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Re: I need help, please 10 May 2013 01:53 #206995

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Keep us posted! Good luck!

You aren't just some guy, you sound like a truly amazing person!

Re: I need help, please 10 May 2013 23:14 #207061

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I just posting today because I can. I have had a pretty O.K. day.
My Rabbi always gives me the same advice. "Be happy. The world is good. Just be happy."

Re: I need help, please 11 May 2013 22:08 #207078

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For all your struggles, I am so happy to hear that it is starting to get easier.
Hatzlacha
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Only when we make our real lives sweeter than our fantasies will we reap the emotional rewards, the happiness of recovery. - AlexEliezer
Focus on making the right choices as they come up. - Skeptical
When I start to literally accept G-d's Will as guiding my life today, things start to change. - Dov

Re: I need help, please 12 May 2013 19:58 #207110

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I fell Friday and today. I am not all that upset. I know that Monday when I am buzier I will start another long streak again.

--some_guy/Elias/Eliyahu
My Rabbi always gives me the same advice. "Be happy. The world is good. Just be happy."

Re: I need help, please 12 May 2013 23:09 #207118

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some_guy wrote:
I know that Monday when I am buzier I will start another long streak again.



from your mouth to g-d's ears
Last Edit: 15 May 2013 01:27 by inastruggle.

Re: I need help, please 13 May 2013 03:07 #207133

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Why wait till Monday? And on Tuesday, why worry about what you did yesterday? Just take it one day at a time, and progress will be made inch by inch.

No fall can take away your progress

Re: I need help, please 17 May 2013 23:14 #207300

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Hi everyone,
I had a great Yom Tov. I got to stay at my Rabbi's house and Sunday I am going to 770 for his daughter's wedding. I have stayed clean and have been able to stop myself when I start thinking about bad things. I hope you all have a blessed Shabbat!
--some_guy/Elias/Eliyahu
My Rabbi always gives me the same advice. "Be happy. The world is good. Just be happy."

Re: I need help, please 20 May 2013 20:27 #207424

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Hello,
I fell this morning. I am not going to get depressed over that. I have had about one week clean. That's twice what I could do before! I will pray for more of Hashem's help and I will continue to get better. I realize that its slow, but I am growing. That is enough for me.
--some_guy/Elias/Eliyahu
My Rabbi always gives me the same advice. "Be happy. The world is good. Just be happy."

Re: I need help, please 21 May 2013 02:11 #207453

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Congrats! 7 days is a really long time!

What lead to the fall, and how could you avoid that in the future? For me, in the past if I had a bad day I would fall; I couldn't control the bad day part, but I could control how I reacted to the bad day.

Re: I need help, please 22 May 2013 02:13 #207520

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That day I fell I didn't get out of bed as early as I should of. Now I will be sure to always get up right as I wake up.

--some_guy/Elias/Eliyahu
My Rabbi always gives me the same advice. "Be happy. The world is good. Just be happy."

Re: I need help, please 22 May 2013 03:41 #207522

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yisgaber ka'ari...kdei sh'yehei m'orreir hashachar.


wonderful!

Re: I need help, please 24 May 2013 00:09 #207643

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Hi guys,
Today I feel the need to M really bad. I will try my best to beat it and I think I will be fine. In case you were wondering, I am still trying to not look at any P or this month. I have already fallen twice, but I am still going strong. I feel so free. This drug that I needed is just gone. Even when I do M, I don't get that addictive rush. I never felt like this before.

--some_guy/Elias/Eliyahu
My Rabbi always gives me the same advice. "Be happy. The world is good. Just be happy."

Re: I need help, please 24 May 2013 00:11 #207644

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sorry, I meant "for this month" not "or this month"
My Rabbi always gives me the same advice. "Be happy. The world is good. Just be happy."

Re: I need help, please 24 May 2013 00:29 #207645

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Go do something. It's even better if you can do something with a friend.

Do you have any hobbies? Go for a walk. Organize your junk. Just do something.

Hatzlacha Rabbah!

Re: I need help, please 24 May 2013 22:51 #207701

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Hi everyone,

Unfortunately, I fell this morning. Fortunately, its a 3 day weekend. I don't feel depressed about falling. I went more than a whole week! I still get amazed by that. I read a chapter of Tanya last night that talked about this issue a lot. It really helped. It says reciting the bedtime Shema every night, with this in mind, is teshuva for M . Now that I know how to fix my passed mistakes, I can start moving on to future challenges. I wish you all a happy Shabbos.

--some_guy/Elias/Eliyahu
My Rabbi always gives me the same advice. "Be happy. The world is good. Just be happy."
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