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Re: Group 196 19 Dec 2016 03:17 #300282

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Also in middle of long article about why internet pornography is much more addictive than standard pornography. I'm finding it very interesting. In general I am finding that the more I learn that scientifically there's something actually going on it makes the fight more down to earth instead of it just being like yaakov fighting the malach and avodas hashem... All wonderful things but they don't address the specific test that internet pornography poses to people different than standard yetzer haras.
(in case it wasn't obvious, I struggle with internet pornography. No, it's not just a random fascination of mine
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Re: Group 196 19 Dec 2016 08:04 #300293

Shua, I identify with what you are going through.
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What does everyone think about this:
I gave away 1/2 of my password, so that I cannot simply change the time settings
on my computer, and waste time when I should be doing something else, living my life.
I can't have the password, I don't trust an outside place to remotely take over my computer,
and I can't see how having a friend come over every time I really want to go on the computer
outside of the time limits I set, would actually work out practically.
So, it has to be someone willing to do it in my home.
Wife, isn't willing, supportive, understanding, or flexible. Tried that a few times, with 
shalom bayis problems and fights the result. So, my oldest son is willing to keep 1/2 of the password.
Not ideal, but can't think of a better, viable solution. Can you? What does everyone think about this?
My problem is spending too much time on the computer. And yes, eventually once in a while, 
that leads to watching porn and masturbating and wasting seed. But MY bigger problem is 
wasting time on the computer streaming "regular" videos.
I'm reaching out. Being honest and real. 

Re: Group 196 19 Dec 2016 08:12 #300297

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Half a password? So if you have the first 4 characters, it makes you feel like you still have a sense of control? Even though it's totally useless? Or at least thins out the guessing game when your YH REALLY has a strangle on you?
Unless I'm missing the point.
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Re: Group 196 19 Dec 2016 08:18 #300298

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Sorry, Gevura Sheb'Yesod explained it in your thread.

I don't know how old your son is, but do you want HIM to have password control of the computer so he can do what he wants? A better idea (and maybe this is what you meant), is to have him set HALF the password, so any changes need to be made by the 2 of you together. I have a similar arrangement with my wife for all the devices in our house.

Good idea, that.
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Re: Group 196 19 Dec 2016 11:01 #300322

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While emailing Shua, I realized that some of my nisyonos are caused by geshmak tempting videos youtube places in front of my face based on my history. With a heavy heart and not even waiting to make it a condition for the next slip/fall, I erased my youtube watching history

Re: Group 196 19 Dec 2016 11:07 #300323

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there's also an option of not having it track your history, so similar movies won't ever be displayed.
"Vegeta, what does the scouter say about his sobriety level?"
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Re: Group 196 19 Dec 2016 11:09 #300324

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This should be a zechus for me as I have an interview for a security clearance today. (Shua, that is why I will not be getting back to you until later. Sorry). My interest in porn makes my employment record less than desirable. With some hishtadlus of preparing with a lawyer, may Hashem the ultimate granter of everything I want have mercy on me.

Re: Group 196 19 Dec 2016 11:14 #300325

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Singularity wrote on 19 Dec 2016 11:07:
there's also an option of not having it track your history, so similar movies won't ever be displayed.

Which side of the Atlantic are you on? Pretty early, no?

Correct. You took the words out of my mouth. I do watch kosher stuff too which helps me find other Chashuv speakers. I just enjoyed R' Rietti on anger. If after a few days, my good old videos pop up again I will consider disabling history.

I did have to delete my history one more time shortly after my major delete.

Singularity, not sure if you follow me, but I am trying again for the third time and introduced myself on GYE. Can I get karma for introducing myself (again and yet again)?
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Re: Group 196 19 Dec 2016 11:28 #300327

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NOT A LE'CHAT'CHILA!!!

in context, the above is for the idea of not letting youtube track your history.


We want to CREATE beautiful memories, NOT have to erase them every few days!! lol

I am on the Israeli side of the atlantic. The hip side. Deep, Dark Africa.

And also, 613tube.com solves the problem of smutty history coming back to bite you.

And one cannot introduce himself constantly. Just wouldn't be an introduction. Unless you have short term memory loss, like that movie 50 first dates. Then we can talk.
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Re: Group 196 19 Dec 2016 13:00 #300337

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Singularity wrote on 19 Dec 2016 11:28:
NOT A LE'CHAT'CHILA!!!

in context, the above is for the idea of not letting youtube track your history.


We want to CREATE beautiful memories, NOT have to erase them every few days!! lol

I am on the Israeli side of the atlantic. The hip side. Deep, Dark Africa.

And also, 613tube.com solves the problem of smutty history coming back to bite you.

And one cannot introduce himself constantly. Just wouldn't be an introduction. Unless you have short term memory loss, like that movie 50 first dates. Then we can talk.

Not sure what you are saying about not a lechatchila

I came back as another name and then I came back to another group. I made 3 introductions and got no Karma

Re: Group 196 19 Dec 2016 13:10 #300338

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Singularity wrote on 19 Dec 2016 11:28:
NOT A LE'CHAT'CHILA!!!

in context, the above is for the idea of not letting youtube track your history.


We want to CREATE beautiful memories, NOT have to erase them every few days!! lol

I am on the Israeli side of the atlantic. The hip side. Deep, Dark Africa.

And also, 613tube.com solves the problem of smutty history coming back to bite you.

And one cannot introduce himself constantly. Just wouldn't be an introduction. Unless you have short term memory loss, like that movie 50 first dates. Then we can talk.

I feel like an ebay seller begging for positive feedback. GYE Karma is worth more to me.

I may be pushing it if I ask Johanessberg or Capetown, so I will simply ask if you knew my friend Nelson Mandela

Re: Group 196 19 Dec 2016 13:31 #300341

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Why we would discuss politics over tea and crumpets every sunday afternoon
"Vegeta, what does the scouter say about his sobriety level?"
"... It's over NINE-ZEROOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!"

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Re: Group 196 19 Dec 2016 14:25 #300354

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Re: Group 196 19 Dec 2016 14:30 #300357

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Hi guys

Opened my computer today, had 82 unread messages from GYE! ! ! 
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shua73 wrote on 18 Dec 2016 22:49:

will Succeed Beh wrote on 18 Dec 2016 17:55:

I think there should be some type of 90 day wall for all sorts of Kaboles, that any one with a specific Kabolo should be able to find support and work together with other people, e.g. non Jewish movies, Tefila, Minyan etc.

Looking forward for comments...

As I posted previously check out habitbull. It's an app that's designed specifically for that. It's meant for you to create your own goal and it will help you as you develop that good habit. B I use it in addition to the 90 days chart and personally i think it's better than the 90 days chart in a few ways.

I Checked that Habitbull website, its only for smartphones, and i havent got a smartphone just a windows computer!

Any ideas?
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