Just joined flight to freedom
hatzlacha raba to me

613guard wrote on 04 Feb 2022 19:24:

How do you feel about your fall?
What do think about yourself now?
Do you believe you can overcome this eventually? 

An example of Daily motivation for porn 
reaching a clarity: 

1. We will ALWAYS not wanna watch! We are always upset with our behavior! (Since it destroys our hearts and minds and our whole life) The question is when will we tap into it?! Now? Or… after we fall! When we feel like we wish we’re buried under the soil.
2. Once we understand that we’re gonna always be unhappy with our “watching of porn” we’re just giving in to the cycle that we’ll always wanna stop so why not just stop?
3. We truly feel horrible since we made an incredibly stupid decision, we feel sticky and uch! Like why why why! Why did my eyes have to see that!
4. We feel so full of guilt! Like how on earth did i do this?!? And if we’re on a good streak we’ll hear the words in our head I was doing sooooo well now I’m back here!
5. Sad- how did I ruin everything?! Now I’m back to square one.
6. Worthless- we feel our minds are like a toilet.. or better say - an overloaded sewer system! I’m not capable.
7. We feel angry- how many times are we gonna try!?! How many times do I have to see myself fail! How many day,  months and years!!
8. We’re overloaded with a whole bunch of extra tayvos now! A whole new video in our brain! The thoughts an cravings that come because of it are absolutely ridiculous!
9. We’re ruining a chance to have a clear mind
10. The way breaking free works is because this is very visual the more we stay away the more our brain forgets that high and what it looked like and everything like that! And by keep on falling we don’t allow that process to start!
11. We feel like a double standard! Putting on teffilin in the morning and yet doing the biggest aveiros later! It feels like a knife to our heart! We feel so fake! Our sincerity feels like a lie.
12. Ruining a chance to feel free! There’s no better feeling of realizing this parsha is behind me! The constant doubts are gone! The ones like “should I fall?! Should I not?!? But maybe! But it’s right here!” “I’ll just do teshuva right after!” “Oh one video will be enough!” “I’ll feel so much better.”
13. Ruining a chance to look back and realize how long you came! Trust me it’s yetzias mitzrayim! It’s a feeling of “wow I’m a real fighter I’ve been clean for so long”
14. Navigating lust to porn isn’t an option cuz we can’t have a happy frum marriage and home of kedusha and tranquility etc while having this horrible issue in the way! Which means for the - unmarried guys your only buying time by allowing your mind to turn there since we must gain full full control of this before a happy marriage starts and honestly a happy life starts! And for the married guys- your killing your wife and your killing this golden opportunity of a happy household. - We don’t live forever.
15. Porn also means for 99% of people automatically mz”l so it’s really killing a lot of birds with this dumb ugly stone.
16. Porn also ruins the chance for intimacy it’s trains the brain to love that sexual excitement and intensity which will only cause issues cuz sexual intensity never lives up to the hype and it will make one’s mind become completely distorted.

Don’t we wanna avoid all this damage!!??!??

If you wanna mess up your life - go fall. And I’ll see you agree with this in an hour from now… probably, even in 5 minutes from now.

If you wanna stay strong,

Realize this!! It’s true.. this doesn’t make you happy! Go do something instead of this fake stupidity and at least channel your lust to something better. Go get a good sandwich that you’ll actually not kill your life by doing. 

Shtarkandemotional wrote on 06 Feb 2022 19:26:

This is an example of a daily motivation- reaching a clarity! and one of the necessary components to staying clean long term! Hatzlacha. Rooting for you! 

Just spoke to someone for the first time.
bh 

2 weeks straight bh 
shoutout  to hhm and my partner and the whole gye oilam

3 Weeks bh
first time i hit 3weeks since joining gye
Its definitely getting a tiny little bit easier

Doing good beezras hashem
I had very rough day this week
Which in the past would have meant acting out but BH I made it

mishenichnas adar marbim bsimcha 
ain simcha ela torah

Tired and stressed but i will not give up today
i will not give in
i will make it 1day at a time

Had a major nisayon friday 
i ran away 
it was the only option 
and it worked 
and still clean bh 
4 weeks

You're amazing! Keep up the great work!

5Uu80*cdwB#^ wrote on 06 Mar 2022 01:52:

I know! Right?! 
I was just gonna say the same thing! Incredible buddy! 

Moments like these can propel you to unimaginable greatness.  
thanks for sharing and  recognize how much you have changed.  

613guard wrote on 06 Mar 2022 01:05:

Amazing! thank you for the great chizuk that you have given us!

The most basic strategy for dealing with urges is to get away. You want to put as much distance between yourself and the tempting situation as you possibly can. Leaving or escaping can mean going somewhere public, like a different room or outside. If the urge is related to the internet, you can also turn off your computer or put your phone out of sight.

The concept of escape can be traced back to Yosef Hatzadik. When Potiphar’s wife tried to seduce him, he escaped and left the house.

When faced with a tempting situation you can't avoid, remember there's always a moment of grace where you can still catch yourself. Becoming mindful of these small windows of opportunity is essential when dealing with unavoidable triggers.

Thanks everyone for the amazing comments 
It really keeps me going
I had a very busy week 
Bh no major nisyonos