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We have a non-Jew on our Chizuk list for a long time already who has totally broken free from the addiction to masturbation and porn for over two years already. When we asked him what was the secret of his determination, this was his reply: I have no secret other than the...

Many people are accomplishing great feats of Teshuvah and turning their lives around on the GUE network B"H. And we can all watch this happening LIVE on our forum every day! Here are some recent inspiring posts (edited for clarity):   "Ano-Nymous" (a Bachur) writes: Today...

"Battleworn" posted the following powerful Chizuk on the forum from a Shmooze by R' Tzvi Meir Zilberberg - Shvi'ee Shel Pesach 5759 (edited for clarity): The Chozeh from Lublin, The Beer Mayim Chaim, R' Hershele of Ziditshov, R' Tzadok Hacohen and other tzadikim all sai...

One of the great tzadikim rendered the pasuk "Velo sosuru acharei levavchem ve'acharei eineichem" as follows. Don't untie your kesher with Hashem after (acharei) you went after your eyes and after your heart. The greatest nachas ruach for Hashem is when we keep fighting e...

The Zohar in Parshas Tetzava brings an encounter between R' Shimon Bar Yochai and a old Holy Jew who came out of the desert. R' Shimon asked him why he had been in the desert and he replied that he dwells there the whole year round and learns Torah, explaining that he did...

We have a new valiant warrior on the forum who goes by the alias "Ykv_schwartz". He recently wrote a very enlightening post to someone who had been clean for 90 days and then had a fall (edited a bit for clarity): There are some fundamental points that post-addicts must r...

I would like to bring you a beautiful e-mail I received from someone who identified himself by the name "Shomer Bris": Dear Guardureyes, I am writing in regard to a recent email I received about your site. I happened upon your site a few months ago, but when I went back o...

Kedusha posted today on the forum: Hello to all, just wanted to share the news that I've decided to aim for a life of pleasure. The question is, how to achieve that, by giving into lust and inappropriate sexual desire? I know from experience, that after experiencing some ...

It's interesting to note, that although there were four people who never sinned; Binyamin, Amram, Yishai, and Kilav (son of Dovid HaMelech), only Yosef is called a Tzaddik - Yosef Hatzadik. Why? Because he was tempted and withstood the temptation. In my opinion, every mem...

We have a new member on our forum, Bruce, who is 22 years old and has struggled with this addiction for many years. He comes from a broken home and struggles also with religion as well as many other issues, but he is desperate to break free, because, as he writes: "I want...

ShomerAiyin had a slip after 12 days and writes: I remember saying "No" to the Yetzer Hara quite a number of times during the past 12 days, so I guess that's gotta count for something. But the fact that I've only been able to string together bunches of clean days separate...

Today is a special day for FOUR reasons. Firstly, today is Yesod shebi'Yesod of the Seffirah. Everyone knows that Yesod represents the area of Shmiras Habris, so today is a very auspicious day for progress in these areas. Secondly, today is the Yartzeit of Rav Shlomkeh Z...

I would like to bring a few inspiring post from "London" on the forum to various strugglers. London's experience is very precious, as he has learned some solid technique in battling this relentless addiction over the years through his membership in the 12-Step fellowships...

Yosef Yakov Posts a question: "Where I used to view my addiction as an impediment for growth, I realize today how it served as an impetus for growth". There is no doubt whatsoever that Hashem accepts our Teshuva and that the sins stemming from our addictions are being era...

There is no such concept as "I am not cut out for learning", yet many people FEEL that way. When we where young, we where FORCED to learn, and that in itself often took away from us the CHESHEK. It is a crime that some parents, teachers and rebbe'im robbed the Cheshek fro...

What is Simcha? Is it being happy? Is it being funny, laughy or giggly? Is it having a blast? I'll tell you what Simcha is. Did you ever see an old Jew sitting by his grandson's wedding with a faint smile curling up at the corner of his lips? That is Simcha. He's not jump...

Let us all remind ourselves what it was that pushed us to seek help. What was it about the addiction that we hated the most? If we focus on that, it will help us not to slip or fall. For me it was as follows: A. I was using it as a crutch for instant gratification B. I kn...

Two people can be "outwardly" doing the very same thing (like shmiras habris for example), and yet on the "inside", they are completely different.1) You can be doing shmiras habris by: Running franticly from the y"h thereby feeling pressure, fear, anxiety, eventual exhaus...