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See www.gye.org.es for our Spanish website.

We hope to have a Spanish forum there too shortly.

hatzlacha!
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shtickelherring wrote on 12 Sep 2012 10:19:

I'm off home for sukkos iy'h...can anyone offer advice/eitzos for a successful and clean bein hazmanim? The hardest times of the year, away from the koslei beis medrash...
Thanks!


www.guardyoureyes.com/the-gye-program/20-tools/item/tool-7?start=1
All I can say is "Wow".
dov wrote on 07 Sep 2012 00:15:

And thank-G-d for Guard! He is not a nutball...what a compliment! (He knows I love him and respect him a great deal, so I can get away with those compliments! ;D But it's true, he really isn't a nutball...and I know nutballs... :)


I have haskamos from many Gedolim, but this one means more to me than any of them! ;D

"Guard is not a nutball, and I know nutballs." - Dov
lookingforwardtochange wrote on 06 Sep 2012 22:40:

The link doesnt work, Can you please fix it, or Pm it to me.
Thanks!


The link only works for Married members.
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We're making soon our once-a-year e-mail appeal (during Aseres Yimei Teshuvah) to thousands of Jews around the world, to help us continue our holy work. The appeal is worth to GYE as much as a fund-raising trip to the U.S, and sometimes even more! Experience shows us that for every e-mail address we send the appeal to, we get about $1 in donations. We want to ask you a big favor that will help us A LOT, but won't cost you anything: To please help us gather e-mail addresses.

If you have a Gmail account, here (below) is a program and instructions that will help you extract all e-mail addresses that are found in your Gmail account. No one will know that you gave us their addresses, and they will receive only one e-mail from us a year. We anyway all want to spread the word about GYE, so besides for helping us with the appeal, you will also be helping spread the word about GuardYourEyes!

If you are not interested in bothering with the instructions below but you still want to help us, you can send us your username and password to your Gmail account and we'll do it ourselves. We won't enter your account, we'll only put the info into the program and let the program extract the addresses. (You can change the password afterwards if it makes you more comfortable :-))

Here are the instructions for whoever can do it themselves:

1) Download the program: www.yousendit.com/download/TEhYYURDTk1UWUFLSk5Vag />
2) Put in code 23393656

3) Put in your Gmail username and password

4) Select all "Extraction Options"

5) Select "All Mail"

6) Select 1b. Get Some E-Mails.

7) See what the Maximum is (that is the amount of messages you have in your account). If the maximum is lower than 20,000 you can run it all at once. If it's more, say 40,000, run first from 1 to 20,000 for now. Then when you finish saving this list you'll do 20,000 - 40,000.

8.) When it finishes running, press "Remove Duplicates" - wait for the progress bar to finish (depending on amount, it can take hours)

9) When it finishes, save it as "Gmail Friendly List", which will save it as a CVS file. (Name it, say "1 - 20k". If you need to repeat, save the second file as "20k - 40k")

10) When you've finished, please
send us all the CVS files.

Thank you and Tizke Lemitzvos!

P.S. If you don't have a Gmail account, maybe you can just send us the contacts in your address book...
Eye.nonymous wrote on 06 Sep 2012 17:02:

A separate point that I wanted to mention is that I am very confused right now about lust in marriage. For a while at the end of my previous long clean streak (1 year 2 months) I had been getting a feeling like, "How much am I really sober and how much am I just holding out to satisfy my lust with my wife?"

So, a few nights ago we definitely weren't going to be having marital intimacy for certain reasons. I was really disappointed and angry about it, though I was trying to accept it. Still, I had this feeling, "well, I'm going to try to get SOMETHING, after all." We got a little bit, shall I say, involved, and this lead to z"l--but I was surprised, as we weren't really doing anything THAT involved. So, on one hand, my wife was involved--this wasn't p*rn or m*sturbation and it was a bit unexpected, on the other hand, my intention was definitly not pure.

I am inclined to call this a fall, but I don't know if that would be being extreme. On the other hand, I don't want to go too easy on myself either. So, any thoughts on the matter would be greatly appreciated.

--Elyah


In general, intentional hotzas zera livatala is considered a fall if there was an orgasm, regardless of how it happened.

If it wasn't fully intentional or there wasn't an orgasm, efshar lehakel

Regarding lust in marriage and bedroom life in general, I uploaded a shiur specially for you - which you can listen to with your wife.

www.guardyoureyes.org/forum/index.php?topic=5652.0 (FOR MARRIED GUYS ONLY)
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