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Shlomo24 wrote on 06 Aug 2018 04:03:

I don't think that's fair. Everyone has the right to try whatever therapy they want. Conversion therapy does work for some people with SSA, so just because it was harmful for you, doesn't mean we need to discourage it. We can simply warn people that it may not work for them, and it might even traumatize them, but it may work for them and then it will all be worth it. And then we can step back and allow them to choose what they want to do. It's like Chemo for cancer. Chemo doesn't always work, and it can even be harmful, but if there's a chance it can work, who wouldn't try and save themselves?

See the videos here: gye.vids.io/tags/359dd3b619b0/dealing-with-ssa

Dear Shlomo, thank you for your post. I agree with almost everything you wrote besides for one thing:


If you are referring to non-Jews, then I guess you are right. But for Jews, we don't have a choice. Hashem lifted Har Sinai over our heads and threatened that if we don't keep the Torah, we will be buried underneath it. 

Here are GYE's views on Homosexuality (in a nutshell):

- Having SSA is similar to someone who would be attracted ONLY to married women, i.e. single women don't attract him at all (if such a thing was possible). We must empathize with such people because they have struggles that most men can't even imagine. We must give them support and show them love and understanding.

- Having same sex attraction (SSA) is not a sin.

- Acting on SSA desires is a sin

- Some people are born gay and cannot be changed.

- Some people develop SSA due to external life factors and can change, i.e. through therapy or other ways, they can learn to have normal straight desires.

- Some people develop SSA due to external life factors and still CANNOT learn to have normal straight desires (as Shlomo claims is his case).

- If a person can learn to change and develop healthy normal sexual desires, that would be great. After all, since acting on these desires is a sin, if one can change and learn to marry and have a normal family, why wouldn't they do that? That is why, everyone who has SSA should attempt therapy. Because they can never know if it will work for them or not, and they'll only know by giving it a serious try.

- If they cannot learn to change, either because they were born that way, or because conversion therapy or other types of therapy doesn't work for them, then they can still learn to ACCEPT themselves as they are, with no shame, and simply work on controlling their desires in the same way any normal man needs to work on his desires for married women, i.e. by avoiding desire as much as possible, etc.. Such people can still get married and lead normal lives, like Shlomo said, with the right support and attitude.

Hawkman wrote on 14 May 2017 15:05:

Someone sent me this once:Windows

1. Hold down the Windows Key and press “R” to bring up the Run box.
2. Type “regedit“, then press “Enter“.
3. Navigate to “HKEY_LOCAL_MACHINE” > “SOFTWARE” > “Policies” > “Google” > “Chrome“.
   Note: You may have to create the “Google” and “Chrome” folders.
4. Right-click “Chrome” and select “New” > “DWORD 32-bit value“
5. Give the value a name of “

   IncognitoModeAvailability

   “.
6. Double-click on “

   IncognitoModeAvailability

   “. A box will appear where you can set the value data to “1“.
7. Restart the computer, and the option to select “Incognito Mode” in Google Chrome will be gone.

MacOS

1. 1. From the Finder, select “Go” > “Utilities“.
   2. Open the “Terminal” application.
   3. Type the following, then press “Enter“:
      

      defaults write com.google.chrome IncognitoModeAvailability -integer 1

   4. Restart your Mac. The Incognito Mode option will no longer be available

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Amazing story. I went to visit Rabbi Twerski in the hospital on Friday (he's very weak) and I read it to him along with another story we got this week that mentioned him, to show him how many people he is still helping! It gave him a lot of chizuk....

Keep up the great work.

P.S. He was out of the hospital before Shabbos B"H

"Big highs" are usually a red-flag that it won't last. As Dov always says, we need to learn to just be "ok" with life.

Are you willing to go for therapy for this?

Do you feel you are in danger of ever hurting someone?

You might want to try the TaPHSiC method, it can work wonders for some people in your situation: guardyoureyes.com/tools/taphsic-method

Listen to the 40 minute shiur: guardyoureyes.com/GYEFiles/MP3s/TaPHSiC.mp3

Hatzlacha!