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For the past, let's say, a week and a half - maybe longer - I haven't been myself. Instead of my positive, cheery, optimistic, loving self, I've had these feelings inside of self-hate, harshness, and withdrawal from life… What I'm feeling hurts. It's suffering. But I know...

We all know the story of Yaakov and the shepherds from Parshas Vayetze. Did you ever wonder how Yaakov Avinu single handedly removed such a large rock from on top of the well? If he was an “Ish Tam Yoshev Ohalim” how did he have this kind of super-human strength? To answ...

Don't believe the lie that things are hopeless because they feel that way. That is a chemically induced emotion. Yes, all emotions are chemically induced. But let's say you took a drug that made you deliriously happy. Even though you are going to a funeral and normally yo...

One thing I feel that really helps me when I'm about to fall is to stop for a second, and think logically about what the pros and cons of this fall would be. For example: Pros: 1) I get pleasure. 2) it relieves stress. (And that's all I'm able to come up with, besides for...

Firstly, I would like to thank you for the wonderful, life-saving work you do. Specifically, I would like to comment on the Window to the Soul phone group. I am unable to join in the shiur live because I live in England and therefore for me it takes place in the middle ...

There are people that suffer terribly from self-hatred. Many even can hear or imagine an inner voice tormenting and criticizing them. For some, there are words that go along with the self hatred, even full sentences ring in their head such as: “You're a loser!” “You sh...

How many hours a day do you spend in negative thinking? How much of your thinking involves resentments, worries, regrets, guilt, shame, anger, fears, etc.? How do you expect to feel if a lot of you thinking is negative? Pretty lousy. Thoughts automatically transla...

I'm a lust addict. What does that mean? It means that even when I'm not actually doing the big act, I'm thinking about it. I'm fantasizing. I'm checking out women for lower-level excitement. And the pressure builds until I am completely out of control and act out again...

Help other anonymous members on GYE by chatting and posting chizuk! Do u know the relationship between your two eyes? They Blink Together, Move together, Cry together, See things together & Sleep together. Even though they NEVER EVER SEE OTHER.

The marriage guru and researcher John Gottman, Ph.D. uncovered a fascinating dynamic that seems counter-intuitive. Statistically, there is an inverse relationship between how free spouses feel to say they are not in the mood and decline sex and the frequency of sex the co...

Porn was our escape. A destructive and co-dependent escape, but an escape nonetheless. When hard times came into our lives, we would dodge them and go running for a fix rather than dealing with them head on. The release we felt from using porn would numb us to the bumps ...

Accepting and living in reality is the foundation of the recovery process. When we have faith in a Power greater than ourselves, we accept the fact that we are no longer in control and that what is happening for us at this time is in our Higher Power’s hands, not ours. W...

Member: “You say that when you fall, you fall to go higher, but why does it have to be that way? I'm recognizing a lot that I didn't see before. Yes, I'm in a better place in a way. But why can't it be different? And I don't think it's worth breaking Shabbos and knowing I...

This article is being published courtesy of https://www.1st-man.com/nofap-timeline/. Whether this is new to you, or you’ve heard of the concept and wanted to explore it further, you cannot deny that the entire notion is intriguing. It is common belief that regular masturb...

All living creatures have no shame, with the exception of human beings. When we have intellect we understand the concept of shame. When we don’t use our intellect as human beings (behaving like animals) we have no shame. The trait of shame is a boundary to protect us fr...

Visitor 53991565 11:04 PM I've been clean 17 days But I'm a bit stuck. Visitor 53991565 11:05 PM I am not at all attracted to my wife. Honest. Visitor 53991565 11:06 PM She's gained weight. A lot. What am I to do? Everyone else's wife - yes, this is the addict talking - s...

The jack is a simple machine. It allows you to lift or move something that otherwise would be too heavy. However, this ability doesn't come from nowhere. You have to move the lever much farther, so you are exerting a smaller force but over a larger distance. When someone ...