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Ilan posted a question on the forum: Hi Reb GYE and the Rest of Us,About 4 years ago, there was a certain girl who was in one of my university classes. She caught my attention as soon as I saw her, but as a decent observant Jew, I always avoided her like I avoided all gir...

"Be-Holy" posted once on the forum: We have kosher internet Rimon and my temptations are getting lighter, but my issue is that I still can't look my wife in the eye because I wish she looked better, and in my mind, I want her to dress sexier - while at the same time knowi...

"ShomerAiyin" posted on the forum: Sorry to burst everyone's pre-Shavuot highs, but I'm having a bit of a crisis. I don't know how to internalize everything written on this site, including the 12 steps. - I've read the 2 handbooks, both the GYE Handbook and the Attitude ...

Four days ago I came across this website through a Jpost article about GYE after reading some erotica etc, and I was about to go to bed. I literally stayed up from midnight to five in the morning looking at this sight amazed at the genius of it and how Hashem gave the koa...

Someone posted a great question on the forum: I AM WONDERING IF THERE IS ANYTHING ONE CAN DO NOT TO GET STIMULATED FROM TRIGGERING SIGHTS OR SITUATIONS? I AM NOT LOOKING FOR NISYONOS RATHER I AM TRYING TO FIND A WAY HOW TO CONTROL MY MIND AFTER I SEE SOMETHING THAT BOTHER...

Rashkebahag asks on the forum: I find that people under stress are very prone to this addiction. They use it as an escape. I am under stress in many areas of my life. I used to think that maybe the stress is a divine punishment for my bad habit, but now that I am genuinel...

Yosef Yakov Posts a question: "Where I used to view my addiction as an impediment for growth, I realize today how it served as an impetus for growth". There is no doubt whatsoever that Hashem accepts our Teshuva and that the sins stemming from our addictions are being era...

I've been slipping a lot lately, doing things and going places I know shouldn't. It's so hard to fight this addiction. I feel a desperate need inside me for a loving and intimate relationship. I wanted to know what you think about marriage. It's been on my mind lately, I ...

Someone Posted: I am a mental case! I swore to god that I will be clean for 30 days or if I fail then he should take my life because I can’t be bothered anymore, and I still fell! What now?   Dear Yid, you have an illness known as addiction. Rabbi Twerski once responded t...

Q. I am looking for strategies to help me. A bit of background: I have been clean now for 58 days, in large part thanks to my discovery of this site. The strategies & Chizuk from this site have been invaluable. This length of time is a very big accomplishment for me. ...

MosheF asks: I am part of a non-Jewish 12-Step SA fellowship. I wish there was a solution to the disease of addiction in yiddishkeit, but to the best of my knowledge there is none. There is hardly mention of the concept of addiction or a solution in chazal or mussar sefor...

Someone asks: I have been doing a lot of thinking, and I noticed that ever since I've stopped "acting out", for the past 2 and a half months, I've just been facing life difficulties which I don't know how to solve, so I am left with bottled up anger. Before 2 and a half...

"London" writes on the forum to someone who believes that Torah and Mussar will be enough to get him out of his addiction: My question to you is simply this: is what you are doing now working, are you staying sober, staying stopped, and leading a purposeful life? If you a...

Dear Guard, Please read my story below. I need advice about what I must do now. My name is Rabbi Moshe, I am a sex and love addict and a kiruv professional. My addiction has progressed to exhibitionism, threatening my parnosso and my sanity. I am also very addicted to por...

Intro from Dov: A guy wrote back and forth with me basically saying that he really wants to change - yet every suggestion that the program has made for him to actually do, he has refused. All he wants is to recover secretly, on his own. He is sure that unlike everybody el...

My wife (the wife of an addict) was referred to go to a group whose meetings are held at 'Church basements'. Is it permissible to step into a church building? I saw the quote of R' Shmuel Kamenitzki, but he's talking of the addict himself - and this is the way he express...

"Snibril" asks on the forum: Chazal say that "everything is in the hands of heaven besides for the fear of Heaven". How does this fit in with the idea that we should just give over the fight to Hashem? Doesn't "free-choice" mean that Hashem gives the fight ove...

I am new on this website. I have now close to 9 months of sobriety and I am very grateful to Hashem for this. It has given me an unbelievable sense of living guilt-free and normal. Until I started the road of recovery, I always felt like a fake, as if I we...