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Re: it's been a while 09 Jun 2024 13:49 #414905

5770 Current streak: 148 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 363 Karma: 7	day 6. Got a lot of 'alone' time next week so gonna have to keep GYE website on speed dial

Re: it's been a while 09 Jun 2024 19:02 #414918

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Hey, take a look at my stream. We have had a lot in common and not much different in age. (In my case it was my parents who found the magazines ) I know it's difficult and hard to imagine opening up and talking directly to someone about this, especially for people like us who have kept this secret for sooooo long. Reading this stream what SCREAMS out (and I still hear the echo of my screams after being clean 1.5 years) is a sense of loneliness. The ONLY way to truly make progress is by making human contact. You can break the ice with an anonymous phone conversation to get over the initial discomfort.

This struggle has gone public! There are close to 100k people who listen to the daily וימאן via Whattsapp. If you don't already I works strongly recommend joining. It is a daily chizzuk that is unbelievable. There are countless rabbonim who are aware of these struggles.

I would be happy to speak with you.

Re: it's been a while 14 Jun 2024 22:47 #415125

5770 Current streak: 148 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 363 Karma: 7	" The ONLY way to truly make progress is by making human contact. " I guess I believe you - makes sense, after all it is the only thing I've not actually done Will think about joining a call or something, although I am not wildly excited about talking about it in person Good Shobbos gents.

Re: it's been a while 16 Jun 2024 22:04 #415186

5770 Current streak: 148 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 363 Karma: 7	OK so just suppose I did one of these calls.. are there any that run mornings/EST time?

Re: it's been a while 16 Jun 2024 22:27 #415193

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I would start with a one on one anonymous call.
HHM (Hashem Help Me) has helped more people than I can count and is definitely the right person for the first call. You can private message him or email him at michelgelner@gmail.com

i would be happy to speak with you as well. Please feel free to PM me.
There are ways to setup an anonymous Google voice account.

I spent so many years of hopelessness thinking I was all alone. That sense of Yiush is the YH number one tool in this battle. These forums are an unbelievable tool but talking about this with someone real is what is really needed to start to turn the tide of this battle.

Re: it's been a while 16 Jun 2024 22:41 #415194

eraygrand Current streak: 581 days OFFLINE Expert Boarder Posts: 95 Karma: 10	Another thought here, what have you done to limit access with filters? I have been clean for over 450 days but I wouldn't have lasted more than a week if I hadn't removed easy access. I think this is especially true for people in our age bracket

Re: it's been a while 21 Jul 2024 22:09 #417482

proudyungerman Current streak: 323 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 485 Karma: 25	Indeed, it has been a while... How are you doin'?
	Feel free to reach out and say hi! proudyungerman@gmail.com 406-219-8398 My Journey: guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/406231-The-Real-Me

Re: it's been a while 27 Aug 2024 21:35 #420192

5770 Current streak: 148 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 363 Karma: 7	hey guy,s welcome to you. Hope you are feeling well. OK my numbers are not great .... but I promise they are hot off the machine!

Re: it's been a while 10 Sep 2024 15:58 #421211

chosemyshem OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 747 Karma: 45	5770 wrote on 27 Aug 2024 21:35: hey guy,s welcome to you. Hope you are feeling well. OK my numbers are not great .... but I promise they are hot off the machine! 62 is definitely not "not great". I'd say it is in fact, pretty great. How are things going?
	Links: TBOTG (and a peirush); F2F Program; Hall of Fame thread; Dov's 12 Step Workshop recordings; Welcome New Members; Muttel's Bochur Schmooze; The Easy-Peasy book; The Big Book (a pdf version) (and the White); Markz's compilation thread; Accountability relationships; Me: My trip. Please feel free to reach out. CLICK HERE TO JOIN THE VAAD PROJECT. HERE is an explanation of the Project.

Re: it's been a while 13 Sep 2024 21:43 #421484

5770 Current streak: 148 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 363 Karma: 7	hey thanks for posting! All good here, although my health quite unexpectedly dropped out the window - - we are literally tracking the day the same as my "clean" days! Thank you and wonderful Shabbat!
	Last Edit: 13 Sep 2024 21:44 by 5770.

Re: it's been a while 13 Sep 2024 21:45 #421485

BenHashemBH OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 762 Karma: 23	5770 wrote on 13 Sep 2024 21:43: hey thanks for posting! All good here, although my health quite unexpectedly dropped out the window - - we are literally tracking the day the same as my "clean" days! Thank you and wonderful Shabbat! Oy. Refuah Sheleima!
	Today is yesterday's tomorrow. The yetzarim a person has the most trouble dealing with are his most powerful God-given tools for developing his potential and achieving shleimus. It doesn't matter how big the number is, only that today it is going up by one. A little about what I'm doing here: guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/412971-I-Want-to-Help-Others