As opposed to Black Jellybeans


I assume

  

Alright, i'd love to have my cake and eat it too, but  

"Of course you're writing the current chapter, so don't get lost in the ones yet to be written"

Stillgoing inc. is currently having technical issues so I'm going to post the thread he sent me.   

Since I put it up stillgoing is going to have to be the one to argue.

inastruggle wrote on 03 Jun 2016 22:33:

Easier said than done.-sg 

You haven't been around long enough

markz wrote on 06 Jun 2016 02:43:

It was written by Kaye Gibbons 

stillgoing wrote on 06 Jun 2016 02:25:

Yeah, i agree.

I'm gonna go clean up my neighbor's cat from under my car,  and just move on

stillgoing wrote on 06 Jun 2016 02:25:

How can you say that mistakes are not good or bad? They are not neutral.

I think there is an obvious difference between planned "mistakes" and past ones. We cannot say "I have a mistake scheduled for 8:00 when my wife goes out", but when we are looking back on last night, or even last hour, it's not helpful to start labeling the mistake/fall as good or bad, just as a mistake. Calling it good will disillusion us, and calling it bad will depress up. Neither of these emotions are helpful for recovery. 

stillgoing wrote on 06 Jun 2016 14:59:

And what about recognizing it for what it is to do t'shuva?

mirror wrote on 06 Jun 2016 15:17:

I hope Hashem will give me the chance one day when I'm truly sober to really do proper teshuva. Untill then I am working on step one of teshuva which is azivas hacheit (stopping the sin). When I've learnt how to stop I can begin to work on charuta (regretting) and viduy (spelling out what i've done). But to do that now would be tovel im hasheretz b'yodu (immersing in a mikva with the source of the impurity in one's hand. In this case an active lust problem).