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Re: Square one 03 Jun 2022 05:49 #381504

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BH!! I’m so happy for you and proud of you.
Thank you for keeping us posted, it’s such a chizuk for myself and I’m sure for others as well.
Hatzlocha, Good Shabbos and Gut Yom Tov!!

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Re: Square one 16 Mar 2023 22:02 #393462

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Hey buddy, haven't heard from you in awhile, hope you're doing well.
Please update us when you can, we miss you!
I am a bochur with a passion for meaning and truth, searching to remain clean and live a holy and fulfilling life.

If you are reading this-you have a friend in me.
Feel free to PM me and I'll share my offline contact information, so we can call and text. I'd be honored if you'd trust me with your story and promise to support you in any way I possibly can.
I've been on GYE for over 7 years. "I may walk slow, but I never walk back" (-Abraham Lincoln?).
(For the background and meaning of my username- see Tanya chapter 15).

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Re: Square one 17 Mar 2023 15:51 #393482

OivedElokim wrote on 16 Mar 2023 22:02:
Hey buddy, haven't heard from you in awhile, hope you're doing well.
Please update us when you can, we miss you!

Hey, thanks for checking up on me. 
I still skim through the recent posts page of the forum most days, there's lots of new people active on the forum since I stopped posting, but I usually look at the posts of the names I recognise. 

I think I went through a bit of a rough patch maybe a month or two ago, where I was watching p and and m maybe everyday or two, but BH I think I just got passed that period. I am currently 2 weeks clean from p today (with 1 slip in the middle which I am not counting as a fall), and m maybe every few days, but mostly focusing on avoiding p for the moment. 

In other news I just started dating, we've been on one date so far and the next one is on Tuesday. I think it has helped me so far in the battle against p. From very early on in my journey on GYE, I read/ knew that watching p would impact my relationship with my future wife, but it isn't much of a motivator when it's quite far off and you don't know who it will be. Although my relationship with this girl is just in it's infancy, and only Hashem knows who I'll end up marrying, I have found it to be a motivator so far, knowing that there is a tangible relationship and person that I am ruining if I choose to watch P. 

Re: Square one 17 Mar 2023 17:37 #393484

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Dear Looking to improve, 

I have been following your story since your very early days, from the days of your first thread. All I can say is you are a tremendous inspiration. Don't be disheartened by the fact that this battle is not behind you. Instead be proud that you have been an active fighter and member of gye for so long. If only I was so involved here as a bochur. Bez"H you will find your Bashert Bekorov, and use the skills you have learnt here to take your future marriage to heights of Kedusha, Menucha, and happiness.

Love excellence 

Re: Square one 19 Mar 2023 07:40 #393514

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Looking_to_improve wrote on 17 Mar 2023 15:51:

OivedElokim wrote on 16 Mar 2023 22:02:
Hey buddy, haven't heard from you in awhile, hope you're doing well.
Please update us when you can, we miss you!

Hey, thanks for checking up on me. 
I still skim through the recent posts page of the forum most days, there's lots of new people active on the forum since I stopped posting, but I usually look at the posts of the names I recognise. 

I think I went through a bit of a rough patch maybe a month or two ago, where I was watching p and and m maybe everyday or two, but BH I think I just got passed that period. I am currently 2 weeks clean from p today (with 1 slip in the middle which I am not counting as a fall), and m maybe every few days, but mostly focusing on avoiding p for the moment. 

In other news I just started dating, we've been on one date so far and the next one is on Tuesday. I think it has helped me so far in the battle against p. From very early on in my journey on GYE, I read/ knew that watching p would impact my relationship with my future wife, but it isn't much of a motivator when it's quite far off and you don't know who it will be. Although my relationship with this girl is just in it's infancy, and only Hashem knows who I'll end up marrying, I have found it to be a motivator so far, knowing that there is a tangible relationship and person that I am ruining if I choose to watch P. 

That’s a very good motivator.  To make the motivation last it is helpful to find some concrete changes you can make to help fuel long term sustainable growth.  
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Re: Square one 19 Mar 2023 21:08 #393539

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Looking_to_improve wrote on 17 Mar 2023 15:51:

OivedElokim wrote on 16 Mar 2023 22:02:
Hey buddy, haven't heard from you in awhile, hope you're doing well.
Please update us when you can, we miss you!

Hey, thanks for checking up on me. 
I still skim through the recent posts page of the forum most days, there's lots of new people active on the forum since I stopped posting, but I usually look at the posts of the names I recognise. 

I think I went through a bit of a rough patch maybe a month or two ago, where I was watching p and and m maybe everyday or two, but BH I think I just got passed that period. I am currently 2 weeks clean from p today (with 1 slip in the middle which I am not counting as a fall), and m maybe every few days, but mostly focusing on avoiding p for the moment. 

In other news I just started dating, we've been on one date so far and the next one is on Tuesday. I think it has helped me so far in the battle against p. From very early on in my journey on GYE, I read/ knew that watching p would impact my relationship with my future wife, but it isn't much of a motivator when it's quite far off and you don't know who it will be. Although my relationship with this girl is just in it's infancy, and only Hashem knows who I'll end up marrying, I have found it to be a motivator so far, knowing that there is a tangible relationship and person that I am ruining if I choose to watch P. 

I'm in the same boat in terms of beginning the Shidduchim parsha and that motivating me to stay clean. 

God willing we will both succeed an go on to build beautiful frum, holy, loving relationships and homes.
Wishing you the very best!
OivedElokim
I am a bochur with a passion for meaning and truth, searching to remain clean and live a holy and fulfilling life.

If you are reading this-you have a friend in me.
Feel free to PM me and I'll share my offline contact information, so we can call and text. I'd be honored if you'd trust me with your story and promise to support you in any way I possibly can.
I've been on GYE for over 7 years. "I may walk slow, but I never walk back" (-Abraham Lincoln?).
(For the background and meaning of my username- see Tanya chapter 15).

My current thread 
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