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Re: Nothing to lose - Update 96 29 May 2024 03:07 #414279

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Day 2
"Excuses are the tools of incompetence" -My Friends Friend.

"Change will lead to insight far more often than insight will lead to change" -Milton H. Erickson
But I guess you can learn from the insights other have attained through change.

The can't, won't sustainably defeat the want.
-Gye vaad (quoting TBOTG)

Paltiel succeeded because his excitement was stronger than his desire. Which helped him attain mastery over himself. -TBOTG

Re: Nothing to lose - Update 96 29 May 2024 05:22 #414285

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Urges today, they will pass.
I don't feel like I have to write about it every time anymore. 
the only reason I wrote about this one was because it felt like i was at the choice point again and made a better decision to let go.
"Excuses are the tools of incompetence" -My Friends Friend.

"Change will lead to insight far more often than insight will lead to change" -Milton H. Erickson
But I guess you can learn from the insights other have attained through change.

The can't, won't sustainably defeat the want.
-Gye vaad (quoting TBOTG)

Paltiel succeeded because his excitement was stronger than his desire. Which helped him attain mastery over himself. -TBOTG

Re: Nothing to lose - Update 96 29 May 2024 05:40 #414286

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Put inspiration into action, and it lasts longer.
"Excuses are the tools of incompetence" -My Friends Friend.

"Change will lead to insight far more often than insight will lead to change" -Milton H. Erickson
But I guess you can learn from the insights other have attained through change.

The can't, won't sustainably defeat the want.
-Gye vaad (quoting TBOTG)

Paltiel succeeded because his excitement was stronger than his desire. Which helped him attain mastery over himself. -TBOTG

Re: Nothing to lose - Update 96 29 May 2024 13:34 #414305

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Alright after a long day of work ( Manual labor) i find I have urges diffrent than this morning. This morning was "I saw somthing and moved on with my day" this is diffrent. I think after a hard day of work their is a feeling of I earned rest and relaxation and that prompts the urges. Seeing as I fell around this time last time this could have played a role in my last fall.  Coupled with the openness of a new schedule. 
My plan is to go to learn after work but I am still working out the schedule and wanted to note the urges.

edit: the feeling of i earned some relaxation coupled with the entertaining of the idea of an option to give in is what caused me to fall last time and I still feel it here now.

Looking for advice.
I know people say go for a jog break a sweat but I did that all dsy and don't fancy the idea of sweating more.
"Excuses are the tools of incompetence" -My Friends Friend.

"Change will lead to insight far more often than insight will lead to change" -Milton H. Erickson
But I guess you can learn from the insights other have attained through change.

The can't, won't sustainably defeat the want.
-Gye vaad (quoting TBOTG)

Paltiel succeeded because his excitement was stronger than his desire. Which helped him attain mastery over himself. -TBOTG
Last Edit: 29 May 2024 13:37 by notezy.

Re: Nothing to lose - Update 96 29 May 2024 13:42 #414310

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What, besides watching, recharges your battery? If you don't know, maybe time to try a few new things. 
Today is yesterday's tomorrow.
The yetzarim a person has the most trouble dealing with are his most powerful God-given tools for developing his potential and achieving shleimus.
It doesn't matter how big the number is, only that today it is going up by one.

Please feel free to reach out. I'd appreciate connecting with you (via GYE, email, or phone - whatever floats your boat)
A little about me: guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/412971-I-Want-to-Help-Others

Re: Nothing to lose - Update 96 29 May 2024 13:45 #414311

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notezy wrote on 29 May 2024 13:34:
Alright after a long day of work ( Manual labor) i find I have urges diffrent than this morning. This morning was "I saw somthing and moved on with my day" this is diffrent. I think after a hard day of work their is a feeling of I earned rest and relaxation and that prompts the urges. Seeing as I fell around this time last time this could have played a role in my last fall.  Coupled with the openness of a new schedule. 
My plan is to go to learn after work but I am still working out the schedule and wanted to note the urges.

edit: the feeling of i earned some relaxation coupled with the entertaining of the idea of an option to give in is what caused me to fall last time and I still feel it here now.

Looking for advice.
I know people say go for a jog break a sweat but I did that all dsy and don't fancy the idea of sweating more.

So relax. What do you enjoy that's not p&m and/or a gateway to that?
A full day of hard work followed by a powerful night seder and exhaustedly crashing into bed is an amazing way to stay clean and out of all sorts of trouble. But it's totally fine to want to chill after work. You know what you enjoy and what types of activities you need to stay away from. I have full confidence that you can pick a good way of relaxing.

Re: Nothing to lose - Update 96 29 May 2024 15:01 #414320

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I had another fall 
I feel like I am in a new battlground I wasn't expecting this.
I have to recollect myself and make a new plan.
"Excuses are the tools of incompetence" -My Friends Friend.

"Change will lead to insight far more often than insight will lead to change" -Milton H. Erickson
But I guess you can learn from the insights other have attained through change.

The can't, won't sustainably defeat the want.
-Gye vaad (quoting TBOTG)

Paltiel succeeded because his excitement was stronger than his desire. Which helped him attain mastery over himself. -TBOTG

Re: Nothing to lose - Update 96 29 May 2024 15:11 #414321

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notezy wrote on 29 May 2024 15:01:
I had another fall 
I feel like I am in a new battlground I wasn't expecting this.
I have to recollect myself and make a new plan.

That's hard brother. We're here for you and impressed  you're already thinking about what you need to do. You'll get this!
Today is yesterday's tomorrow.
The yetzarim a person has the most trouble dealing with are his most powerful God-given tools for developing his potential and achieving shleimus.
It doesn't matter how big the number is, only that today it is going up by one.

Please feel free to reach out. I'd appreciate connecting with you (via GYE, email, or phone - whatever floats your boat)
A little about me: guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/412971-I-Want-to-Help-Others
Last Edit: 29 May 2024 15:11 by BenHashemBH.

Re: Nothing to lose - Update 96 30 May 2024 04:52 #414370

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Fell again this morning.
"Excuses are the tools of incompetence" -My Friends Friend.

"Change will lead to insight far more often than insight will lead to change" -Milton H. Erickson
But I guess you can learn from the insights other have attained through change.

The can't, won't sustainably defeat the want.
-Gye vaad (quoting TBOTG)

Paltiel succeeded because his excitement was stronger than his desire. Which helped him attain mastery over himself. -TBOTG

Re: Nothing to lose 30 May 2024 17:48 #414394

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המה כרעו ונפלו ואנחנו קמנו ונתעודד"They fall and stay down, but we rise up and overcome."
Keep it up we’re with you 

Re: Nothing to lose - Update 97 01 Jun 2024 18:34 #414457

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Going to keep updating about falls but might not Update every day my progress I'll still be keeping track for myself...
going to play out the new week and see where I go for now that's my plan.
I stayed clean this shabbos and their were some challenges.
"Excuses are the tools of incompetence" -My Friends Friend.

"Change will lead to insight far more often than insight will lead to change" -Milton H. Erickson
But I guess you can learn from the insights other have attained through change.

The can't, won't sustainably defeat the want.
-Gye vaad (quoting TBOTG)

Paltiel succeeded because his excitement was stronger than his desire. Which helped him attain mastery over himself. -TBOTG

Re: Nothing to lose - Update 97 02 Jun 2024 04:13 #414466

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Had a fall last night 
"Excuses are the tools of incompetence" -My Friends Friend.

"Change will lead to insight far more often than insight will lead to change" -Milton H. Erickson
But I guess you can learn from the insights other have attained through change.

The can't, won't sustainably defeat the want.
-Gye vaad (quoting TBOTG)

Paltiel succeeded because his excitement was stronger than his desire. Which helped him attain mastery over himself. -TBOTG

Re: Nothing to lose - Update 97 02 Jun 2024 05:32 #414467

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Finished chapter 26 of TBOTG.
"Excuses are the tools of incompetence" -My Friends Friend.

"Change will lead to insight far more often than insight will lead to change" -Milton H. Erickson
But I guess you can learn from the insights other have attained through change.

The can't, won't sustainably defeat the want.
-Gye vaad (quoting TBOTG)

Paltiel succeeded because his excitement was stronger than his desire. Which helped him attain mastery over himself. -TBOTG

Re: Nothing to lose - Update 97 02 Jun 2024 13:19 #414480

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Today I will beat that battle I fell at last week simply because I know the battle is coming this time after work. And strengthening myself at this moment my will and desire to be greater then this test.
"Excuses are the tools of incompetence" -My Friends Friend.

"Change will lead to insight far more often than insight will lead to change" -Milton H. Erickson
But I guess you can learn from the insights other have attained through change.

The can't, won't sustainably defeat the want.
-Gye vaad (quoting TBOTG)

Paltiel succeeded because his excitement was stronger than his desire. Which helped him attain mastery over himself. -TBOTG

Re: Nothing to lose - Update 98 03 Jun 2024 03:36 #414521

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I had a fall at the end of the night.
"Excuses are the tools of incompetence" -My Friends Friend.

"Change will lead to insight far more often than insight will lead to change" -Milton H. Erickson
But I guess you can learn from the insights other have attained through change.

The can't, won't sustainably defeat the want.
-Gye vaad (quoting TBOTG)

Paltiel succeeded because his excitement was stronger than his desire. Which helped him attain mastery over himself. -TBOTG
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