Hi,
I can't believe I am seeing this thread again after having posted on it at the very beginning. Kol Hakavod for sticking to your guns for so long. I personally have been through a crazy journey myself since then. The real shift all happened when I joined SA. It sounds like you are a man obsessed with a woman and dealing with it responsibly by sharing your genuine feelings, Kol Hakavod!
If I had this issue I would need as much support as I can get I recommend trying out SA and getting numbers of sober members (of 2+ years) and talking it over with them the more sober the better. Talking with non-sober single members might be hurtful.

This is so amazing. you are so strong. I am in awe

Hey there shtarkandemotional I came across this thread today and read through quite a lot. Seems like you've been through a MASSIVE nisayon. Would love to know what ended up happening at the end. Please fill us in. 

The odds this guy married his girlfriend are so slim and if he did so help him ה that he works his tush off to make it. All the boys who did this had a really tough time. (speaking personally)

Hey everyone! 
it’s been quite some time… 
if there’s a will… there’s a Way!Never give up on your dreams…

Mazel Tov!!!!

  

Mazel tov

Please be sure you have a trustworthy person who can guide you through the delicate aspects of marriage at least for a year after you marry. (this is usually the period of time it takes us to realize that we know our wives who we "knew for so long" just about as little as someone who went on a beshow.

Mazel tov!!!
i read your story with a lot of interest. I had a (technically) very similar experience but with an entirely different set of circumstances. however, as I read your feelings about this girl it brought me back to my situation. It seems your outcome is very different from mine (based off the differences in circumstances) and you’re engaged. I’m so happy for you!!
i would just like to know, now that your relationship is “out in the open” for everyone to see, and now that you’re (presumably) seeing a chosson rebbi and speaking out some of your feelings of your Kallah with him, and now that he will be teaching you about what a healthy relationship is supposed to look like, are you noticing anything about your past (or even present) relationship that was or is unhealthy in any way? Or are all the boxes checked off and everything still seems perfect? 
I’m genuinely curious about this, and I’m not trying to convince you that part of your relationship is unhealthy in any way. Not at all! But due to the nature of what I experienced personally and the similarities between our stories, I just want to know if anything has changed for you. 

Mazel tov!!!
What a story!

Just wanted to give everybody a little update!

Mazal Tov!
What a beautiful story. I'm so happy for you.
May it be a בנין עדי עד!!

shtarkandemotional wrote on 30 Oct 2024 19:51:

with that girlfriend?

blissfulelephant98

shtarkandemotional wrote on 30 Oct 2024 14:51:Just wanted to give everybody a little update!Warning: Spoiler! with that girlfriend?

Yeah, he already posted earlier that he was engaged to her.
shtarkandemotional wrote on 25 Aug 2024 06:20: