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TOPIC: Where I'm at 43988 Views

Re: Where I'm at 13 Aug 2009 22:33 #12239

battleworn

dov wrote on 13 Aug 2009 22:19:

Reb Uri -
To echo what the berdichever wrote you above, (but , of course, in a lower-case and relatively boring way):
I know what you mean when you say yiddishkeit is sexually frustrating.
Let's just look at some facts on the ground, though:
I don't know about you, but, when I'm serving Lust, no amount of sex is enough. When I'm serving lust, no one is pretty enough - once anyone prettier walks by! When I'm serving Lust, there is no real room for anyone else, only for my needs. When I'm serving Lust, I make poor choices that reduce my options in life to either "stupid", "bad", or "whatever". I become more needy, rather than more independent. When I'm serving Lust, I am ALWAYS HUNGRY. (oops! back to lower case, quick!) And I mean always. So Lusting, not lack of sex, makes me frustrated.

Have you ever found satisfaction in acting out? I thought I did. But after a while I discovered that it just imitates satisfaction by quieting the very pain of the neediness, of itself! "Ahh, what a relief!...Not." That is actually quite a rip-off. That has been my experience, monsieur. How about you?
Yiddishkeit obviously says "whoaa!", which is frustrating, especially to anyone who really feels entitled to x, to y, and/or to z. But in saying "wait", it gives us a chance at using the framework that even my roman catholic sponsor marvels at: A program for creating and maintaining sexual satisfaction in marriage. Look around you (or better yet, don't - ha,ha - sorry): would there be such $ucce$$ in the "sex :o sells" industry if most folks were satisfied

? We yidden inherited a plan to help couples (if they want to use it for that)grow progressively and unexpectedly closer by taking an inescapable monthly bodily process and turning it into an exercise that's cyclical, like everything else in life. It works if you work it. And our program to help not-yet-couple-people is: Don't feed it, it'll just grow, dum-dum. (we say it a lot nicer that dov does, though.. :

)
So, we all know we have desires, we are human, no? None of us are perfect, not even saints, they say...But we also all know what religion is really sexually frustrating. It's the religion of Lust, not yiddishkeit.
To another person hungry for the peace of Hashem's Love,
Dov

Reb Dov you said it so well, I don't know how you can call that relatively boring ???

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Re: Where I'm at 13 Aug 2009 22:51 #12243

Efshar Letaken
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Reb Dov,

So Gevaldig So Teef.

How do we get that info into out head when we are at a situation like Uri is in now that we say to ourselves Hey! I will read & think about what they said on my post Tomorrow!

Right now I'm shutting off my Brain & thinking or not thinking with my Heart.

Is there some how that we can stop that when we are in such a situation?

I feel like Uri is in a state of no mind were he cant help himself. Maybe No Bechira?

Is there a way to get ourselves back into Bechira mode?

E.L.

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Re: Where I'm at 13 Aug 2009 22:54 #12244

Pintele Yid

Uri,

I was out of commission for the last week and I am sorry I missed this thread in real time. I think the Malochim get this thread on a a real time ticker

I have 3 suggestions for you.

1. Go to Rav Shalom Arush (I would shlep you there myself but I am not in the Holy Land)
2. Listen to Dov and Co. and join an SA group, Duvid Chaim's group etc... and work the steps
3. Introduce all your girlfriends to eachother...end of your current Nisyanos

Your torturing yourself unneccessarily. Get off the dime!

Pintele Yid

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Re: Where I'm at 13 Aug 2009 23:00 #12245

Efshar Letaken Current streak: 194 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 850 Karma: 3	Pintele, #3 is a Home Run. E.L.
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Re: Where I'm at 13 Aug 2009 23:15 #12248

Pintele Yid	E.L., No Bull - an "out of the park" home run But our dear Uri will always be welcomed in any Beis Medrash, Shule or at GYE. Uri - I got an Haskama from the Heiliga E.L.! I am sure Mom will second the motion. Time to get off the dime ;D Pintele
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Re: Where I'm at 13 Aug 2009 23:23 #12249

Tomim2B	While #3 is guaranteed to work, why put others through unnecessary pain? In addition, without thinking of the repercussions that will come your way, and considering if it is worth it, it's a bad move. 2B
	Last Edit: 13 Aug 2009 23:30 by pokerface27.

Re: Where I'm at 14 Aug 2009 00:07 #12251

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The real question that needs to be dealt with is:
Why have not more people voted in this poll?!This issue is very important and must be dealt with at once!Askanim will be sent to all corners of the jewish world announcing the results and we can finally put an end to this madness of not making chulent in the summer!
This is life and death people!
Mi lashem elai!!
Uri

p.s. i didnt go over in the end.i was in the park for the past several hours.im very tired.i love you guys

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Re: Where I'm at 14 Aug 2009 00:14 #12253

Tomim2B	Uri (JA) wrote on 14 Aug 2009 00:07: p.s. i didnt go over in the end.i was in the park for the past several hours.im very tired.i love you guys I'm gonna give you a huge kiss! :-* Get some sleep. We'll talk in the morning. You can't imagine how proud I am with you right now! You're a star! 2B
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Re: Where I'm at 14 Aug 2009 00:17 #12255

Uri Current streak: 2 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 448 Karma: 7	to sleep?are u crazy?im way too pumped to sleep!!im just to tired to post about my night.tommorow iy'h
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Re: Where I'm at 14 Aug 2009 00:19 #12256

habib613	yay!!!!!! YH- 0 Uri- 1,000,000,000,000,000,000,000,000,000,000,000,000,000,000,000,000,000
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Re: Where I'm at 14 Aug 2009 00:20 #12257

Uri Current streak: 2 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 448 Karma: 7	I do have a recording actually of myself complaining as i drove in the opposite direction of her house.if anyones interested maybe i could have guard post it tommorow
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Re: Where I'm at 14 Aug 2009 00:22 #12258

Pintele Yid	Uri, Go to sleep thinking about the first 2 suggestions. Gotta do something really tangible to shake things up. Congratulations on your Victory! Pintele Yid
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Re: Where I'm at 14 Aug 2009 00:25 #12259

Uri Current streak: 2 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 448 Karma: 7	People,the chulent poll.Whoever has not voted yet,please do.The summer's nearly over and ive been at several shabbos lunches where rachmana litzlan lo aleinu hashem yerachem they did not serve chulent.this must end!
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Re: Where I'm at 14 Aug 2009 01:38 #12267

TrYiNg

OH, Uri! I'm so glad you perservered . I see you now, center stage, as the whole GUE family is wishing you mazel tov.The cheering and shouting is just getting louder by the sec. As bardichev and E.l are carrying you on their shoulders, vowing never to let go. And behind the mechitza ...are your sisters crying in relief. and mom....She is running over to you with glistening eyes....as the whole pamalia shel maale is looking on....(in ur own words;)

A commotion takes place up above.
It is now very clear that the angels are in love.
In whose zchus was this one born,
this mortal man who takes the heavens by storm??

Hashem sits on his throne,proud as can be,
as he watches the angels jump up and sing.
He says to himself with a smile on his face,
if only my boy knew what he does to this place.

If only Uri knew what he does to this place

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Re: Where I'm at 14 Aug 2009 01:39 #12268

Efshar Letaken Current streak: 194 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 850 Karma: 3	Uri, Thanks, I'm so happy I checked up now again to see what happend with u. I'm not lying or joking when I say that I was stressed out about what would happen to u in the end. I said tehillim I promise. Thanks for letting us know that you passed the huge nisoyoin today. I ask from hashem to give u a sign that what u did or didn't do made the Hashem & angels smile. E.L.
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