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Re: No Despair Allowed 09 Jun 2024 13:42 #414904

שבע יפול צדיק וקם Current streak: 18 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 550 Karma: 33	Good morning, everyone. 20 days of clean eyes. Day #3

Re: No Despair Allowed 10 Jun 2024 13:06 #414952

שבע יפול צדיק וקם Current streak: 18 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 550 Karma: 33	Good morning, all. 21 days or three weeks pornography free! Day #4 Wishing all of you a gut yontif!

Re: No Despair Allowed 14 Jun 2024 02:42 #415075

שבע יפול צדיק וקם Current streak: 18 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 550 Karma: 33	25 days pornography free. Day #8

Re: No Despair Allowed 16 Jun 2024 02:16 #415131

שבע יפול צדיק וקם Current streak: 18 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 550 Karma: 33	גוט וואך, everyone! 27 days pornography free. Day #10

Re: No Despair Allowed 17 Jun 2024 11:56 #415229

שבע יפול צדיק וקם Current streak: 18 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 550 Karma: 33	Good morning, everyone. 28 days pornography free. Day #11

Re: No Despair Allowed 17 Jun 2024 13:20 #415234

Muttel Current streak: 223 days NOW ONLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 499 Karma: 23	Wow, I greatly respect your persistence here, just seeing your thread for the first time... Here's wishing you tremendous Hatzlacha and Bracha in running both counts as high as the sky! Muttel
	We're in this struggle together; feel free to reach out! Muttel15@gmail.com Feel free to call/text! (908) 251-9590 (google) Check out my thread here: guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/413043-My-ENTIRE-story#413043

Re: No Despair Allowed 18 Jun 2024 13:45 #415327

שבע יפול צדיק וקם Current streak: 18 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 550 Karma: 33	Good morning, everyone. 29 days pornography free. Day #12

Re: No Despair Allowed 19 Jun 2024 11:34 #415419

שבע יפול צדיק וקם Current streak: 18 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 550 Karma: 33	Good morning, all. My children are home with me during work this week. That changes up the routine and basically takes away all nisayon for P&M during the day. 30 days or one month pornography free. Day #13

Re: No Despair Allowed 19 Jun 2024 12:48 #415422

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שבע יפול צדיק וקם wrote on 23 Jan 2024 03:30:

Straight and to the point:

I joined GYE four years ago. Through GYE and a few other factors, I was able to avoid my wife's unfiltered computer and phone and I successfully had over 230 days free of masturbation and pornography. A year and a half later, I found myself with an unfiltered work computer and work phone. While I was able to resist temptation for several more months, I ended up falling. Over the last two years, regrettably, I have not able to go longer than a few weeks, maybe a month, without masturbation and sometimes even pornography.
Although I have not been active on this forum, I have been in touch with @Hashem Help Me through text and the occasional phone call. While that has been very helpful, I tend to be פורק עול, get complacent, and be out of touch.
I want to recommit myself to these קדושה matters. I can't do it alone. I need help.

In the past, my posting and activity on this forum has helped me and I hope that, in turn, my story and my commitment to changing my behavior can help and inspire others.

Thank you for reading this post.

Day #1

big yashar koach

Re: No Despair Allowed 19 Jun 2024 12:48 #415423

kohelp613 OFFLINE Senior Boarder Posts: 41 Karma: 1	שבע יפול צדיק וקם wrote on 19 Jun 2024 11:34: Good morning, all. My children are home with me during work this week. That changes up the routine and basically takes away all nisayon for P&M during the day. 30 days or one month pornography free. Day #13 baruch Hashem - brings massive yeshuas to all

Re: No Despair Allowed 19 Jun 2024 12:50 #415424

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Number 1 is perfect internet filters bshleimus - no cutting corners. There is no way around this, and it is stam basic halacha. This is not chumras - this is a shulchan aruch yid’s basic stam requirement. That’s step one. I have struggled with the practical side of this for half a decade - I finally figured it out. If you struggle in this department on practically setting up working filters while still utilizing internet for what you need - then I can help there. One thing to look forward to on this one is that besides keeping halacha and bringing mashiach (because it is known from real living tzaddikim today that turning away from all rishus on the internet brings mashiach) and hugely and massively elevating your kedusha instantly, you also get to separate and be poresh from all the terrible distractions that everyone is sickeningly addicted to their smart phones etc and social media - you get to be FREE from that also.

Re: No Despair Allowed 19 Jun 2024 13:11 #415430

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kohelp613 wrote on 19 Jun 2024 12:50:

I got a filter and at times it definitely appears to be a hinderance. I say appears because nothing that you do for the right reasons will actually cause you to lose out. Darcheha darchei noam. When the filter effects my "normal" use I smile and say Hashem this one's for You. Thank You for sending me more schar for something I already did.

Today is yesterday's tomorrow.
The yetzarim a person has the most trouble dealing with are his most powerful God-given tools for developing his potential and achieving shleimus.
It doesn't matter how big the number is, only that today it is going up by one.

A little about what I'm doing here: guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/412971-I-Want-to-Help-Others

Re: No Despair Allowed 19 Jun 2024 20:24 #415494

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BenHashemBH wrote on 19 Jun 2024 13:11:

kohelp613 wrote on 19 Jun 2024 12:50:

i hear as far as the hinderances but overall the benefits out weight the hinderances

like i said it is brought by living tzaddikim that first of all it is stam halacha not just chumras
and second by keeping this halacha we literally bring mashiach - the idea goes that there is a plugta in sanhedrin if mashiach comes via teshuva or not... one rav says yes, one no. the answer is it is no stira - on the one hand, we don't "do" anything but look away - so that's not even a maaseh really in that sense. but on the other hand - ALL the sins of ALL TIME are on the internet collected there - so by looking away, our dohr has the potential to fix up ALL SINS OF ALL TIME, thus doing teshuva for everyone ever, and bringing mashiach. it is a jaw dropping idea and it makes total sense. suddenly a person can see the amazing opportunity of really really putting up perfect filters b tachlis ha shleimus

Re: No Despair Allowed 20 Jun 2024 13:37 #415534

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Re: No Despair Allowed 21 Jun 2024 02:25 #415578

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Bonus Post!

I have written about this on this thread before. I get past ten days and then I feel like I've already graduated. I've killed the יצר הרע. Obviously, not so. I'm never going to kill the יצר הרע, not in general and not the struggle with desire and lust. I just need to keep my guard up and stick to my plan.
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