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Question to the Rav: I am on testosterone injections due to low testosterone and it affected me very strongly. Before the shots I had an ongoing depression, afterwards it went away. While I was functionally married, my wife was the sexual outlet that I needed not to go cr...

Question to the Rav: I am 21. I started mast* at 13. Por* was an issue for many years but now it's under control. My issue is that I get physical pain in that area after about 5 days of not mast*. I have trouble urinating. I did a lot of research and I think what's happen...

Question to the Rav: It's embarrassing, but here goes: I am thirty years old. I have a problem with my prostate where I experience urinary blockage, and regular (non-urine) discharges immediately after using the bathroom. My doctor put me on antibiotics and anti-inflammat...

The Gemara Berachos (34b) tells us "Penitents occupy a level that even the completely righteous cannot achieve." While this statement is encouraging and inspiring, what does it really mean and how can it be fair? Why should people who are consistently righteous and moral...

Football is a game played by men Gotta run, hit da ground and get up again Preparation durin' the week is a definite must - and so it is with recovery from lust. Gotta shvitz, gotta train, muscles to build Otherwise, you gonna get killed Guys on the other side can be ...

This is a little something I wrote upon hearing the sad news of the famous actor, Philip Seymour Hoffman's passing, due to an overdose of drugs (after being clean for 23 years). The news touched me deeply and this is my reflection... While many mourn Philip S. Hoffman's f...

Ben Zoma said that the strongest force of the heart's might is the power to overcome evil inclination. Courage in battle is not as great; there are many strong, brave warriors who have learned the arts of war and know how to fight. But the battle of the evil inclination d...

It was a long hard day. The presentation had to be perfect. The future of the company depended on it. The livelihood of 12 families depended on it. They all depended on me. No sweat. I knew we had a good product. I knew how to sell it and I knew who to sell it to. I was j...

Lyrics: Way back in the stone age,It wasn’t yet the phone age,It was two cans and a string Or you were all a lone-age But nowadays we call,All ppl large and small If you don’t have a cell phone You are Neanderthal A cell phones a good start But why not make it smart,A ph...

Therapists have been known to comfort clients who experience anxiety-provoking and obsessive thoughts, by telling them, “There is no need to feel fear or shame about the thoughts that run through your head. Thoughts do not really mean anything and don’t hurt anyone.” W...

While acknowledging your gratitude, indulge in the feeling of joy and peace that comes from living in the moment.

Problem is, addicts just can't remember not to keep using their drug of choice. That's why they need sponsors and support groups to remind them.

In addiction recovery, a sure sign a person is making progress is the re-emergence of the emotional life. Let yourself feel!

I thought you disappeared You monster called addiction I let myself believe that I’ll be safe. I thought I could enjoy The gift called sobriety And my trust won’t be broken yet again. And then Like a bullet rammed into my heart My bubble was shot And my complacency, sere...

This was written by a teenage girl who’s “been there done that” and wants to help YOU avoid getting caught up in this mess. 1) Ok, we know it's assur (the source is in the Igros Moshe, and many other places) 2) Most parents don't let, and if they find out they'll ki...

Rebbe Nachman of Breslov taught... From Reb Nosson's Letters: "Even while the gates are closed and locked on every side and in every corner—so that one ought mistakenly have thought that there was no hope, G-d forbid—I still believe that there remains ple...

Every time you say "no" to your obsessions, it is priceless. It's another step up, and no step goes to waste. Remember this parable: Even if someone is heading out to the other side of town and on the way he slips on the ice, all he needs to do it just get up and continue...

Ask yourself: "Who is my G-d? The master of the universe, or flesh, blood, veins and bones?”