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Re: I will make it b'e"h 22 Feb 2018 23:40 #327320

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mikestruggling wrote on 22 Feb 2018 19:38:
There it is the "H" word.
Now I understand the thing that bothered me. How come here they say hope is a bad word when in porgram we're supposed to share our hope?
The answer is that there are two types of hope. Hope is not a good word when discussing what I should do. "I hope I work my program" "I hope I make a phone call" "I hope I don't look" All that and more are the bad type of hope. Stop hoping and start doing.
The good type of hope is hoping for results. "I will make a phone call I hope it helps" "I will work my program I hope my life improves and I'll achieve serenity" "I won't look I hope Hashem will take away the obsession" I can only do what I can. I have no control over results.
Best of luck.

Good stuff. I do too much type 1 hoping.
I hope to change that

Re: I will make it b'e"h 22 Feb 2018 23:57 #327322

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mikestruggling wrote on 22 Feb 2018 19:38:
There it is the "H" word.
Now I understand the thing that bothered me. How come here they say hope is a bad word when in porgram we're supposed to share our hope?
The answer is that there are two types of hope. Hope is not a good word when discussing what I should do. "I hope I work my program" "I hope I make a phone call" "I hope I don't look" All that and more are the bad type of hope. Stop hoping and start doing.
The good type of hope is hoping for results. "I will make a phone call I hope it helps" "I will work my program I hope my life improves and I'll achieve serenity" "I won't look I hope Hashem will take away the obsession" I can only do what I can. I have no control over results.
Best of luck.

Mike
It looks like one little piggy is doing well b"h
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Re: I will make it b'e"h 24 Feb 2018 19:48 #327407

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MayanHamisgaber wrote on 22 Feb 2018 23:57:

mikestruggling wrote on 22 Feb 2018 19:38:
There it is the "H" word.
Now I understand the thing that bothered me. How come here they say hope is a bad word when in porgram we're supposed to share our hope?
The answer is that there are two types of hope. Hope is not a good word when discussing what I should do. "I hope I work my program" "I hope I make a phone call" "I hope I don't look" All that and more are the bad type of hope. Stop hoping and start doing.
The good type of hope is hoping for results. "I will make a phone call I hope it helps" "I will work my program I hope my life improves and I'll achieve serenity" "I won't look I hope Hashem will take away the obsession" I can only do what I can. I have no control over results.
Best of luck.

Mike
It looks like one little piggy is doing well b"h
KOMTNMW

I wis I was doing good. I'm actually in the BWR hole. I think in the literature of SA/AA it says "self knowledge doesn't work". I'm an addict if a knife was over my head I would still act out. Except if I work my program. And I needed a beter step 1 but now I've got it. So ODAAT.

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Re: I will make it b'e"h 19 Mar 2018 04:10 #328534

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not doing well fell again today 
been trying to setup a meeting with someone to discuss how to live...........
i think i need to change the name of this thread starting to lose faith in myself 
and no meetings are not an option .
very important thread: guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/19180-FEEL-THE-HUGS%21%21%21" option="guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/19180-FEEL-THE-HUGS%21%21%21">FEEL THE HUGS!!!

Re: I will make it b'e"h 19 Mar 2018 04:23 #328536

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MayanHamisgaber wrote on 19 Mar 2018 04:10:
1. not doing well fell again today 
2. been trying to setup a meeting with someone to discuss how to live...........
3. i think i need to change the name of this thread starting to lose faith in myself 
4. and no meetings are not an option .

1. Sorry to hear
2. "Trying and Tryin' are 2 different things"
3. I believe if you change your thread to "I can not make it", you may find success faster
4. No will, or practically impossible?
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Re: I will make it b'e"h 19 Mar 2018 11:53 #328545

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Markz wrote on 19 Mar 2018 04:23:

MayanHamisgaber wrote on 19 Mar 2018 04:10:
1. not doing well fell again today 
2. been trying to setup a meeting with someone to discuss how to live...........
3. i think i need to change the name of this thread starting to lose faith in myself 
4. and no meetings are not an option .

1. Sorry to hear
2. "Trying and Tryin' are 2 different things"
3. I believe if you change your thread to "I can not make it", you may find success faster
4. No will, or practically impossible?

1.
2. please elaberate
3.  
4. both but mostly the latter 
very important thread: guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/19180-FEEL-THE-HUGS%21%21%21" option="guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/19180-FEEL-THE-HUGS%21%21%21">FEEL THE HUGS!!!

Re: I will make it b'e"h 19 Mar 2018 13:23 #328549

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MayanHamisgaber wrote on 19 Mar 2018 11:53:

Markz wrote on 19 Mar 2018 04:23:

MayanHamisgaber wrote on 19 Mar 2018 04:10:
1. not doing well fell again today 
2. been trying to setup a meeting with someone to discuss how to live...........
3. i think i need to change the name of this thread starting to lose faith in myself 
4. and no meetings are not an option .

1. Sorry to hear
2. "Trying and Tryin' are 2 different things"
3. I believe if you change your thread to "I can not make it", you may find success faster
4. No will, or practically impossible?

1.
2. please elaberate
3.  
4. both but mostly the latter 

About #2, Cordnoy has something in his signature about "2 different things". Yet his Tryin' is different than the regular "trying". I hope you can get what I'm trying to say
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Re: I will make it b'e"h 19 Mar 2018 13:39 #328550

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Markz wrote on 19 Mar 2018 13:23:

MayanHamisgaber wrote on 19 Mar 2018 11:53:

Markz wrote on 19 Mar 2018 04:23:

MayanHamisgaber wrote on 19 Mar 2018 04:10:
1. not doing well fell again today 
2. been trying to setup a meeting with someone to discuss how to live...........
3. i think i need to change the name of this thread starting to lose faith in myself 
4. and no meetings are not an option .

1. Sorry to hear
2. "Trying and Tryin' are 2 different things"
3. I believe if you change your thread to "I can not make it", you may find success faster
4. No will, or practically impossible?

1.
2. please elaberate
3.  
4. both but mostly the latter 

About #2, Cordnoy has something in his signature about "2 different things". Yet his Tryin' is different than the regular "trying". I hope you can get what I'm trying to say

not trying to be difficult but i don't get it yet 

but let me add that i had a meeting set up with Dov but had to cancel do to a medical situation and we are waiting for the next time to be able to meet 
very important thread: guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/19180-FEEL-THE-HUGS%21%21%21" option="guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/19180-FEEL-THE-HUGS%21%21%21">FEEL THE HUGS!!!

Re: I will not make it 19 Mar 2018 15:39 #328557

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looked in cordnoy's sig....  got it:laughing:
very important thread: guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/19180-FEEL-THE-HUGS%21%21%21" option="guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/19180-FEEL-THE-HUGS%21%21%21">FEEL THE HUGS!!!

Re: I will make it b'e"h 07 Jun 2018 09:48 #331845

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MayanHamisgaber wrote on 19 Mar 2018 04:10:
not doing well fell again today 
been trying to setup a meeting with someone to discuss how to live...........
i think i need to change the name of this thread starting to lose faith in myself 
and no meetings are not an option .

Mayan,

How's life? I think 6 weeks is a long enough vacation.
We miss you.
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Re: I will make it b'e"h 03 Jul 2018 02:14 #332925

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Hi all if you reply I won't see it as i am jumping on for a sec

short version is not good went to a meeting recently and hopin for a miracle  bye bye
very important thread: guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/19180-FEEL-THE-HUGS%21%21%21" option="guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/19180-FEEL-THE-HUGS%21%21%21">FEEL THE HUGS!!!

Re: I will make it b'e"h 03 Jul 2018 03:14 #332927

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MayanHamisgaber wrote on 03 Jul 2018 02:14:
Hi all if you reply I won't see it as i am jumping on for a sec

short version is not good went to a meeting recently and hopin for a miracle  bye bye

I commend you for taking the action and going to your first meeting.
The miracle that you hope for will happen when you throw yourself into the program.
It works if you work it... So try to get a sponsor and start working the steps.
May Hashem bless you with the strength and courage to do what it takes.
Hatzlacha rabba!

Re: I will make it b'e"h 06 Sep 2018 19:24 #335363

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Thanks for the reply
update been going to meetings even did a step one working on two and three met with dov and many others and tryin' to find a sponser.
might be a little active now......
missed you all
very important thread: guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/19180-FEEL-THE-HUGS%21%21%21" option="guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/19180-FEEL-THE-HUGS%21%21%21">FEEL THE HUGS!!!

Re: I will make it b'e"h 07 Sep 2018 02:32 #335377

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MayanHamisgaber wrote on 06 Sep 2018 19:24:
Thanks for the reply
update been going to meetings even did a step one working on two and three met with dov and many others and tryin' to find a sponser.
might be a little active now......
missed you all

Um... Sounds to me like you are very active :-)

Thanks for sharing. Great to hear!

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Re: I will make it b'e"h 07 Sep 2018 18:13 #335390

MayanHamisgaber wrote on 06 Sep 2018 19:24:
Thanks for the reply
update been going to meetings even did a step one working on two and three met with dov and many others and tryin' to find a sponser.
might be a little active now......
missed you all

Awesome that you upped the ante and had the courage to take that step! 

This is an inspiration for me to remember that I need to do whatever it takes to get better.

Good luck! 
If you are really bored, you can check out my original thread here: guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/305558-Journey-of-one-day-at-a-time 

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