to know that Dovid HaMelech actually had a man KILLED in order to be with that man's wife. And yet he went on to do teshuva and to write INCREDIBLE Tehillim of PRAISE to Hashem, to receive nevua from Hashem, and his son built the Beis ...

Eighty percent of our emunah problems, and ninety percent of our questions on HASHEM stem from one mistake-we play G-d. Playing G-d means I know exactly what I need. I need to marry that woman. I need that job. I need my child to get into that school. I've talked to HASH...

I'll share this: I've B"H never cheated on my wife, I'm ba'al teshuva (I hope). She's frum from birth. Early in our marriage I told her, "With all these immodest images around, the only woman I want to see, and have on my mind is you!" ... "The only intimate image I want ...

Heard a wonderful vort from Rabbi Yudin this morning that is particularly relevant to the addict. One of the root causes of the Egel was impetuousness, the bnei yisroel wanted instant gratification, which is usually the problem of the addict as well. We can't see tomorro...

I don't know quite how to explain what I've started figuring out about this whole addiction thing, but I'm going to try to start to put it down. Basically, it boils down to this: I need to grow up.What I mean is, if I see something and it's 'triggering' I feel, "oh no, wh...

True happiness comes when we become givers not takers, when we give of ourselves to help others INCLUDING OUR WIVES. Linking happiness to fulfilling every life pleasure is more like bondage to self. The pleasure doesn't last. Take a vacation, for example. You have a great...

For once I feel like I have made some progress in this battle - after over a decade of failure. The most amazing thing happened to me today. I had a day off and I was reading the White Book (I can relate to it more than the 12 Steps AA book.) I really tried to internalize...