Hey! All you married folk, get outta here!  This is for singles only. Gosh, you addicts are so hard to deal with. 

In all seriousness, I find that connecting with other singles has been beneficial for me. While lust isn't any different if you're married, and marriage doesn't solve the problem, the life experiences of singles and married people are different. Although, one of my closest friends in recovery has a kid my age and is married. But I still think that connecting with other singles is helpful.

I agree with shlomo that there is something different about talking to other single addicts. Now that has been brought up i'm not sure why there is an exclusive married men forum but we single guys can't a forum for just singles without married men sticking in...
It might be a better idea to either create a private chat room specifically for single men or maybe we exchange emails and have a chat group...

360gye wrote on 27 Jan 2017 15:58:

Because the married guys would never allow it.

Shlomo24 wrote on 27 Jan 2017 18:45:

I don't mean to interrupt your party and I don't mean to be mean and if you feel I am then I could tell you how to minus my karma

You guys are living in dreamland

Single and married guys talk the same language and can share the forum together

The only reason heres a BB forum is for sensitive married topics which single guys don't need to be part of

However you may make your own group
Then make one for Guys in Shidduchim...
Then make another group for people that porn only on wednesdays etc 

360gye wrote on 27 Jan 2017 15:58:

Just to point out that married men were single once too, so we know what it's like. 

mark, why do teens have their own forum then??

Markz wrote on 27 Jan 2017 19:05:

I just want to make clear that I was joking, btw. This got way too serious for me. I do appreciate having the company of other single guys, and I also don't like it that much when people join conversations that really aren't for them to be a part of. But in terms of this thread, I was joking.

360gye wrote on 27 Jan 2017 15:58:


Certainly, you are right that there is 'something different about talking to' other people who are closer to the exact situation that you are dealing with. I talk to everyone, but I get more from taking to fellow ssa guys, because they understand better exactly what I'm going through. A single guy might relate better to another single guy (btw, those married guys probably still remember the single days too). It's a nice idea to make a dedicated thread (which I will try to keep away from as per the rules), but the exact line that I was responding to was written in the first post in this thread.  it said


That was the line that I felt was a mistake. The details of our struggles are different for sure, but any married man on gye l will tell you that marriage does not make it easier.

There is no doubt that finding a person, (sponsor/partner) with a very similar situation and MO and background, who is in recovery, is something that would make us most comfortable in sharing and feeling that we are understood.
Having said that, lust is lust, and i don't recall that being married stopping me from doing much when the lust bubble was in charge and running the show.

So I feel like I know better. ;-)
I was single, married and now single again (divorced). So I definitely belong here in this thread. Dovid Hamelch taught us that having sex, even in a kosher manner, will raise our temptations. So married guys may be in a more difficult situation. In either case, I feel like it's more difficult for me after having been married and being exposed to the mitzvos/"kosher lusts".