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Dear Friend, I have come to visit once again. I love to see you suffer mentally, physically, spiritually, and socially. I want to make you restless so you can never relax. I want to make you jumpy, nervous, and anxious. I want to make you agitated and irritable so everyth...

It's interesting to note, that although there were four people who never sinned; Binyamin, Amram, Yishai, and Kilav (son of Dovid HaMelech), only Yosef is called a Tzaddik - Yosef Hatzadik. Why? Because he was tempted and withstood the temptation. In my opinion, every mem...

We have a new member on our forum, Bruce, who is 22 years old and has struggled with this addiction for many years. He comes from a broken home and struggles also with religion as well as many other issues, but he is desperate to break free, because, as he writes: "I want...

ShomerAiyin had a slip after 12 days and writes: I remember saying "No" to the Yetzer Hara quite a number of times during the past 12 days, so I guess that's gotta count for something. But the fact that I've only been able to string together bunches of clean days separate...

Today is a special day for FOUR reasons. Firstly, today is Yesod shebi'Yesod of the Seffirah. Everyone knows that Yesod represents the area of Shmiras Habris, so today is a very auspicious day for progress in these areas. Secondly, today is the Yartzeit of Rav Shlomkeh Z...

On our journeys through life, we are often subjected to tests that we could not withstand, and failures that seemed catastrophic and irreversible at the time. We wondered what G-d wanted from us, and why we had to undergo such trials and tribulations. But one day we will ...

I would like to bring a few inspiring post from "London" on the forum to various strugglers. London's experience is very precious, as he has learned some solid technique in battling this relentless addiction over the years through his membership in the 12-Step fellowships...

The GYE Logo is of a man on a tightrope. This is based on the famous saying of Rebbe Nachman: "The whole world is a very thin bridge, and the main thing is not to be afraid at all". There was a deep and lively discussion recently on the forum (starting on this page and c...

Yosef Yakov Posts a question: "Where I used to view my addiction as an impediment for growth, I realize today how it served as an impetus for growth". There is no doubt whatsoever that Hashem accepts our Teshuva and that the sins stemming from our addictions are being era...

There is no such concept as "I am not cut out for learning", yet many people FEEL that way. When we where young, we where FORCED to learn, and that in itself often took away from us the CHESHEK. It is a crime that some parents, teachers and rebbe'im robbed the Cheshek fro...

What is Simcha? Is it being happy? Is it being funny, laughy or giggly? Is it having a blast? I'll tell you what Simcha is. Did you ever see an old Jew sitting by his grandson's wedding with a faint smile curling up at the corner of his lips? That is Simcha. He's not jump...

Let us all remind ourselves what it was that pushed us to seek help. What was it about the addiction that we hated the most? If we focus on that, it will help us not to slip or fall. For me it was as follows: A. I was using it as a crutch for instant gratification B. I kn...

Here is "Me's" very inspiring e-mail to us (edited for clarity). There is much to be learned from it: Shalom, B"H, tonight is my 2nd arrival at 90 days. The first time, I was running fearfully from the Yetzer Hara until I ended up falling. The second time around though, I...

Two people can be "outwardly" doing the very same thing (like shmiras habris for example), and yet on the "inside", they are completely different.1) You can be doing shmiras habris by: Running franticly from the y"h thereby feeling pressure, fear, anxiety, eventual exhaus...

One of the greatest obstacles stopping a person from changing is the notion that it can be done without a lot of investment. We live in the generation of instant results, and we come to expect that whatever needs to happen should happen quickly. Furthermore, we tend to fo...

I have had one of the greatest two weeks in my life in a long time. I am a bit apprehensive though. I am scared. How can one possibly continue like this. Is it possible? Please, Please give me chizuk. I know in the past I failed. I feel I will not fail this time. But I a...

The destruction and renewal that the month of AV represents is the 'Alef - Beis' of our journey on this world. Maybe that is why it is spelled 'Alef- Beis.'

IN THIS WEEKS PARSHA WE FIND THE MOST MOST MOST (THAT'S A LOT OF MOST) FUNDAMENTAL QUESTION IN THE TORAH:"WHAT DOES G-D WANT FROM ME???"V'ATAH YISROEL MAH HASHEM ELOKECHA SH-EL MEI-IMCHA??I WILL STOP AT THE FIRST WORD: "VE'ATA""VE'ATA" IS LASHON OF TESHUVAH "VE'ATA" MEAN...