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Re: Doing business with women...what to do? 31 Dec 2014 15:46 #246284

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I can't remember the name, but there was a thread that spoke about this issue in the depth.
I learnt from that thread that women don't dress immodest for us, most of them have a partner or married and are very satisfied with there relation, and wont bother messing it up.

Working in a women environment can make us crazy, we want to look and look and look, but does the look do any good?
When I meet with women which its part of my job, I use there family names, It's also more according to the Haluche.

maybe Cordony remembers the name of the thread?

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Re: Doing business with women...what to do? 31 Dec 2014 16:55 #246285

Shmeichel Current streak: 980 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Smiling to YOU! Posts: 256 Karma: 18	the family name of it is: GYE
	when going forward gets tough, its merely a sign that you are going uphill, just give more gas put your sobriety first; before your wife, before your kids, before your avodas HaTorah (except for the 3 that are יעבור ואל יהרג) Without sobriety you won't have any of those things!

Re: Doing business with women...what to do? 02 Jan 2015 14:45 #246484

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ya
but I'm looking for his first Name

It's like when we were small and we called a friend on the phone, then the mother picks up and we forget the first name of our friend, so we just wait or we hang up.

Last Edit: 02 Jan 2015 14:47 by doingtshuva.

Re: Doing business with women...what to do? 02 Jan 2015 20:20 #246491

Shmeichel Current streak: 980 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Smiling to YOU! Posts: 256 Karma: 18	you've gotta be extra cautios with them first names
	when going forward gets tough, its merely a sign that you are going uphill, just give more gas put your sobriety first; before your wife, before your kids, before your avodas HaTorah (except for the 3 that are יעבור ואל יהרג) Without sobriety you won't have any of those things!

Re: Doing business with women...what to do? 02 Jan 2015 20:24 #246493

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MR DT,

sorry, but I'm not into the whole figurin' out why they dress immodestly and how to react and stuff. It doesn't interest me much; as long as they keep doin' it, i'm fine.

Our job to live life regardless.

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Re: Doing business with women...what to do? 04 Jan 2015 19:43 #246530

Shmeichel Current streak: 980 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Smiling to YOU! Posts: 256 Karma: 18	cordnoy wrote: MR DT,as long as they keep doin' it, i'm fine. though we are not allowed to lie, we dont have to say the whole truth
	when going forward gets tough, its merely a sign that you are going uphill, just give more gas put your sobriety first; before your wife, before your kids, before your avodas HaTorah (except for the 3 that are יעבור ואל יהרג) Without sobriety you won't have any of those things!

Re: Doing business with women...what to do? 04 Jan 2015 20:32 #246533

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Sorry, but I didn't understand what I said wrong?

I believe that understanding a bit the way women act and dress, can help us men to control our eyes .

Re: Doing business with women...what to do? 04 Jan 2015 20:53 #246536

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You didn't say anythin' wrong.

It happens to be that I disagree; knowin' why they do what they do doesn't change my responsibility a bit.

There are those who may say that you are attemptin' to shift the blame away from us; I am not so smart, but it might be somethin' you should consider analyzin'.

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Re: Doing business with women...what to do? 04 Jan 2015 22:10 #246539

Shmeichel Current streak: 980 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Smiling to YOU! Posts: 256 Karma: 18	doingtsuvah i was reffering to cordnoy let me tell yah doin business with them women aint easy in any case special when its direct face to face in a quiet corner etc... where the situation requires contact for a period of a time, and where the same customer comes back constantly
	when going forward gets tough, its merely a sign that you are going uphill, just give more gas put your sobriety first; before your wife, before your kids, before your avodas HaTorah (except for the 3 that are יעבור ואל יהרג) Without sobriety you won't have any of those things!

Re: Doing business with women...what to do? 04 Jan 2015 22:30 #246541

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Shmeichel, I think DT's statement was intended for me.

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Re: Doing business with women...what to do? 07 Jan 2015 16:29 #246766

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I'll try to explain myself,
Women in general can trigger us, but if they are dressed immodest they trigger even more.
It's their beauty or way of dressing that is playing with our triggers.
So if you can teach yourself that a old fat lady and a young nice sexy women are both daughters of Hashem, they both have life and family, they (the young) dress like this not because they are looking to get our attention, this is just the way they would get dressed even if they were going to a Women only gathering.

They will get very mad and upset if they would feel or know that we are lusting after our customers.

Makes sense?

Re: Doing business with women...what to do? 07 Jan 2015 19:10 #246776

Shmeichel Current streak: 980 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Smiling to YOU! Posts: 256 Karma: 18	very well said thumbs up for dt
	when going forward gets tough, its merely a sign that you are going uphill, just give more gas put your sobriety first; before your wife, before your kids, before your avodas HaTorah (except for the 3 that are יעבור ואל יהרג) Without sobriety you won't have any of those things!

Re: Doing business with women...what to do? 08 Jan 2015 08:23 #246813

redfire OFFLINE Senior Boarder Posts: 65 Karma: 4	Its true women get DISGUSTED when they realize a man is lusting after them. Although my wife admits that women do feel good and even desire to get noticed because of their beauty be it from their husband other men or even other women.

Re: Doing business with women...what to do? 08 Jan 2015 16:42 #246827

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redfire wrote:

Its true women get DISGUSTED when they realize a man is lusting after them. Although my wife admits that women do feel good and even desire to get noticed because of their beauty be it from their husband other men or even other women.

I would like to add that actually every person wants to feel Noticed,
kids, grownups, men and also women.
We should even give them (the women) the feeling that they were noticed,I mean when you are handling with them.
We have to be a Mench.

Last Edit: 08 Jan 2015 16:43 by doingtshuva.

Re: Doing business with women...what to do? 08 Jan 2015 16:48 #246830

Shmeichel Current streak: 980 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Smiling to YOU! Posts: 256 Karma: 18	100% noticed, respected, complemented but not lusted
	when going forward gets tough, its merely a sign that you are going uphill, just give more gas put your sobriety first; before your wife, before your kids, before your avodas HaTorah (except for the 3 that are יעבור ואל יהרג) Without sobriety you won't have any of those things! Last Edit: 08 Jan 2015 16:48 by Shmeichel.