my last post was going on my last post before B
you have me smiling now.thank you.i was a shtickly hurt before and not in the mood.i apologize for my statement.its going down.

Uri, it seems to me that we know you better than you know yourself. Which makes a lot of sense since you've known the "old you" for a long time and it's hard to change long standing impressions. We know the "real you" and we have every reason to have the confidence that you would do it right.

Nobody was suggesting that you should get married today, they were just saying that if you really love each other then why not consider that she may be the right one. If you continue up the path that you've been on for the last two months (almost) then you have nothing to fear at all. By the time you would actually get married you would be well in to recovery.

It has never happened that someone that was involved so much with the forum didn't succed. There's definitely no reason to think that you will be any different. All you have to do is to keep it up. And it won't hurt at all if you start to believe that you are changing. If Hashem sends you "faxes" shouldn't you believe that He will send you recovery?

The Heck with me what can I do for you?

You can stop while you are ahead of the game for Hashem for me for dov for habib. for reb guard, for trying, for reb b. for mom that's out on her beach day for all of us on GYE

you will hurt us if you fall.

it's your big nisayoin Hashem knows you can pass.

this is the big one if you pass it you will get reward that you cant imagine.

don't loss the opportunity that's still before you.

imagine the pain you will be in if you fall.

do you want to feel that pain again for a pleasure that lasts just a few moments?!

Take a lesson from the story of R' Amram shouting "there's a fire in the house of Amram" on his way to do an aveira (in his house). It only takes one moment of clarity to derail the y"h. Pull out the battery from your phone now!

If you would truly try to understand the severity of what you are justifying... Try for a moment just switching the name of the aveira. Say: "It's not so bad, I only kill on Mondays. And I've stopped for a while, so I'm basically in control. And anyways, If I ruin my streak, it's only been a few days since Monday. After, I'll start a new streak." No! Big mistake!

Be strong!

2B

FIXED MINE TOO

BEAR HUG 7 BEER 7 CHOLENT STILL STAND IN PLACE

b (BEAR HUG BEER BUNDLICH)

Uri Uri shir dabeiri, how about singing your songs, and then taking out the battery?

Reb B.

We need to get the Fire Dep. over to Uri.

Have any connections in Yerushaliam?

YUH A BIG "SHPRITZ"

Uri, if had posted in that I was about to fall, what would you tell me? Don't think it. Please write it.

I just put a sum of money in the tzedaka on your behalf. Hashem should make things easier for you!

2B

This better be a Color  War Prank Uri, Because you are freaking me out.

I'm soooooo afraid for you.

Seriously

And I'm thinking to myself, I don't even know this guy! why am I soooo bothered by this?!

Now that's what we call Kol Yisroel Areivim Zeh Loh Zeh in real time.

I can feel it. it Hurts me to not being able to help this Tzadik of ours when he needs it most.

Gr8 idea Tomim,

What would you tell us if we were in your situation?

ok this is to painful.

Going to Daven for you.

E.L.

uri, you wrote this this morning on TrYiNg's thread, so i'm spitting your words right back attcha.
"No youre not sis!!Stay strong 16 days!!!!!come on you can do it!read through your thread!!and mine !!
chill out.....take a breath.....youve made it before youll make it again ....this is not something you havent faced yet

listen to my song rehab-my-site.com/guardureyes/forum/index.php?topic=742.15
stay strong
we love you trying
watch rav amnon yitzchak hes funny
go on shlager.net they have alot of great frum videos and music
just make it through this!we know you will!keep trying!"

I know the sich is different, but the way you felt this morning about trying, that how we all feel now about you, maybe even more.
k? please post!

Reb Uri -
To echo what the berdichever wrote you above, (but , of course, in a lower-case and relatively boring way):
I know what you mean when you say yiddishkeit is sexually frustrating.
Let's just look at some facts on the ground, though:
I don't know about you, but, when I'm serving Lust, no amount of sex is enough. When I'm serving lust, no one is pretty enough - once anyone prettier walks by! When I'm serving Lust, there is no real room for anyone else, only for my needs. When I'm serving Lust, I make poor choices that reduce my options in life to either "stupid", "bad", or "whatever". I become more needy, rather than more independent. When I'm serving Lust, I am ALWAYS HUNGRY. (oops! back to lower case, quick!) And I mean always. So Lusting, not lack of sex, makes me frustrated.

Have you ever found satisfaction in acting out? I thought I did. But after a while I discovered that it just imitates satisfaction by quieting the very pain of the neediness, of itself! "Ahh, what a relief!...Not." That is actually quite a rip-off. That has been my experience, monsieur. How about you?
Yiddishkeit obviously says "whoaa!", which is frustrating, especially to anyone who really feels entitled to x, to y, and/or to z. But in saying "wait", it gives us a chance at using the framework that even my roman catholic sponsor marvels at: A program for creating and maintaining sexual satisfaction in marriage. Look around you (or better yet, don't - ha,ha - sorry): would there be such $ucce$$ in the "sex  :o sells" industry if most folks were satisfied ? We yidden inherited a plan to help couples (if they want to use it for that)grow progressively and unexpectedly closer by taking an inescapable monthly bodily process and turning it into an exercise that's cyclical, like everything else in life. It works if you work it. And our program to help not-yet-couple-people is: Don't feed it, it'll just grow, dum-dum. (we say it a lot nicer that dov does, though.. :)
So, we all know we have desires, we are human, no? None of us are perfect, not even saints, they say...But we also all know what religion is really sexually frustrating. It's the religion of Lust, not yiddishkeit.
To another person hungry for the peace of Hashem's Love,
Dov
PS. Wow! Look at how many friends you have made, Uri! Sheesh!

I loved this answer!! So true, so true... Uri, you are wise beyond your years... You understand the futility of getting married just to satisfy lust in a "kosher" way. And the futility of getting married before working on the addiction!

As far as that girl who invited you over, how can you resist? It's impossible. But not for Hashem. He can help you if you just ask. I love you Uri. Tears in my eyes. I feel your pain.