HappyYid wrote on 29 Oct 2021 01:25:

I’m very sorry to here. May you be matzliach.
May I ask, l’toeles, whether a wife minds/cares/is upset if her husband masterbates? I understand pornography, but I don’t understand masterbation.
For me, knowing how destructive porn is for marriage helps me stay away, but masterbating has become more common for me as I just view it as any old aveira which won’t directly affect relationship with a wife.

Thanks

Wives care because it makes them feel like they're not providing what the husband needs. Actually they aim much higher, they want him to think that she's God's gift to him. Other reasons too: it's assur, they're concerned about what he's thinking about it while he masturbates, and on and on.

YeshivaGuy wrote on 05 Nov 2021 20:40:

I think, to put it blunt... (At least my wife) considers it kind of like I'm cheating on her when I masturbate. Which if you think about it, is kind of true...

HappyYid wrote on 29 Oct 2021 01:25:

Thanx for sharing, I feel for you.
Interestingly, I am holding pretty close to the big 180 and I am kind of teetering... Trying to hang in there at least till then. I have also pretty much stopped posting and only pop in on the forums occasionally these days... 
I need to focus on the long term more than the streak. As well as remembering how hard it can be to get back up after a fall.

Day 13 bh. 

After stepping away from GYE for a few months I feel like there's a whole new world of people here, amazing!
I feel like a new guy in a new Yeshiva lol

But bh things are going good. I'm just very busy and don't have the time like I used to have...

I 'by mistake' had access to an unfiltered device for some time, but now took care of that so hopefully things will be only good.

Good to be back here, I missed it.

Good night
Happyyid

YeshivaGuy wrote on 05 Nov 2021 20:40:

It's never too late...

Like others were saying; typically people think of other women (or men) while masturbating so that would make my wife feel like I love someone else besides her, which obviously is not too good of a feeling. 
It gives my wife pleasure when I 'let it out' with her knowing that I'm thinking of her. Masturbating by myself tells her that there is someone else that I am thinking of. 

So no, don't do it; it will affect your relationship with your wife. 
But also the fact that she knows it's assur, and that it's a big aveira is not too good either..

We miss you here on the forum, like you used to be, I hope you are doing well.

Hatzlacha!

Hello!

Sapy wrote on 08 Feb 2022 04:27:

Welcome back!!

Day 14. 
Staying strong.

Back in the day posting regularly really help me stay clean for a long time, so I think I should try that again, but I don't have the time...I have to make time.

Good night

Had a slip. 
Starting the count again.

Good night 

It's amazing how hard this struggle can be.

But I (try to) believe that it's possible to get out of.

I gotta do more effort.

I miss being here more often

Have a good night!

It is possible to get out. I did not think I had a way out. I was completely under the influence of my desires. Bh with hashems help that is no longer the case.

Same with me B"H, I am doing it daily and it is working (roughly 2 months)! Just with time and effort of what you may need to target to not fall or lead to it will help alot. Hatzlacha Rabah!!