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The program doesn't tell us how to stop - we had done that a thousand and one times - it shows us how to keep from starting again. We had it backwards; before, we always wanted the therapist, spouse, or God to do the stopping for us - to fix us. Now, we stop; and then, in...

If I could not talk openly with somebody about all the goofy and gross ideas that pop into my head, I'd certainly eventually act them out! "We are only as sick as our secrets", they so wisely say.But thinking about how the addiction works and making a study of it, is an e...

(Some of the concepts below will only be understood by those who are working the 12-Steps and/or were on Duvid Chaim's calls.) Dear Struggler, First of all, you must congratulate yourself. Think about it. You actually experienced a slip, but by posting about it on the f...

I went on a class trip recently and acted like a second grader! It was awesome! Ahhh, the innocence of childhood. Duvid Chaim says that so much of our "restlessness" is because we forget about enjoying the little things in life and just get caught up in the adult world. E...

I'm writing from the Central Bus Station here on my trip to Israel. As "all y'all" know I often recommend that we think of ourselves as "an ant on a log floating down the river" (who can't control the log in anyway). Well here in this bus station I feel like "an ant in an...

I joined Duvid Chaim's 12-Step Phone group (which is starting a new cycle in February, IY"H) because he GUARANTEED me freedom from lust (remember - not "CONTROL of the addiction", but FREEDOM) if I run the course & do it right. I trusted him, especially because he kne...

On Duvid Chaim's phone group we defined the difference between being "outwardly religious" and being real spiritual people. A "religious" person is one who believes there is a hell. A spiritual person has BEEN to hell. And that's step 1: Hitting bottom. And as a result ...

I just wanna say that working the 12 steps on Duvid Chaim's phone group was totally life changing. I seriously look at people differently now. One thing that Duvid Chaim said that really made a difference to me is that "everyone is doing their best".All parents want to be...

While I can't say that I'm grateful for my recent fall (after a long clean streak), I am grateful that I have come to see that I really wasn't getting the program. Someone with 25 years clean told me that "MY" program was not working for me. (Le'mashal - doctors do not se...

Hi. I am new to this forum. I recently slipped (33 days ago) after a clean streak of about 400 and something days. It was through this forum that I managed not slip again. I found it helpful to find people from the forum to speak to on the phone. There are many very selfl...

About 70 years ago, a doctor and a drunk went to the famous Carl Jung and asked him what it would take to get rid of the guilt and shame, the stigma and the hopelessness from drinking too much alcohol, raging and then feeling bad about it later. Carl Jung answered: "let p...

Before I joined GYE last year, I was being constantly attacked by lust. I was a heavy "user". It was an everyday pastime, and sometimes many times a day. I never considered it abnormal because I had great excuses, such as "My friends are doing it" and "it's healthy for yo...

Today's call was so eye-opening for me! If I may paraphrase the amazing revelation that Duvid Chaim shared: Always being "on guard" against lust by consciously avoiding it, either via willpower, or by putting in place "S.M.O.G" (S ome M echanisms O f G uard) like filters,...

For my first few weeks here at GYE, I didn't really leave my house at all (since my work allows for that). The only woman I came in contact with was my mother. Going to the mailbox was risky, as I might get a glance of the female joggers that would be jogging by my house....

Today, before davening, I stopped by my parents house to show their cleaning lady what I needed her to do in the kitchen to prepare for my kashering their place on Motsoi Shabbos. When I entered the kitchen, I almost bumped into this girl. I thought a Polish cleaning lady...

I've been receiving calls from y'all admitting difficulty with coping with the pressures of Pesach preparation in the home. Included is a lot of resentment, irritability and discontent with the Wife and Children. So the Yetzer Hara has got you right where he wants to. We ...

I am continuing with SA meetings (trying to make 3 per week) and having daily contact with a sponsor who has been sober for 26 years. I have started to feel the relief and even happiness (if I know what that is) that comes with surrender to the will of a sponsor rather th...

Only recently, for a period of about a month, did I start falling by being drawn to reading wrong things. My computer at home now has a report that goes weekly to wife and a friend, my comp at work is turned outwards publicly but could still be dangerous (even though I kn...