I've noticed that a lot of people (myself included) having a harder time on shabbos afternoons, so i want to say some stuff that are working for me and if anyone else has some ideas that are working for them then please post.

The things that might be causing it to be a bit harder
1)there's less physical activity on shabbos
2)a lot of unstructured time without being able to do some things that would normally keep us busy
3)the shabbos nap that a)puts you in bed when you aren't so tired b)keeps you up later at night c)makes you a bit sleepier when you get up (that's the way it is for me, at least for a while after i wake up)
4)maybe that shmiras einaim is harder because everyone is dressed up

so far what i've been doing.
1)trying to take a long walk
2)trying to learn a bit more, i try to do things that are light and interest me like pirkei avos, nach,and small dvar toras on the parsha
2)reading kosher magazines (there may be problems with reading the news section on shabbos), biographies, and plain kosher fiction
(like the tale of an emu and giraffe soon in a store near you)
2)maybe find a shiur
3)i decided not to go to sleep at all during the afternoon

another thing i found helpful was to learn in a shul and not at home, it's fuller there plus i find that i think about lust less there.


if anyone has any ideas please post since these aren't really filling up the whole afternoon especially since i'm not sleeping.

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Gevura:

uhhh you messing wit me? cause you better not be messing wit me...

See what happens when you take a looooong Shabbos nap and then you're up late and bored?

I have no idea where you live, but I know that in my area there are a million and one shalosh seudos's (no idea how to write that in the plural :-) ) for bochurim/teenagers. Find one and go to it- that'll take up the last hour and a half-2 hours of Shabbos afternoon.

Try meditation..

I find the best thing is to learn with a chavrusa. Boruch Hashem, I've never had a mishap on Shabbos. After Shabbos is a different story... no matter how amazing my Shabbos was.

for me it doesn't work. first of all the say in hebrew that if you eat cholent you are "chayav-mitah".... (ok not missa - moves. but mitta - bed to sleep)
as far as magazine - as you said it is a problemic idea - especially when you can't avoid the advertiesments there.
taking a walk? is shabbos becoming our exesise day?
finnaly learning. beside the point that except of parsha/shnaim mikro i have a very short daly learning (nach) other than that i don't open a sefer unless i need to learn with my boys (or i find another even-hoezer tshuva) the ר"ת of the word שב"ת we all know it's either שינון בשבת תענוג or שינה בשבת תענוג. r' yaakov galinsky said i's not a stira. you can be יוצא ידי שניהם. just open the sefer & fall asleep on top of it... (better מס' שבת or כתובות, the other ones are not as thik pillow)

צדיק גמור wrote:

Better than our masturbation day - no?

if you take a walk after the cholent (especially to an air conditioned beis medrash) then i don't find it too hard to stay up.

Rema shin aleph, sif beis says it's mutar to go on long walks.

about the advertisements, i think i remember reading in the daily halacha discussion that it isn't l'katchilah and b'nei torah should rather learn, BUT if your wife and kids enjoy it then ain mochin. I would assume that if it stops us from hirhurim then it's probably pashut that it's muttar.
Also if before shabbos you cover the advertisements or take the pages out, (this is easier in some magazines than others, it would be a lot less problematic (though lav davka l'katchilah))

about the learning, there are plenty of good english seforim on all sorts of interesting topics.Also there are plenty of gedolim story books and biographies.

DISCLAIMER: I don't take responsibility for the following links, since i don't know about this site, but the articles i linked to seem to be ok.


here's an article about newspapers on shabbos:
torahmusings.com/2012/11/newspapers-on-shabbos/

here's one that mentions walks:

torahmusings.com/2013/01/shabbat-changing-one/

gibbor120 wrote:
i don't have "masturbation day" i do it 24/7

so don't

Tzaddik Gamur:

what happened to joy in learning? is Shabbos just a day of torture due to restrictions, or is it a day of spiritual growth and regeneration?

yes you are a chacham-man

For starters, try taking a nap for the same time and duration as your wife, and think about a short nap followed by a walk with your wife,and arrange for a seder in some area of Torah followed by Mincha and Seudah Shlishis.