quiet wrote on 18 Dec 2016 15:10:

Should be a little conversation icon under the karma to PM.

So, with my 3rd try posting to GYE, for once I have a sense of belonging.

Thank you Shua. Thanks already elaborated.
Thank you Cordnoy for your valuable input (masai yagia that I will be in recovery)
Thank you Will Succeed for this morning's conversation
Thank you also lifnei Hashem and Baruch Hashem for reading my posts



By the way acharon acharon chaviv is a farse. There is no such thing in yahadus. Yaakov was trying to protect people (heard in the name of RAYL Shteinman)

Next time an emcee calls me up as Acharon acharon chaviv, I will punch him in the face (Yes, I am working on anger in addition to eating and lust -- just figuratively --  get angry, hold it inside, then comment to my table mate). At my own 7 berachos I was called up acharon acharon chaviv. (Edit: I hired that emcee, so I only have myself to blame)

And just say Last AND least. Do not lie and say last, but not least

The Rosh HaYeshiva does not speak last at dinners and levayas.

So now I am stuck since I gave this vort after ordering people. I had to put people in a certain order. The 2 holy people on the last line are miles ahead of all the GYE people who never uttered a word to me in 7+ years. And of course, I am leaving Kedusha, Dov, and Zemiros Shabbos out of this because I am only counting recent history since this group was started.

We just hit 150 posts, hence I add another.
Edit: And it looks like I just hit 100 (do I get a bag of potato chips or something?)

The following is just a joke:
maybe you should consider changing  your name?

will Succeed Beh wrote on 18 Dec 2016 15:12:

No problem. I figured as much

Shua

Just 1 more post and your off to 100! 

Hi Chevreh, its very good to be part of such an amazing and active group.

The past week i realised something else about myself, through the lens of GYE.

I'v been missing Minyanim of Mincha & Mariv and as well missing the Tefila itself, but i kept on thinking, Na this is just a one off (- a multiply off), end of last week i realised that im missing more Tefilas then the ones i am praying, so i decided that instead of denying that i got a Nisoyen, ill start to work on it!

So for today it worked, and Be''h it will go on.

I think there should be some type of 90 day wall for all sorts of Kaboles, that any one with a specific Kabolo should be able to find support and work together with other people, e.g. non Jewish movies, Tefila, Minyan etc.

Looking forward for comments...

will Succeed Beh wrote on 18 Dec 2016 17:55:

Contrary to Cordnoy trying to deny it, now I know you are not from US. you wrote realised again AND ALREADY DAVENED MINCHA AND MAARIV (assuming it worked today is more than one tefilla) though on US east coast the early mincha daveners have davened Mincha Gedola.

I drive Shua bananas when it seems I am launching investigations, but I just mean to make conversation. I have no idea who you are (even if you will admit you are not in a US time zone)

First i didnt write that i davened Minche & Mariv, i wrote that "it worked".

P.S. i only davend Mincha today and not Mariv, (still another Nisoyen to Pass!) Sorry to spoil you!

Whoops I got so wrapped in your origins, I forgot to respond with something of more substance:

I too would like to flaunt my success in my weight gain and success in not getting angry. Non-Jewish movies is for more down the line. Yes, I am slipping in tefila (not for lust as much as because of tragedies in my life). My Rebbe said I should not loosen my standards.

I told 2 GYEers (shua and Zemiros Shabbos) that on Friday morning after 9 days of SlimFast, I was one hole in a belt tighter. It feels better that I am at least succeeding in 1 area of my life. Though I would take the weight over my other tzaaros any day.

I cannot believe a weight watchers article I read where people would rather have a healthy weight than financial security. I would prefer the financial security and then I would go on a diet

I wrote non-Jewish is more down the line.

When I was in Yeshiva, I reported people you used radios against the rules. I watched Paperclips (! - we are talking about short sleeves and necklines over here) in 2011-11 and spoke to my Rebbe about how I was inspired. And he said watching people not dressed is not an excuse. Keeping Torah is the biggest inspiration. These days, watching NC-17 is safer than me going to watch Tamar and Amnon...

When I get to that level, I will start choosing movies based on Entertainment value vs. looking for highest nudity ratings. Truth be told. I have not sought out a movie with nudity in weeks. Now that I need to give the reason for my password shomer, not likely to happen tomorrow either.

LifneiHashem wrote on 18 Dec 2016 16:09:

Sorry, I will try to quiet down, especially since that is easier than trying to change your handle on GYE

quiet wrote on 18 Dec 2016 18:25:

You are right 100%

That is why it would be a good idea for everyone, to get people on his level and values!

will Succeed Beh wrote on 18 Dec 2016 19:20:

Woa!! I did not say anything about values. If I was the Rav of my shul, I would not say it is OK to watch NC-17 movies. I said when I was in Yeshiva I was makpid (and still was until recently) not to even listen to radio. My wife would be embarrassed to tell me when she listened to the radio in the car.

I preach the most pristine values that I believe. I just happen to be an oisvarf at this juncture

Sorry for not being quiet

quiet wrote on 18 Dec 2016 19:30:

As I wrote on an earlier post, I disregard the GYE definition of fall because I am such an oisvarf that I need to work on MZL, my worst evil, first. Anybody can do that (make your own definitions of slips and falls)

quiet wrote on 18 Dec 2016 19:30:

Right! let me explain myself.

For some watching some movies even non Jewish would be ok - as of the background they grew up with, and for some even listening to Lipa - or watching Kosher Music clips would be off the Derech.

​Usually a person's values, is with what he grew up, and a person aims for what he values (and even if he fights them, it stays inside), even if it seems incapable for him, its his long term goal.

So lets say for instance someone opens a forum or a calendar about stopping to listen to radio, other guys who are on his level {that they are capable to stop listening to radio}, and share his values {that they think this is the correct thing to be done} will be able to will be able to work on this together!

The link that connects all of us, is that we all dis-value - out of marriage relationships, porn, masturbation etc. so the same could be done on a smaller and more colour base.