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my struggle 19 Jul 2021 16:14 #371019

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I've been hanging around guard your eyes on and off for some time but just now I have pushed myself to become more active and start posting.

I have been struggling with pornography and Sh"Z since my mid teens. My main nisayon with pornography is when I'm at home during bein hazmanim.  There are several people in my family who have unfiltered devices that I often borrow.  I struggle with Sh"Z in yeshivah as well.
I recently bought myself my own properly filtered computer which will help me to stay away from anyone else's computer.
I am also trying to keep myself busy with kosher activities over bein hazmanim. I really hope that with these efforts and with GYE I can turn over a new leaf.

Re: my struggle 19 Jul 2021 16:25 #371021

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Welcome!
​You have already turned over a new leaf. הבא לטהר מסייעין אותו

Ultimately, only Hashem can overcome the struggles for us. As Chazal say: “If Hashem doesn’t help him, he cannot overcome him” (the Yetzer Hara). But, in order for Hashem to fight for us, we need to know that we can’t do it alone, and we need to reconnect with Hashem in a very fundamental way and learn a complete dependency on Him; much as a one day old baby depends on its mother.
"If I am not for myself, who will be for me? But if I am only for myself, who am I? If not now, when?"
feel free to reach out @  ahavayirah@gmail.com

Re: my struggle 19 Jul 2021 18:53 #371027

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Welcome! Why don't you check out The Fight (audio series by Rabbi Shafier) and The Battle of the Generation (ebook)? Links are below in my signature.
In the place where ba’alei teshuva stand, even pure tzaddikim who never sinned cannot stand. (Rabbi Avohu, Brachos 34b)

Great free resources:
My favorite book for breaking free: The Battle of the Generation 
https://guardyoureyes.com/ebooks/item/the-battle-of-the-generation. Change your attitude and change your life!

Rabbi Shafier's incredible lectures on breaking free: The Fight. Download here: 
https://theshmuz.com/series/the-fight/

If you're only ready to try something small, check out an easier way to do self-talk here:
https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/378128-Captain—Shtarkemotionals-Secret90Day-Challenge

Re: my struggle 19 Jul 2021 20:09 #371033

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Hi,
Welcome!

Glad to have you here posting. It does wonders. 
Keep them coming.


Best of luck
Feel free to contact me happyyid613@gmail.com
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