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Re: Lonely but trying (trying but lonely) 30 Jan 2025 14:59 #430432

iwantlife Current streak: 18 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 165 Karma: 21	Mazel Tov! May you be zoiche to much nachas from him and all your chayos!
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Re: Lonely but trying (trying but lonely) 30 Jan 2025 15:20 #430434

rebakiva Current streak: 202 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 260 Karma: 16	Mazel tov Mazel tov!!! תזכה לגדול לתורה לחופה ולמעשים טובים!!!
	Talking with someone, is not about getting advice, it's about frienship, accountability & distraction; Please feel free to contact me at 347-494-0430 {google voice} at any time or; PM me at mevakesh247@gmail.com Check out My story here: My strategy is to fight it with excitment ביחד ננצח

Re: Lonely but trying (trying but lonely) 30 Jan 2025 21:39 #430457

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Mazel Tov!! Lots of Yiddishe Nachas!!

!אנא עבדא דקודשא בריך הוא

וּבְיָדְךָ כֹּחַ וּגְבוּרָה וּבְיָדְךָ לְגַדֵּל וּלְחַזֵּק לַכֹּל

"If it would be so easy there wouldn't be a GYE, but if it would be impossible there also wouldn't be a GYE."
"Sometimes a hard decision leads to an easier outcome."
- General Grant

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Re: Lonely but trying (trying but lonely) 31 Jan 2025 04:27 #430472

lamaazavtuni Current streak: 6 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 224 Karma: 6	Mazel tov!!! He should bring much nachas and kedusha into this world!!!
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Re: Lonely but trying (trying but lonely) 31 Jan 2025 19:14 #430528

amevakesh Current streak: 613 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 376 Karma: 37	Mazel Tov!!! May you be Zoche to tons of Nachas from him, and the rest of your beautiful family.
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Re: Lonely but trying (trying but lonely) 13 Feb 2025 17:47 #431322

odyossefchai Current streak: 217 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 332 Karma: 15	אחי וריעי I will iyh be making bris Sunday (in my neighborhood) If you have a Hava Amina of coming, please let me know and I will send you the invitation. May we be zoche to share growth and simchos together. (Also does explain my absence from GYE the last few weeks)
	I didn't believe I could be clean Until I actually got clean. If I can do it, you can too! 845 445 9131 odyossefchai613@gmail.com

Re: Lonely but trying (trying but lonely) 14 Feb 2025 00:37 #431340

amevakesh Current streak: 613 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 376 Karma: 37	Wow! Mazel Tov!!!!!!!!!!! Wish I could be there. You are one of my biggest inspirations. תזכה לגדלו לתורה לחופה ולמעשים טובים בקדושה ובטהרה!!!!!!!!!
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Re: Lonely but trying (trying but lonely) 14 Feb 2025 03:49 #431351

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odyossefchai wrote on 13 Feb 2025 17:47:

אחי וריעי

I will iyh be making bris Sunday (in my neighborhood)

If you have a Hava Amina of coming, please let me know and I will send you the invitation.

May we be zoche to share growth and simchos together.

(Also does explain my absence from GYE the last few weeks)

Was actually thinking about you tonight and was planning on reaching out to find out if you're ok.
Mazal Tov!!!!

Please feel free to reach out anytime at chaim.oigen@gmail.com

Perhaps you'd enjoy seeing Chaim's Oigen

Re: Lonely but trying (trying but lonely) 14 Feb 2025 16:14 #431366

Muttel Current streak: 332 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 625 Karma: 30	I join the chorus of wishing you Mazel Tov. You're an inspiration and I wish I can be there..... א סאך נחת!!!!!
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Re: Lonely but trying (trying but lonely) 26 Feb 2025 17:58 #432124

odyossefchai Current streak: 217 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 332 Karma: 15	Gentlemen, I have returned. I apologize for my leave of absence. All is well BH in the holy Chai household. Urges have been coming back a little over the last few days (mental urges only BH) Probably to be expected several weeks after a baby. Looking forward to being back and posting regularly. I missed you all tremendously.
	I didn't believe I could be clean Until I actually got clean. If I can do it, you can too! 845 445 9131 odyossefchai613@gmail.com

Re: Lonely but trying (trying but lonely) 26 Feb 2025 18:14 #432126

amevakesh Current streak: 613 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 376 Karma: 37	odyossefchai wrote on 26 Feb 2025 17:58: Gentlemen, I have returned. Looking forward to being back and posting regularly. I missed you all tremendously. Welcome back!!! The feelings are mutual!!!
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Re: Lonely but trying (trying but lonely) 17 Mar 2025 14:56 #432869

odyossefchai Current streak: 217 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 332 Karma: 15	Looking for a davening/minyan accountability partner/s It needs serious improvement. Maybe we can form a group of people who are interested in working on their davening attendance etc.
	I didn't believe I could be clean Until I actually got clean. If I can do it, you can too! 845 445 9131 odyossefchai613@gmail.com

Re: Lonely but trying (trying but lonely) 17 Mar 2025 15:19 #432878

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Here's a thought. Maybe it's better to find someone in your shul for that. Someone who will actually see if you show up or not.

Not to negate the real friends here as "fake internet people" but in person accountability is much more real.

Links: TBOTG (and a peirush); F2F Program; Hall of Fame thread; Dov's 12 Step Workshop recordings; Welcome New Members; Muttel's Bochur Schmooze; The GYE edited Easy-Peasy book; The Big Book (a pdf version) (and the White); Markz's compilation thread; Accountability relationships;
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Re: Lonely but trying (trying but lonely) 31 Mar 2025 12:14 #433823

odyossefchai Current streak: 217 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 332 Karma: 15	I thought about that but if it was just a plain davening issue, maybe I would get help locally. But I feel it's tied to a lot of the other issues in my life and wanted help from people here who understand our struggles. My offer still stands. If anyone wants to create some kind of accountability group or just some daily encouragement to daven and try with a minyan, please reach out.
	I didn't believe I could be clean Until I actually got clean. If I can do it, you can too! 845 445 9131 odyossefchai613@gmail.com

Re: Lonely but trying (trying but lonely) 31 Mar 2025 12:24 #433824

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Some quick updates.

Life is good/bad/ugly/great all in one.
BH for family, and all the stability that it brings.
Speak to people who don't have that, and they'll tell you the hell they go through! So with all the stress it brings, it's still way better than the alternative.
If I was my age and single/no kids, I'd be a mess.
Having a family, kids I can hug and laugh with/ learn with/vacation with, sit at the shabbos table with, is a super duper huge bracha that shouldn't be taken for granted.

Yesterday, I was at a Jewish mall and had to be perched outside a clothing store for 7 hours. (It had to be that way, for whatever reason)
Let's just say that shmiras einayim was a big fat zero.
Or minus a million.
Wife has been a little distant lately and my mind was thinking about all the beautiful women I got to see and I was as TRIGGERED as a liberal seeing a Tesla. Anyways, I was about as close as wanting to fall as I've been since I got here on GYE but BH I was able to push things away from my mind.
If you want to know what wife being distant means, we went out to eat last night, and barely spoke the entire time. I did notice that the ceiling there was much taller that I thought it was so hey, it wasn't a complete waste of time!

Anyways, enough kvetching for me.
I won by not falling and the urges passed quickly.
I'm 10,000,000,569,872 miles further along my holiness journey than I was 8 months ago.
I've learned a lot and I'm still learning.
Does life get easier? Maybe not. But we have the opportunity to learn how to deal with things and grow as people. Stuff that bothers us will always be there but it's our job to learn how to navigate. And I've learned bucketfuls since joining GYE.

God bless GYE and God bless all you holy tzadikim who have come here to work on improving your holiness.

I didn't believe I could be clean
Until I actually got clean.
If I can do it, you can too!

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