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Re: Here we go! 15 Jul 2022 03:13 #383401

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Kedusha wrote on 17 Nov 2010 17:28:

…As we all know, it's forbidden to bring ourselves to have an erection deliberately... That's easier said than done, of course, but we need to try, by focusing our thoughts elsewhere.

What probably concerns you more are the drops of Zerah that come out. I am very grateful to a couple of Rabbanim who clarified this for me when I was close to getting married: Al Pi Halacha, if the Zerah is not "Yoreh k'Chaitz" (literally "shooting like an arrow") the way it does during ejaculation, but just comes out, that does not have the Chomer of Zera l'vatala (and, depending upon other factors, might not even be considered an aveira at all; say it happened to a married man when he was kissing his wife…).
You may get a different answer if you speak with Mekubalim, but I think you'll find it reassuring that, al pi Shas and Shulchan Aruch, you are not dealing with the severe aveira of Zera Levatala.

I had this issue when I was engaged, but not when I was going out (I was too nervous!).

If the Zerah is dry, you can certainly make Berachos. Even if it's not dry, I don't believe it's a problem if it was not a real ejaculation ("Yoreh k'Chaitz"). (Of course, you're better off asking your Sheilos to a Posek, but I'm writing on the Tzad that you find yourself unable to do so).

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Re: Here we go! 15 Jul 2022 03:22 #383402

bisyata dishmaya Current streak: 3 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 167 Karma: 8	TY! OK based on the answers I got. I am not considering it a fall. This answers question 1. If anyone has an answer for question 2 please LMK.
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Re: Here we go! 15 Jul 2022 14:37 #383413

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bisyata dishmaya wrote on 15 Jul 2022 03:07:

I definitely was not enjoying it as I was constantly worrying about it as said in my post. I listen to these stuff because I think it's pretty cool like it's officially supposed to make you smarter have cool dreams and stuff like that if you have google I guess you can check there. The one thing that worried me was that since in the past when listening to binaural beats I got an erection sometimes although without anything coming out maybe I should've known to be more careful so maybe it is a fall?

wouldn't consider it a fall but would stay away from these audios.

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Re: Here we go! 15 Jul 2022 14:53 #383414

lchaim tovim Current streak: 4 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 305 Karma: 22	I am not familiar with listening to this stuff at all. Is this something that you find sexually arousing? If it is, you should probably treat it the same way you would treat anything else which you find arousing.

Re: Here we go! 16 Jul 2022 18:57 #383429

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bisyata dishmaya wrote on 15 Jul 2022 03:07:

I listen to these stuff because I think it's pretty cool like it's officially supposed to make you smarter have cool dreams and stuff like that

JUST MY HUMBLE OPINION:
I would take that with a grain of salt. I don't know of many things clinically proven to make you smarter

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Re: Here we go! 16 Jul 2022 19:05 #383430

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jackthejew wrote on 16 Jul 2022 18:57:

bisyata dishmaya wrote on 15 Jul 2022 03:07:

I listen to these stuff because I think it's pretty cool like it's officially supposed to make you smarter have cool dreams and stuff like that

JUST MY HUMBLE OPINION:
I would take that with a grain of salt. I don't know of many things clinically proven to make you smarter

From Healthline.com: Myth: You can be hypnotized over the internet

Many smartphone apps and Internet videos promote self-hypnosis, but they’re likely ineffective.

Researchers in one 2013 reviewTrusted Source found that these tools typically aren’t created by a certified hypnotist or hypnosis organization. For that reason, doctors and hypnotists advise against using these.
This is the study cited in the quote: www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3804912/

Re: Here we go! 22 Jul 2022 23:20 #383748

bisyata dishmaya Current streak: 3 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 167 Karma: 8	BH 137
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Re: Here we go! 04 Aug 2022 17:10 #384358

bisyata dishmaya Current streak: 3 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 167 Karma: 8	BH 150! 5 months!
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Re: Here we go! 05 Aug 2022 00:45 #384370

DeletedUser1224 Current streak: 399 days OFFLINE Expert Boarder Posts: 138 Karma: 28	Mazal Tov!! Keep going strong!!
	If you are in the same situation as me, a bachur who’s fighting every day to break free, feel free to reach out to me at hopeful1245@gmail.com. I can use the chizuk from other bachrim and im sure you can use the chizuk as well. We are all in this together! My thread on the forum

Re: Here we go! 16 Aug 2022 02:52 #384722

bisyata dishmaya Current streak: 3 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 167 Karma: 8	BH at 162! one day at a time!
	The best tool in my opinion: Every day say Tehillim 16 32 41 42 59 77 90 105 137 150 Hatzlocha! My Thread guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/378555-Here-we-go!

Re: Here we go! 19 Aug 2022 22:27 #384946

bisyata dishmaya Current streak: 3 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 167 Karma: 8	BH 165 have a gr8 and clean Shabbos everyone.
	The best tool in my opinion: Every day say Tehillim 16 32 41 42 59 77 90 105 137 150 Hatzlocha! My Thread guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/378555-Here-we-go!

Re: Here we go! 21 Aug 2022 18:22 #384978

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BH I'M ENGAGED!

Warning: Spoiler!

It happened recently I didn't post it right away in case someone figures out who I am from that info.

The best tool in my opinion: Every day say Tehillim 16 32 41 42 59 77 90 105 137 150 Hatzlocha!

My Thread guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/378555-Here-we-go!

Last Edit: 21 Aug 2022 18:23 by bisyata dishmaya.

Re: Here we go! 21 Aug 2022 18:53 #384981

frank.lee Current streak: 449 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 689 Karma: 21	Wow, Mazal tov! Enjoy the best time of your life! The engagement period, and BeH the rest of your life together!

Re: Here we go! 21 Aug 2022 19:06 #384982

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bisyata dishmaya wrote on 21 Aug 2022 18:22:

BH I'M ENGAGED!

Warning: Spoiler!

It happened recently I didn't post it right away in case someone figures out who I am from that info.

mazel tov!!!

Re: Here we go! 21 Aug 2022 22:58 #384997

bisyata dishmaya Current streak: 3 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 167 Karma: 8	Here's the latest: My yetzer hora is now telling me these days "are you sure you remember to do it are you sure you're still able to?" why not try it once to confirm?
	The best tool in my opinion: Every day say Tehillim 16 32 41 42 59 77 90 105 137 150 Hatzlocha! My Thread guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/378555-Here-we-go!