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Re: Keeping Accountability 22 Apr 2021 03:29 #367262

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Day #80!
Wow that's a big number bh!
Not much to say other than, it's starting to feel that I really don't need to act out all the time. I'm getting much used to living without it.
I could face my wife now without having to hide anything. (She caught me a few times after masturbating, but I brushed her off saying that it doesn't happen too often...I'm human... But really I did do it pretty often. But now I feel good that I really don't do it anymore).
I still have urges here and there, but its a whole different life without acting out.

Thank you Hashem!
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Re: Keeping Accountability 22 Apr 2021 04:13 #367264

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Keep the momentum going!
Nothing like breathing in fresh air.

One who has given up hope is without a G‑d.

One who sees hope in each day is already free

Re: Keeping Accountability 22 Apr 2021 04:50 #367267

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HappyYid wrote on 22 Apr 2021 03:29:
Day #80!
Wow that's a big number bh!
Not much to say other than, it's starting to feel that I really don't need to act out all the time. I'm getting much used to living without it.
I could face my wife now without having to hide anything. (She caught me a few times after masturbating, but I brushed her off saying that it doesn't happen too often...I'm human... But really I did do it pretty often. But now I feel good that I really don't do it anymore).
I still have urges here and there, but its a whole different life without acting out.

Thank you Hashem!
Good night
HappyYid

HappyYid I have been following your journey here and I must say I am very impressed with you!

Mazal Tov on this huge accomplishment!

I just want to add a word of caution...Please keep your guard up! It is so easy to fall just that one time (it seems like everyone does!), and it is so very hard to dig yourself up following that fall from such a high place. Every person is different but just sharing my own experiences.

Hatzlocha!

Re: Keeping Accountability 22 Apr 2021 12:00 #367272

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Lou wrote on 22 Apr 2021 04:50:
HappyYid I have been following your journey here and I must say I am very impressed with you!

Mazal Tov on this huge accomplishment!

I just want to add a word of caution...Please keep your guard up! It is so easy to fall just that one time (it seems like everyone does!), and it is so very hard to dig yourself up following that fall from such a high place. Every person is different but just sharing my own experiences.

Hatzlocha!

Thank you!

Yeah I myself have been at 115 days around 3 years ago and fell and since then (until 80 days ago) I haven't put in enough effort to win (I'm 1031 cumulative days). But here I am, putting in the effort...
And bezras Hashem I'll make it to big numbers!
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Last Edit: 22 Apr 2021 12:59 by happyyid.

Re: Keeping Accountability 25 Apr 2021 02:27 #367358

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Bh all is good!

I would like some advice/encouragement.
I am contemplating on switching over to a basic phone. 
I have an iPhone with a few websites allowed, banking apps, Waze, email and other small apps. (No WhatsApp or other social media). I am a 'regular' yeshiva guy learning in Kollel so there's no real need for me to have a smartphone. But I've had it for a few years now and it's really hard just thinking about not having it. 
I'm the type of guy that likes to take care of things, I'm on Google maps alot, banking, email... whatever.
I'm looking for someone that really knows what it feels like to have a smartphone and then to give it up. 
I need some tips/encouragement or something else.
I thinking that I might just have it in the car and I'll keep a basic phone on me with my number, this way I won't be walking around the whole day with it, and only at night I'll check up what I need to... Sounds like a good idea, but I still feel like it will be hard for me. Going to a flip phone, hard to text...

Any ideas? Any advice? All are welcome. But I feel like only someone that had/has a smartphone would really understand me.

Thanks in advance
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Last Edit: 25 Apr 2021 03:27 by happyyid.

Re: Keeping Accountability 25 Apr 2021 04:26 #367359

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I BH have never had a smart phone so I  am not really the one you are looking to hear from. However, I just want to commend you on contemplating this move. I can only imagine how hard it is.
My job supplies me with a fully locked Ipad that can access email,google maps, some games (for the job...) and the company website. Having that has made it infinitely easier for me to withstand the push to get a smart phone.
I am assuming the smart phone itself is not currently your nisayon for Kedusha as that would be a whole different question.
Hatzlocha with your decision!

Re: Keeping Accountability 25 Apr 2021 04:54 #367360

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I changed a couple of years ago to the setup you mention, initially it was annoying, as you say texting etc, but I've gotten used to it. I do keep a smartphone in my car and use it when needed but the flip phone is what i carry along with me. I have a flip phone filtered by "liviginet" with only email accsess, and everything else is blocked.
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Re: Keeping Accountability 25 Apr 2021 12:04 #367362

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Lou wrote on 25 Apr 2021 04:26:
...I am assuming the smart phone itself is not currently your nisayon for Kedusha as that would be a whole different question.
Hatzlocha with your decision!

Correct.

Thanks
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Re: Keeping Accountability 25 Apr 2021 14:11 #367366

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HappyYid wrote on 25 Apr 2021 02:27:
Bh all is good!

I would like some advice/encouragement.
I am contemplating on switching over to a basic phone. 
I have an iPhone with a few websites allowed, banking apps, Waze, email and other small apps. (No WhatsApp or other social media). I am a 'regular' yeshiva guy learning in Kollel so there's no real need for me to have a smartphone. But I've had it for a few years now and it's really hard just thinking about not having it. 
I'm the type of guy that likes to take care of things, I'm on Google maps alot, banking, email... whatever.
I'm looking for someone that really knows what it feels like to have a smartphone and then to give it up. 
I need some tips/encouragement or something else.
I thinking that I might just have it in the car and I'll keep a basic phone on me with my number, this way I won't be walking around the whole day with it, and only at night I'll check up what I need to... Sounds like a good idea, but I still feel like it will be hard for me. Going to a flip phone, hard to text...

Any ideas? Any advice? All are welcome. But I feel like only someone that had/has a smartphone would really understand me.

Thanks in advance
HappyYid

Hey HY, I have a smartphone but it’s dumb because it’s all tagged up and whitelisted. Why do feel you need to change
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Re: Keeping Accountability 25 Apr 2021 14:39 #367373

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Markz wrote on 25 Apr 2021 14:11:

HappyYid wrote on 25 Apr 2021 02:27:
Bh all is good!

I would like some advice/encouragement.
I am contemplating on switching over to a basic phone. 
I have an iPhone with a few websites allowed, banking apps, Waze, email and other small apps. (No WhatsApp or other social media). I am a 'regular' yeshiva guy learning in Kollel so there's no real need for me to have a smartphone. But I've had it for a few years now and it's really hard just thinking about not having it. 
I'm the type of guy that likes to take care of things, I'm on Google maps alot, banking, email... whatever.
I'm looking for someone that really knows what it feels like to have a smartphone and then to give it up. 
I need some tips/encouragement or something else.
I thinking that I might just have it in the car and I'll keep a basic phone on me with my number, this way I won't be walking around the whole day with it, and only at night I'll check up what I need to... Sounds like a good idea, but I still feel like it will be hard for me. Going to a flip phone, hard to text...

Any ideas? Any advice? All are welcome. But I feel like only someone that had/has a smartphone would really understand me.

Thanks in advance
HappyYid

Hey HY, I have a smartphone but it’s dumb because it’s all tagged up and whitelisted. Why do feel you need to change

Because there is still much more to do on it than a basic phone, and I feel like I'm spending too much time on it.
I don't want to get rid of it because of bad stuff, only because of wasted time.
Also I'll make my wife happy.
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Last Edit: 25 Apr 2021 14:39 by happyyid.

Re: Keeping Accountability 25 Apr 2021 23:14 #367401

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HappyYid wrote on 25 Apr 2021 02:27:
Bh all is good!

I would like some advice/encouragement.
I am contemplating on switching over to a basic phone. 
I have an iPhone with a few websites allowed, banking apps, Waze, email and other small apps. (No WhatsApp or other social media). I am a 'regular' yeshiva guy learning in Kollel so there's no real need for me to have a smartphone. But I've had it for a few years now and it's really hard just thinking about not having it. 
I'm the type of guy that likes to take care of things, I'm on Google maps alot, banking, email... whatever.
I'm looking for someone that really knows what it feels like to have a smartphone and then to give it up. 
I need some tips/encouragement or something else.
I thinking that I might just have it in the car and I'll keep a basic phone on me with my number, this way I won't be walking around the whole day with it, and only at night I'll check up what I need to... Sounds like a good idea, but I still feel like it will be hard for me. Going to a flip phone, hard to text...

Any ideas? Any advice? All are welcome. But I feel like only someone that had/has a smartphone would really understand me.

Thanks in advance
HappyYid

I have been dreaming of ways to "downgrade" from a smartphone, but due to work obligations, it would be irresponsible not to have email access.
Some of the options I looked into:

Kosheros - smartphone with very limited appstore, even has appstores for specific yeshivas regulations
www.thekosheros.com

Gabb - an actual dumbphone for kids, but on a smartphone phone, if that makes any sense.
www.gabbwireless.com/

Punkt - a very smart dumbphone, can even connect to  a smartphone somehow.
www.punkt.ch/en/
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Re: Keeping Accountability 26 Apr 2021 01:28 #367419

Just read through this thread start to finish very good stuff!

Can't wait to celebrate with you!
Think about how good you'll feel if you say no to desire and compare that to how bad you'll feel if you say yes.

Desire is unique in the way that it is never fulfilled -  if you give in the desire comes back even more powerful in just a few days. Telling yourself that its ok because this is really the last time doesn't work because you are just adding new images to your head that will cause future falls.

The Joy of triumph over the yetzer hara is worth the effort it takes to win. It IS worth it! Keep fighting!


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Re: Keeping Accountability 26 Apr 2021 01:56 #367423

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EvedHashem1836 wrote on 26 Apr 2021 01:28:
Just read through this thread start to finish very good stuff!

Can't wait to celebrate with you!

Wow thank you I feel touched 

Yes looking forward!
What's on the menu??
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Re: Keeping Accountability 26 Apr 2021 02:34 #367427

Pre shavuos cheesecake?
Think about how good you'll feel if you say no to desire and compare that to how bad you'll feel if you say yes.

Desire is unique in the way that it is never fulfilled -  if you give in the desire comes back even more powerful in just a few days. Telling yourself that its ok because this is really the last time doesn't work because you are just adding new images to your head that will cause future falls.

The Joy of triumph over the yetzer hara is worth the effort it takes to win. It IS worth it! Keep fighting!


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Re: Keeping Accountability 26 Apr 2021 22:02 #367459

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HappyYid wrote on 25 Apr 2021 02:27:
Bh all is good!

I would like some advice/encouragement.
I am contemplating on switching over to a basic phone. 
I have an iPhone with a few websites allowed, banking apps, Waze, email and other small apps. (No WhatsApp or other social media). I am a 'regular' yeshiva guy learning in Kollel so there's no real need for me to have a smartphone. But I've had it for a few years now and it's really hard just thinking about not having it. 
I'm the type of guy that likes to take care of things, I'm on Google maps alot, banking, email... whatever.
I'm looking for someone that really knows what it feels like to have a smartphone and then to give it up. 
I need some tips/encouragement or something else.
I thinking that I might just have it in the car and I'll keep a basic phone on me with my number, this way I won't be walking around the whole day with it, and only at night I'll check up what I need to... Sounds like a good idea, but I still feel like it will be hard for me. Going to a flip phone, hard to text...

Any ideas? Any advice? All are welcome. But I feel like only someone that had/has a smartphone would really understand me.

Thanks in advance
HappyYid

Hey HappyYid,
I gave up my iPhone 2 months ago and switched to a flip phone. I keep a "Waze phone" in my car which is phone with a filter that only allows Waze, nothing else, not even calling or texting. I'm extremely into tech so this was a big move for me.
I thought it would be harder but I have found it quite liberating. There's a certain freedom with getting rid of it, it's hard to describe but I hope you experience it. You get used to texting really quickly.
I think you should do it. Since I gave mine up my opinion is that anyone that doesn't need a smartphone should give it up. If only because it gives you part of your life back, you are no longer a slave to a device in your pocket.
Just my $0.02. Feel free to reach out if you want to talk more about it, bhyy@protonmail.com.
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