I am starting the 90 days. I hope to be bezras hashem this year in miron for lag beomer. although I don't feel much will power now to overcome this struggle, I decided to start a 90 day jurney to try to get clean. I will need much chizuk. but even one day is worth. I hope in zchus of the rashb"ee I will get closer to become clean.
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Hatzlocha!
Please continue to share your journey with us.
Hopefully it will help to be a preparation for your whole life, not just lag beomer.

what I meant is, that lag beomer was an incentive to start already.

when all have hisoreros from many things. some it will be a zman like Shabbos or yom tov. another will it be a yeshuah that he needs. people grow from all these hisoreros.

we take any hisoreros as min hashomayim, regardless of what was the cause.

Amen. Why don't you share a little of your struggle with us?
What works for you?

to be honest I haven't tried lately much. I can say that in the last 2 years didn't put much effort to get clean.
I have struggles with fantasies and acting out. also shmiras einayim.

although I have a desire for porn and watched a few times, I don't have the challenge on a daily basis. that is because the filters that are installed on my devices. but I watched many love movies on the web.

I had month that this was less often, like 2-3 times a month. but lately it is more like 2- times a week.
I am married with many lechtige kinderlach b"h.

so what more?

welcome,

"What more?"

what have you tried in the past in order to recover?
What worked? What didn't?
Is your life unmanageable because of this 'issue'?

b'hatzlachah

don't be a stranger.

hi,
day one is over. I felt like a cloud around me. I don't know why. like something telling me don't don't don't all day. I don't usually think about this much till now. but this day was like in a fear!!

but bh it is over. today things are calming down. and be"h I will try to take a day at a time or an even an hour at a time.

cordnoy, you asked if my life is unmanageable? well bh it is manageable. and don't foresee that this issue should cause my life to become unmanageable.

Hi Lomed,

If your issues with lust are sporadic and infrequent, perhaps the hisoirerus a Meron etc. will help. If your struggle is more frequent and regular, one hisoirerus even a big one isn't likely to change you life. when we run to feed our lust regularly we need to investigate what is driving us there. There usually is a much deeper answer than, "I like hot women"

Eli

what do you have in mind by much deeper answer?

Every one has different issues. For me, I had unfortunately developed the habit of running to porn as a way of self medicating to deal with stress. If I didn't/don't (still working on it and probably always will be) learn to deal with stress I will have a much harder time dealing with the addiction (in my case it's an addiction). It's not just a matter of filters. Filter don't solve the problem they treat a symptom

(Disclaimer: Filters are great and should be used, but if the root problem is not addressed, the filter will not stop you from lusting)

the message that I am getting from the rabonim is that without a filter no one can be trusted. ur saying that is for someone that is not an addict. but for someone that is an addict a filter will not help. right?

Correct

Ha boteiach b'libo k'sil yikarei if there is another path and one goes past a house of immorality one is a rasha. The definition of darka achrina is a question.

When it come to an addict although gedarim can help they don't treat the root issue. Making too many gedarim often goes together with ignoring the real issue.

bh I m at day 5 and still clean.

however I am somewhat in this fear of fall area. meaning that some kind of obsession (that I never have) is telling me all day, watch watch don't fall don't fall.

it is a bit annoying.

Isn't that better than the obsession that tells you "Fall! Fall!"?