Hi,

Do you use a filter for your smartphone? if so, can you tell me what filter you use & if you like it, what the pros & cons of that particular filter are etc? I use k-9 on my computer but was told it isn't all that great on a phone as one must use their browser.

Mobicip was suggested by someone. Anyone here use that?

thanks

All filters are full of holes that a desparate addict will figure out, when he gets desperate enough.
Are you prepared to be honest with yourself and make hard decisions like giving control of your internet access to someone else? Prepared to acknowledge when you need the Internet blocked at specific times, or even have sites that you "need" blocked all the time?
A filter is not a recovery program. It is a tool you can use to prevent you from making too many stupid decisions.
That said, I use qustodio.

Thanks for your reply. I am well aware of the difference between a filter and recovery program. For me, filters play a part in my program.

TAG office recommends and installs a filter that should be relatively good. I think it is called livingjen. You can call their confidential Hotline at 718 CALL TAG 718-225-5824.

It looks like GYE endorses VCF, and being grateful to GYE it should be considered.
People here say it's the best.
Another option is netspark - heard good things about it.

Two other solutions I found and actually tested:
www.secureteen.com - they seem to have a "free account"
www.mobilefence.com - they are free until Nov. 1st, not sure what will happen after.

They both provide a web interface to control each device.

I did not find a way to restrict youtube to only non-triggering videos so I disabled the YouTube app altogether and also the completely disabled browsing to youtube.com.

I actually cried after disabling youtube altogether because it was admitting that I'm so weak and helpless that I need to block this site completely..

By the way, one of these services blocked the gye site (guardyoureyes.com/) and I had to manually allow it.

My question to others here: I understand that GYE has a "filter gabay". How does that work? I want to surrender my password to someone.
One option is my wife, but I don't know if that is such a good idea.

Hodesh Tov

u774g wrote:


Look what a jerk the YH is. He tells you you're crying b/c you're weak helpless and a piece of garbage.

You know why you were crying? 180 degrees להיפך!
Because you had the strength to say stop!!
Because your neshama was crying tears of freedom.

Most of the world is weak and helpless shackled for life to the lust garbage truck
You broke free! Thats a frightening and an emotional experience for sure, but an impressive one!!

About the filter. Why not ask your wife, as long as you're not planning to ask her repeatedly she should be ok with it as mine was.
Idk about any gabai, if you need a partner I'm happy to offer as I have already done previously here

markz wrote:


You are so right. There was also a lot of joy in those tears.
But I has to understand that I am weak in order to have the strength to impose such an extreme measure on myself. (I know that people here went through much more extreme measures, but for me this was a big step)
No, I didn't feel "a piece of garbage".
I was proud to be strong enough to admit my weakness and understand that I need help.

By the way, things are getting a lot better since I joined GYE about a month ago.
Ups and downs, though.. hopefully will start a thread with more details.

markz wrote:

I did give my wife the password for the filter at home.
This was my main Rosh Hashana resolution this year (a month back).
But then I read in the forum that there are mixed opinion about how much to share with the wife. I told her that I want to reduce my exposure, but I'm not sure that she's aware of the extent of my sickness.
The filter at work is something else and I was worried that if she has to take care of too many passwords she will get a better sense of what was going on and will feel betrayed.

I'll think about it a little more, as of this moment I feel that I can trust her with all the passwords.
There one person that I surely cannot trust with this and that is myself .

Shabbat Shalom