Would be curious about the oilams opinion of marriage to multiple wives like they used to do back in the day, would it help a persons sexuality? Or make it worse?
would people need gye? Or people will have their sexual needs met more often in different ways??

would love to hear everyone's thoughts and opinions 

Same underlined problems 

movingforward22 wrote on 30 May 2023 15:41:

If you would have 2, you would post about having 3. If you would have 3, you would wonder about 4.

I'm seeing you focus alot on different areas you feel deprived, and wanting comfort about it. All these thoughts, crossed all our minds, and still do, but as the oilam repeatedly responds, there will always be something you won't have.

You are going about it the wrong way my friend. 

There's a reason why a porner is constantly seeking something new. Something more exciting, fetishes and the like. The more we get, the more we will want & require to sustain that high. Open your favorite porn site, for the first few minutes you will find pleasure in some "regular" clips, within a few minutes you'll probably be wildy searching for new and wild new ideas you can come up with. Your brain is attempting to experience that high again, but it needs something new and fresh.

The issue isn't what we aren't getting, it's us. It's you! Yes!! 

Rather than focusing on futile attempts to make peace with what you don't or can't have, learn to have a satisfying and fulfilling experience with what you do or will have.

@grant400 this was literally supposed to be an INTELECTUAL  conversation, labeling me as deprived! and judging me i put this in the just having fun forum for a reason, to have fun not to get bashed 

like it says in pirkey avos 'omer al rishion rishon' vaal acharon acharon- answer on topic

movingforward22 wrote on 30 May 2023 15:41:

This is what our sages say "מי שיש לו מנה רוצה מאתיים, מאתיים רוצה ארבע מאות"
I believe that it would make it harder, much harder. Think about it, the purpose of a husband is to give not to receive, by having another wife one would need to give even more (how much love can one person give?)
2nd The wives would be miserable + constant coopetition who gets the most.
3rd A wife is a soulmate, not an s* object, how many soulmates can one have?

movingforward22 wrote on 30 May 2023 18:08:

My intention wasn't to call you names, my apologies if your feelings were hurt. I'm attempting to help you.

Intellectual or not, the underlying point is the same. You can get insulted, reduce my karma and all, but if you want to grow and change, you might do well by heeding the advice being offered to you by many here.

I believe I mixed you up with a different user. My sincerest apologies. My response is still the same but the way I wrote it is wrong.

Please forgive my overzealousness, it comes from a good place. 

I would say if you were married to another wife and your wife was married to your neighbor, you would crave her like crazy.

Think about it.

movingforward22 wrote on 30 May 2023 15:41:

When my wife is tired or not in the mood for sex, she can tell me that chaval I don't have 2 wives.

With 2 wives, we might end up having sex more often, and it could be that each wife would try to show off better in bed, but, I don't think that it would cure the problem.
2 wives, pretty wife, better sex, more sex...…. just name it, didn't show that it lowers our drive to lust after other women.
By abstaining from self pleasure and from the awful and the most addictive drug called porn, you will start to enjoy something called life.

doingtshuva wrote on 31 May 2023 01:54:

I find it very appropriate to quote your signature here:
"אָמַר רַבִּי יוֹחָנָן: אֵבֶר קָטָן יֵשׁ לוֹ לָאָדָם, מַרְעִיבוֹ — שָׂבֵעַ, מַשְׂבִּיעוֹ — רָעֵב" 

If I would have two wives, instead of working 40 hours a week I would need to work 80 hours to support them, and I would have no time for sex  

Is anyone considering the issue of having TWO SHVIGGERS????

Life will also be double SHVER

Yeshayahu 41:6 wrote on 04 Jun 2023 03:21:

Problem solved! guardyoureyes.com/forum/15-The-Torah-amp-Chizuk-Approach/394191-sister-in-law

doingtshuva wrote on 04 Jun 2023 14:02:

Ba-dum. Tss!!!