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From www.briskodesh.org on the seriousness of spilling seed, according to Kabbala. Just like a person creates children through intercourse, so too, souls are drawn down every time a person spills seed. These souls are immediately captured by the forces of ...

Sometimes, when we find ourselves drawn, time and time again, to look at things we know we shouldn't, we ask ourselves, "wouldn't it be great if I just couldn't see"? But then, we start to think about how wonderful it is to be able to see. We begin to realize that withou...

A non-Jewish sex therapist in Maryland wrote on one of the forums of Arutz Sheva (on the subject of porn addictions): "While many men watch pornography to stimulate their sexual excitement with their wives, the opposite is the case. The experience of our clinic and studie...

We all know how the attraction to women makes no logical sense. It is part of our animal nature, given to us by G-d for the sole purpose of the perpetuation of mankind. As our sages said, "everyone knows that a woman is a barrel of excrement and that her mouth (allegoric...

From the Medrash Yalkut Shimoni, Vayechi THE FOLLOWING STORY HAPPENED TO RABBI MATYA BEN CHERESH WHO WOULD ALWAYS BE SITTING IN THE BET HA MIDRASH ENGAGED IN TORAH STUDY AND THE BRILLIANCE OF HIS FACE RESEMBLED THE SUN AND THE APPEARANCE OF HIS FACE RESEMBLED THAT OF THE ...

Sometimes when a person tries to guard his eyes the evil inclination tells him "why are you not letting yourself experience the beauty that G-d created in his world? There is so much incredible beauty out there, why do you try to ignore it?" One must realize though that "...

If you struggle a lot with intense desire, it means you have a lot of emotional / spiritual energy in you. It is the people like you that have the capacity for the most intense spiritual connection with G-d. However, you need to learn to channel this energy in the right w...

Excerpts from an article called "Biblical Sexual Morality" From www.KosherTorah.com by Ariel Bar Tzadok. Sexual "purity" plays a major role in the Torah concept of holiness. Indeed, the following parasha Kedoshim opens with the words, "You shall be holy, for I HaShem y...

Everything we are and everything we have, belongs to G-d. So what can we, mere mortals, give back to G-d? When we say no to our evil inclination, we are giving G-d something back. As one X-addict wrote; "The only thing I feel I truly gave G-d in my whole life was giving...

Someone who is addicted to por-nogrophy lives in a perpetual cycle, that alternates between three basic states. 1) Void: A feeling of a deep void of "I need, need need". Not a very happy state, to say the least. 2) Giving in: Letting go to "supposedly" fill the void. ...

The yetzer hara has a trick to get us to sin. Sometimes he makes us believe that without us giving in to these desires, our lives feel dark, void and empty. A person could have the most fulfilling life. A wonderful wife, beautiful children, a good job, a good spiritual ...

The whole world is running after happiness, for what more can a person ask for in life? But what people don't know, or what they choose to ignore, is the simple fact that true happiness only comes from a real inner peace, and not from ANYTHING external. This is hard for p...

Although we are encouraged to be humble, this is only when we are doing good deeds. This means that even when we think we have done much good, we must always remember that no man has yet fulfilled his obligations fully to G-d. However, when we go out into the street and a...

A fellow struggler writes on the forum of jewishsexuality.com: I am not very educated in these things, but from my own experience and struggles I can at least say: G-D is very true and frequently helps you when you ask for the right things (in the right way)! Every tim...

All the fascination we have for sexual desire is satisfied in a few seconds. After that we feel sick from it and don't even want it anymore. What a gyp! Is it worth it for this to give away Hashem, with whom our fascination can never be quenched, and with whom the more w...

Let's go back to the ABC's and see what G-d wrote in the Torah about the Yetzer Hara. When Kayin was not willing to sacrifice to G-d as much as Hevel was, G-d turned away from his offering. Kayin felt rejected and so G-d said to him:"Why are you sad? If you will do better...

To truly be free of the insidious desires, we need to make a true and final decision that we don't want these things anymore. When we are standing in Shul on Rosh Hashana or Yom-Kippur, or when we are meeting with a Rabbi we truly respect, is there anything we want more i...

Long ago, Rabbi Nachman of Breslov had recognized Simcha as the key to success in fighting the evil inclination and coming truly close to HaShem. In stressing the importance of Simcha he went so far as saying that depression - the antithesis of Simcha - constitutes "the m...