Hi everyone! I was 15 days then had a fall.  I feel the longer I am clean the harder it is for me.  I can use all the support on this group!

But from the other side the last two days have been very hard on me in Shmiras Einayim on the street!!
Yes harder then not watching porn and not masturbating, just looking at the women (Heimishe!) passing by on the street, analysing there body shapes trying to enjoy it, in middle i start reminding myself just a min im on my way to recovery, i will not let these Nisyones carry me away... but its still a hard fight, but we are going on.

Hey just to add to the conversation, I'm at 5 days now. I have found that it gets harder after a week. And at 2 weeks it gets significantly harder for me. However, I have not had this issue to the extent that I was acting out every day. Rather, most recently I had like two weeks and then falling and then a week of being clean and then falling. those were my most recent streaks. But having a group makes it easier as of now. I tend to slip a little than some more and so on until I actually fall. So this keeps me from getting to that first slip

will Succeed Beh wrote on 12 Dec 2016 15:42:

I completely understand that struggle. I have that issue too. Its one thing not to seek out things on a computer, but sometimes its much harder not to look at something tempting that walks right in front of you. 

I saw an idea here that I find helpful for this (I would give proper recognition to the person that posted it, but I can't remember where I saw it). Keep track throughout the day how many times you are able to control yourself from taking a second look at a woman (or man) that catches your eye. Keep track of your "winning percentage", and see if you can make it better and better each day. I have been doing this for a bit now. I have some better days than others, but I do see that I have been getting better at resisting a second look with practice.

Hatzlacha

I am a competitive guy by nature, and I have been finding that keeping score/track as to how many times and the percentages that I can avoid the "second look" has been helping greatly. it makes me very aware of what I am doing wrong/right. It might need to go in tandem with a serious commitment of improving, which is done like people say on this site, to open up to a live person what you are struggling with, to realize that if we are addicted, we are unable ourselves to overcome this yetzer, to seriously connect with God and His love for us, etc., and together with that, perhaps it will help.

I am now 48 for 70, and I think the last 20+ times that I had a tayvah to take that "second look," I was koveish. This helps me throughout the day. Later, I can say to myself, "Why would I want to go to that site, or to think of that image; I have been so clean, etc."

This has been working for me. To conclude, I have been majorly nichshal in this area, and I thought that I would never ever be good at it, but meanwhile, I am on a mehalech.

b'hatzlachah

Baruch_Hashem wrote on 12 Dec 2016 22:05:

Yikes!

I remember when I did that and posted about it on the tryin' thread.