Ouch!
Here's a hug...

Have you considered connecting to a mentor? Joining the vaad?
Have you read the boo recommended above? (TBOTG)

Here's a list of some mentors and a link to the vaad project:
Vaad Program* (click here for an explanation of what the vaad is)

HHM - Hashem Help Me - is the mentor-in-chief around here. He's reachable at michelgelner@gmail.com.
Some of the other great guys here are Eerie - 1gimpelovitz@gmail.com, Muttel - muttel15@gmail.com,   Reb Akiva - mevakesh247@gmail.com iwantlife - iwantlifegye@proton.me minhamayim - minhamayim1@gmail.com amevakesh - amevakesh23@gmail.com iwannalivereal - iwannalivereal@gmail.com

Thank you, I've briefly started the book, and I have a bit of a connection with HHM Shlita, but I'm on uk time so it's hard to gain more from him. I'm interested in trying to have someone to call in "the moment" but not sure how to organize it. I think it's also a matter of working myself out in order to prioritize the right strategy otherwise it feels like "tofasto merubo, lo tofasto". Do you agree?
Anyway, I'm on my way to day 1 bs"d.
Bessuros tovos to everyone.

pomegranate wrote on 10 Jul 2025 21:34:

I  think that makes sense. I think a good phone call with another mentor might be helpful in figuring out which strategy would be smart to start with.
Have you considered connecting with anyone in EY, UK, or any other area in that time zone-ish? What about the west coast of USA? Is that far enough behind that it could work?

Looking forward to hearing from you!

Hey pomegranate!
I'm by no means at all a mentor but if you're still looking for someone to be able to call you can be in touch with me if you want and we can see how we can work that out.
I'm EY time zone so we only have 2 hours apart.
Feel free to send me an email if you want.