Hard to understand what you mean excatly because once the itch is there davening alone won't take it away. I guess I just don't fully grasp the concept. I'll take your word for it though.

Ok wel I guess I lack in emuna then. Because logically thats surley hard to grasp. By simply asking hashem to deal with it magic probelm solved. Sounds nice & simple.

So powerlessness is pretty basic for me to understand. Powerless means for me, not that I have no control at all. I just have no control once I start. Meaning taking that first sip can end in nothing, or it can end in a giant fall.
Either way I am powerless to control the outcome once I start.
I do have the power to not take the first sip. I have the power to close the bottle at the first whiff of lust.

But what is surrender? What am I surrendering? Who am I surrendering to?
So I was reading the white book and now I think I understand. I used to think I was surendering my lust. But that just doesn't work for me. After all don't they say that one of the mistakes is asking G-d to take it away so we don't have to. Removing lust has to come from us, we have to want it.
So what I understand now is that I am surrendering the right to do the bad though or action. I say to myself or to my higher power, I have no right or entitlement to this thought, feeling, or action. It could be lust, resentment, anger whatever. But I acknowledge that this thing does not belong in me. I am not entitled. When I make that acknowledgement, it become much easier to let it go.
In other words the surrender doesn't make it go away, the surrender allows me to take it away.
This goes back to the realization that shocked me early on, that I will not die without sex, or porn, or masturbation. By the same token I will not die without lust, fantasy, anger or resentment. That surrender is such a freeing beautiful thing. I was just in a tough spot, so I surrendered several thoughts and actions even multiple times as they kept repeating themselves. It was so incredibly liberating. It just made me smile.

And this notion of leaving it to a higher power makes zero sense if you are an atheist. Athiests believe there is no higher power so what and whom are you leaving it to?

Have you read the "big book?"
It discusses this very issue in the chapter called "We agnostics."
I can offer you my opinion, but why not read what AA has to say about it first, before listening to the opinion of a random anonymous sex addict?

Just one point, that chapter was addressing agnostics and atheists. Waydown is neither.