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A women wrote us: Good evening, I am writing to you for some advice and I hope you can help me. Some background first: My husband and I have been married for almost three years. We have one baby. A little more than a year ago, out of the blue, I decided to check we...

Someone emailed us: Hi i am a desperate parent. My 14 year old son is a 9th grader in a charedi yeshiva. Over the last few months I have caught him doing inappropriate things. We have tried to speak with him and get him to stop but I believe that he is addicted and can’t ...

Someone wrote in: I've got a boy who is about 9. He's got a friend who is touchy-feely. I can't say they're doing anything wrong, but he just sort of hangs from my son a bit much. It makes me uncomfortable. On the other hand, I'm not touchy feely myself. So maybe it's ...

Someone wrote in: One of our daughters is extremely emotional. I tend to deal with her by telling her to be quite and go rest, and at times I can be very snappy with her. My wife tells me to go easy on her; she needs understanding and affection. I was trying my wife's app...

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I think I have a bit of a dif. problem then a bunch of u guys… I’m a 19 year old kid and always have a smile on my face and just love speaking to people, and for some reason, it just gets me into major trouble, I mean MAJOR! I have a laptop in yeshiva and don’t feel an ur...

Someone asked: Dear organizers of this amazing site, I get your daily posts and it gives me tremendous chizuk. I am currently on a high and Hashem is helping me to keep my eyes clean. However, from past experiences, these highs do not last long and the power of satan co...

Q. Anybody with a normal sex drive and no outlet for it will masturbate. Man or Woman! I once went without masturbating for about a month…toward the end of that month I thought I was going to rape someone. Even while studying Torah I had the urge. The more you deny it th...

Sometimes a person wonders, "for how long will I have to fight this? I thought I had already made a lot of progress, but suddenly I see that I'm again struggling with the yetzer hara in the same old ways". A person must realize that the yetzer hara never gives up. Every ...

Someone sent us an article about the fanatical separation of the sexes in some Arab countries, and about how their women are prohibited from many activities and must be covered from head to toe with a Burkah. They then asked the following question: Q. "I wanted to ask you...

Someone wrote to us how hard his struggles are and that he knows many Jews "who give into their desires for companionship with girlfriends and wind up happy". We tried to answer him with three points, and I share them with you below so we can all be Mitchazek... And in th...

Someone asked us the following question: i would like to understand why i see you mention frequently in your chizuk and on your site that we must realize that we are powerless and must give ourselves over to g-d. i don't fully get the concept and especially its necessity....

We have been in touch with someone who has succeeded already for close to one hundred days, to stay clean from viewing improper pictures and from masturbation. He is a true hero and real spiritual soldier. Recently, he decided to try and guard his eyes and mind as well, b...

Q. I stopped looking at forbidden pictures a while ago. But they are still in my memory. Even if I do teshuva my aveiros can never be erased completely. The eraser marks will still be there. The images are implanted in my memory and will never go away. I'm sick over ...

Someone wrote us recently a list of questions on Shemirat Habris and we tried to answer as best we could. Perhaps we can all learn something from this exchange.... 1) How do you know that you have rectified the brit if you have done Teshuvah after wasting seed? Teshuvah i...

Dear GaurdYourEyes, I will give you a challenge. I look at porn sometimes but I am B'H not addicted. I have abstained for months at a time but I keep coming back to it. The reason I can't stop altogether is because I believe it is halachically permitted to look at porn ...

People often ask us how to avoid sexual thoughts and fantasies from plaguing them. Normally we refer them to this page of our FAQ section, but today I want to discuss another important facet as well. There is a common theme throughout Chassidic literature, that the more a...

Someone asked us recently the following question. "How does one know that Hashem has accepted his Teshuva, especially for sexual sins?" Here are three different answers, all of which are true. 1) Chaza"l say that true Teshuvah is acheived "Ki'sheme'id alav yode'ah talumo...