Hey it is my first time posting here I have been struggling since I was 11 and I have two questions. I am starting my Shana Bet and I realized last year that my thoughts would take me over a lot more since i did not have access to a computer in Yeshiva so whenever I tried to focus in shiur I would get inappropriate thoughts and it really is messing with me spiritually and mentally. Does anyone have advice on how to control these thoughts aside from hesech hadaas because I tried that and although it works sometimes it is only one plan so I would like more strategies on fighting these thoughts. Secondly although I am not in shidduchim just yet I am approaching that tekufa in life and was thinking is it healthy or unhealthy to imagine what my future wife will be like since thinking about her might stop these thoughts. If anyone has advice i would really appreciate it!!!

Hey there, congrats on taking this huge step of posting!!! For many it was the first step towards true freedom.

About your thoughts I don't really have advice on how to stop them, but I can tell you that if you are not currently watching then slowly but surely these thoughts - which usually are triggered by the pornography we have flowing through our blood - should slow down a lot. Not to say you will never get them but they should come way more often.

Please stick around and keep us posted. Read some other stories that connect with you. It can be really helpful.

Hatzlacha Raba!

Advice for first question I dont have. Try out what SSSL said.
As for your second question, I did that before I was married. Still led to masturbation. Not worth it.

See Chapter 43 in The Battle of the Generation guardyoureyes.com/ebooks/item/the-battle-of-the-generation.